American Spanking Society

Moved

2009-05-13T23:40:00.000-07:00

Hello Spanko Friends,
We're finally making the move! This will be our final post on our blogger site. Your browser should automatically take you to our new site at: americanspankingsociety.com where you'll find the new A.S.S. blog. We invite you to change your bookmarks... and your links... and we will see you there!

hugs,
Todd and Suzy

Diet Update

2009-04-28T23:58:00.000-07:00

DD Pics

2009-04-28T22:50:00.000-07:00

Kentucky Derby

2008-05-03T23:30:00.000-07:00

Neither one of us has ever been much into horse racing. Since we've been together though, we have always made it a point to watch the Kentucky Derby. The pageantry and history of the race make it quite a spectacle, even on TV (though we'd love to see a race in person one day!).

Of course, we always have liked making the race a little more interesting. In Arizona, that meant a 5 minute drive to an off-track betting site... and putting $10 or $20 each on the race. Was fun to see who did the best.

Here in Florida, living in a small town, there isn't a local spot to place a small wager on the race though. So instead, we watched the race here at home... and came up with our own bet. We each picked a horse. If Suzy's horse did the best... she'd earn a good girl spanking with all the extras. If Todd's horse was the higher finisher... it would mean a hard spanking for Suzy (with any implement besides the wood paddle).

Suzy's pick... Eight Belles (she liked the Filly)

Todd's pick... Colonel John

Suzy's horse came in second place, Todd's fished 6th. So, Suzy wins her good girl spanking!

Of course, her horse broke both legs at the end of the race and had to be euthanized. Very sad. But the girl horse sure came through for Suzy's bottom.

Are there Spankings in Heaven?

2008-05-02T23:57:00.000-07:00

Since we all know where bad girls go... and we know spankers end up enjoying a significantly more comfortable afterlife climate... we have to ask... are there spankings in heaven? What do you think?

:)

Enjoy the weekend!

Thursday Knight at the Roundtable

2008-05-01T23:47:00.000-07:00

*Admitting to Misdeeds*

Yesterday we shared how our recent weekend with our friend Jean went. If you didn't get a chance... we'd like to invite you to read yesterday's post... there was a bit of a monkey wrench thrown into the end of our time with Jean.

After Jean's supposed 'clean slate' spanking, she mentioned another naughty misdeed she'd committed. Jean absolutely should have come clean about this long before she did. Everything is 100% fine now. We're all good. But, her decision to hold back on telling us about her misdeed did create some stress at the time.

Jean's a good girl and her reasons for not telling sooner weren't at all mean spirited. It's not always easy admitting to a misdeed that will likely lead to a painful spanking. It's not just the actual spanking either. There might be emotions involved... embarrasment, guilt, shame. Then there are concerns about upsetting or disapointing the spanker.

This situation got us wondering how other spankos feel about a spankee 'busting' themselves. So, that's the topic for this week's Roundtable. We do warmly invite spankos of all stripes to share their thoughts and insights. Always a pleasure to hear what our spanko friends are thinking.

Here are a few questions to get the discussion going.

How difficult is it for you, or your spankee, to admit to a misdeed that likely will lead to a spanking? Has there ever been a situation where 'spankable information' has been held back? What's the toughest thing about admitting to a potentially spankable offense?

You can comment HERE, or you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. Please feel free to be as brief or detailed as you like.

We also have the Quick Response Poll, and would love to see your vote there too. Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!

a little R-n-R... and some DD

2008-04-30T23:21:00.000-07:00

If you've been reading the Diet Update posts you already know that we've been helping our friend Jean stay motivated to follow her special diabetic diet and to test and manage her blood sugar levels in accordance with her doctor's instructions. This last weekend we met with Jean to discuss her progress... and we thought you might enjoy hearing how things went.

By Todd

Going Down South
Suzy and I recently lucked into the chance to use a beach front condo anytime we'd like over the next six weeks. It's a beautiful place with a spectacular view. Everything we need is already there. It's also a large place, so the neighbors aren't too close. Provides extra privacy.

The only downside is that it's about a 6 hour drive south from us (and with the price of gas, ouch!). It's just too nice of an opportunity to pass up on though. This last Thursday we set things up so we could start the weekend early and head down to our temporary vacation home for a little R-n-R... and some DD.

Thursday evening and all day Friday were spent resting and relaxing in the sun and sand. Saturday morning Jean arrived. She got herself turned around and arrived a little over an hour late. She kept in touch by phone though, so her tardiness wasn't an issue. We were both just glad that she made it there okay. Both Suzy and I gave her a big hug and a warm greeting when she finally got to the condo.

Since Jean is a diabetic, she has to be careful about going too long between meals. So after resting for a few minutes the three of us headed off to find some lunch. Since Suzy had once lived near the area, she was the driver. Would be easier for her to find a restaurant. Right?

After wandering around the city for 45 minutes... lol... I finally told Suzy where to go. I knew where a Walmart was and figured there would be eating options close by. Near the Walmart we did spot a restaurant... a place called RJ Gators. Wish we'd have kept looking. The place is known for its alligator meat. But, just about everything on the menu was breaded and deep fried.

I settled on a turkey sandwich, which was so-so. Suzy was in full vacation mode though and she went for an extremely naughty variety plate that was filled with fried foods. Certainly an interesting choice given the fact that Suzy was owed *2* separate diet spankings... basically because she'd gained weight on two previous weekends away (and had asked to postpone her spankings, and I'd agreed... so long as they were given the next time we met with Jean).

Suzy also ordered a margarita, which is another vacation favorite of hers. This one must have been strong too, because Suzy was in a real 'happy' mood shortly after drinking it. She was giggling and teasing and having a good time. Jean joined in too... except for the teasing part. I think Jean was a little more cognizant of what was to come later in the day, especially since there were a few references to spanking during our meal.

After lunch, we headed back to the condo. Everyone seemed to be in a playful mood and since it was a warm day, I suggested a trip to the outdoor pool. After changing, off we went.

The pool at this complex is huge and it's always close to empty. The water is heated and there is a hot-tub. Very nice. The water was relaxing and Jean said it helped her knee feel better. After about an hour of swimming and relaxing, the three of us got in the hot-tub and that seemed to mellow everyone out.

Suzy Spanks Jean
The walk back to the condo was more of a run. Even though it was nice outside, there was a breeze and on our wet bodies it felt COLD. The condo has two showers though and in pretty short order everyone had rinsed off and gotten into dry clothes.

Jean was the last one out. As she walked into the livingroom, Suzy instructed her to sit in a chair opposite of the couch she and I were sitting in. Jean knew what that meant and offered a "yes Ma'am" as she took her seat.

Suzy and I both work together as a team to help Jean, but we each have our own approach. Suzy is a bit of a deal maker when it comes to being a disciplinarian... and I think that's because she's far more spankee than spanker. Whatever the case though, she had given Jean the chance to work off most of the spanking she was owed (from Suzy) with good behavior. Jean had taken advantage of the offer, and was *perfect* with testing at least 6 times a day and not skipping breakfast, lunch or dinner during the three weeks before our meeting.

That left only one issue Jean had to answer to Suzy about. Long story short... Jean had run out of testing supplies about a month earlier. Jean felt she had a valid reason for this and Suzy did not. The real problem though was that Jean had gotten pretty disrespectful about the disagreement.

Suzy was satisfied with how things worked out and the apology she'd received... but felt a small penalty was still owed. She explained this to Jean and scolded her not to ever do it again.

I sat next to Suzy, but I didn't directly participate. I just listened and observed. It was fascinating watching how Suzy handled the scolding. She asks very open ended questions... and she really focuses on the personal aspects of her friendship with Jean. How she is hurt when her friend doesn't take care of herself like she should... and how it bothered her to be treated rudely by Jean over a small disagreement.

Not the way I do it for sure, but I could see it had a real impact on Jean.

After their talk, Suzy told Jean that she was going to get a spanking. She told Jean to go into the master bedroom and I followed them both. I sat down in a chair as Suzy was telling Jean to remove her pants. She told her to leave her panties on and lay flat on the bed.

Suzy told Jean that she was going to get one spank from each implement we'd brought. It was a rather large collection as you can see. Suzy also told Jean she could keep her panties on during the spanking, because the words on them... 'Naughty Girl'... fit what Jean had done perfectly (these panties came from Paddle Master Products).

Again, this isn't the way I'd have done it. Panties on for a discipline spanking... lol... I think not!

Suzy started with the 'softer' implements, and worked her way up. She asked Jean to rate each implement on a 1 to 10 scale... with 10 being the worst. One spank with each thing doesn't sound like much, but Suzy isn't a soft spanker by any stretch. She pretty much walloped Jean with each implement, rarely getting any sort of low number in response.

Several things got a "10"... both wood paddles, both loopy johnnys, the lexan paddle... a few others. The worst had to be the mini-cane we have. Suzy gave Jean a pretty full force spank with that. *I* cringed and Jean let out a loud yelp. Left a little welt too. Ouch!

For a discipline spanking, it frankly seemed a little strange to me. It was totally different from previous spankings she's given Jean too. But, Suzy felt that Jean had stepped up and improved in the areas she was having her focus on... and thus that's all she deserved.

Not that the spanking didn't count mind you. Jean's bottom was red after her spanking.

Todd Scolds Jean
After Suzy was done spanking Jean, she offered a few minutes of aftercare. Jean got a little lotion on her bottom and some kind and encouraging words. Her discipline tally to Suzy was now paid in full.

When Suzy was done with Jean, I told Jean that her and I needed to have our talk now... and that she needed to take all of her clothes off and report back to the livingroom. I told her she could take a few minutes before coming out.

I didn't want Jean feeling comfortable and I didn't want her mind drifting back to what she'd just experienced with Suzy. I wanted her feeling unsure and vulnerable... so I could guide her mind to focus on the issues I was covering.

I left the room and grabbed the chair that Jean would be sitting in and moved it to within a few inches of where I was sitting. I know Jean was expecting the same comfortable seating arrangement she'd had for her talk with Suzy... and not to have me right on top of her personal space.

I heard Suzy and Jean talking in the bedroom but couldn't make out what they were talking about. After a few minutes Suzy walked out and sat down and Jean followed a moment later... completely nude just as I'd instructed.

I sat her down in the chair and made sure her injured knee was in a comfortable position. When she was settled, I told her how proud of her I was. When we had first started talking with Jean, she essentially never tested her blood sugar levels and she more or less ate whatever and whenever she liked. Her health was deteriorating because of it.

In the several months we've worked with her, Jean has come a long-long ways. She's made huge strides and is doing so much better. I wanted her to fully understand that I was aware of her success and couldn't be happier about it.

I leaned in though and told her that despite the improvement... she still was going to answer for her misdeeds. She said, "Yes, Sir."

There were four things I covered with Jean. In order...

1) Jean's rude treatment of Suzy. I told her that while I was happy that she understood her error, there was still going to be a price to pay for it. That her disrespectful tone had caused me stress... and had forced me to get involved in the problem. Even though her slate with Suzy was now clean over this matter... there was still a debt owed to me.

I told Jean I would simply not stand for any sort of disrespect. Suzy and I put a lot of time and effort into helping her... and all that I demand in return is respect for us both. Any failure in this area would result in a spanking. I asked Jean a few very direct questions to make sure she understood exactly what she was in trouble for.

2) Jean's slow start. Jean did a great job over the last several weeks, but her start was very naughty. I told Jean that, with me, there was no earning your way out of a spanking. Once a spanking is earned, it is given. I pointed out several specific examples of her misdeeds... including a decision to simply not test one day.

I also told Jean that it felt like it she was testing me. I'd given her a somewhat mild spanking last time, only to have her return home and immediately start misbehaving. Really almost from day one. The message seemed clear... I was being told that I didn't give a hard enough spanking. Message received.

3) Jean eating cookies. As a diabetic, Jean really has no business eating cookies. When she let that habit get out of hand, I made a new rule for her... she must get my prior approval before eating any cookies. 12 different times... TWELVE... Jean ate cookies without asking permission. The only time she actually asked for permission, I allowed her to have two cookies.

I asked Jean if she understood the rule about cookies... she did. I asked her if she understood what the penalty was for breaking the rule was... she said, "a spanking Sir." I asked if she realized these facts before she ate each of those TWELVE cookies... she said she did. I asked if that meant she was in fact picking to get a spanking for cookies, and that she was doing so despite the fact that all she had to do was ASK permission...

... she didn't want to answer that one, so I leaned close to her face and put my hands on her shoulders and said, "answer me, young lady." She admitted that she'd decided a cookie was worth a spanking.

Plus, the day before meeting us... Jean had 2 more cookies. I told her that I would make it my business today to make sure the 'spanking for a cookie' equation would be one she'll think twice about next time.

4) Jean not considering her own health. Jean has a bad knee that will need to be surgically repaired this summer. Her doctor told her to stay off her feet as much as possible. Jean lives in the real world though. and she needs to earn a living... so she's forced to spend time standing at her job. I understand that. However, a few weeks ago Jean fell down and further hurt her knee moving a huge outdoor plant. When that happened, I made it clear that she would get an extremely severe spanking if she were that reckless again. Household projects were 100% on hold until her knee was fixed.

About a week ago though, Jean decided to climb up on a chair and clean a ceiling fan. She didn't dare ask a family member to do it though, because that family member has a minor medical issue of their own and could get hurt. When it comes to her own health though, Jean was willing to risk it. I asked Jean though if she realized the impact her family and friends would have felt had she fallen off the chair. That these are the people that would have to care for her if she'd have fallen. Jean admitted that she hadn't considered that... and she got pretty choked up about it.

I also asked her if she recalled my warning before she climbed onto the chair and she confessed that she had. I pointed out to Jean that she not only put dust above her own health... but that I also felt she'd picked getting a severe spanking over having dust on a fan.

Todd Spanks Jean
Jean's scolding had been intense to say the least and I could tell it had made an impression on her. I wanted her to understand exactly why she was going to be punished. With that accomplished, I took Jean by the hand and gently pulled her to her feet and then led her to the bedroom. Suzy followed us in... and would later tell me how serious the mood felt.

In general, I prefer a discipline spanking to be given in a comfortable position. I don't want the focus being on a sore neck. With Jean though, because of her knee, I needed to take extra care. I sat on the bed, with my back resting on the middle of the headboard. I helped Jean into position over my lap. I placed a pillow under her head and made sure her legs were comfortable resting on the bed.

I asked Jean if her leg was okay in that position... she said, "yes, Sir." I asked if she was sure and she was. I made it clear to Jean that I expected her to use the 'safeword' if any issues with her legs/knee came up. She promised me she wouldn't hesitate.

I told Jean that it was now time to pay for the stress she'd caused by being disrespectful to Suzy. I told her that I took this incident very personally and so I was going to punish her in the most personal way I could... a hand spanking.

I lifted my hand and started to spank Jean's bare bottom. No pretense of a warmup. This was a discipline spanking and the point is to make it feel like a punishment from the very start. From the first spank, I'm spanking Jean's bottom hard.

Jean isn't much of a kicker or twister. She stays in position for the most part, which is good because I didn't want her putting strain on her knee. Jean is a bit of a 'talker' though. Sometimes her chatter is a bit on the direct side. As I was spanking her with my hand, she started saying "it hurts... it hurts."

I told her it hurt me when she was so disrespectful to Suzy and that I was also hurt when Suzy felt upset by the way she was treated. I think Jean got the point, because she then started say "I'm sorry, Sir... I'm sorry, Sir."

With her bottom now bright red, I told Jean she was going to get 10 final spanks with my hand. I instructed her to count... and say "I will always treat Suzy with respect" after each one. I held nothing back with these last 10... and the moment she was done counting one, I'd deliver the next spank.

I rubbed Jean's bottom for a moment after she was done with her 10 and told her that it was now time to pay for the slow start she got off to after her last spanking. I told her that I felt stung by her walking away from her last discipline spanking only to immediately return to breaking the simple rules that were for her own good.

I wanted her to feel some of that sting. That meant the Big Red ASS paddle (from Paddle Master Products). I didn't want to spank close to full force with it because the paddle isn't really designed for it. But I did spank very-very fast. Pretty much as fast as I could... and I knew that would get a reaction because Jean kept trying to swing her hand back to block.

It's easy enough for me to stop that though. I held one of her hands with my free left hand and then used my body to cut off the route of her other hand.

I also spanked in the same spot several times in a row, before moving to another spot and repeating. But really, this paddle is large enough that it covers most of the bottom anyway.

I didn't want to finish up this portion of the spanking with the Big Red Ass paddle though. I wanted the final spanks to be hard and I wanted them to make an impression. I picked up our 'Clapper Paddle'. This is a heavy implement and it creates a great deal of 'thud.' I told Jean she was getting 10 final spanks for her naughty start, Again she had to count and this time I had her say "I will follow my rules from the start."

Jean stumbled over the words after the 7th spank, so I repeated it. She had a little trouble with the last one too, as she was slightly sobbing. She did get the words out though.

Next up was the issue with cookies... which would prove to be the theme of the weekend. I'd already promised Jean that any spanking over cookies would be given with the leather CP Paddle (from London Tanners). As I switched from the Clapper Paddle to the CP Paddle I rubbed Jean's butt and scolded her.

Of all her misdeeds, this was the one that frustrated me the most. It wasn't just a one time issue, but rather something that she repeated several times. The fact that she'd decided to have two final cookies *the day before* she knew we were meeting really did upset me too. It felt like she was saying that her pending spanking didn't really concern her, at least not enough to pass up on a couple more cookies.

As I talked about those last two cookies, I ran my finger nails over her spanked bottom. She lifted her back up and groaned. I think Jean might have figured that she could have those last two cookies for 'free' too, since she realized her spanking was more or less 'maxed out.'

Not so quick though. I told Jean this spanking did ~not~ include those last two cookies.

The CP Paddle has a wicked bite to it, especially when it's used with some force. I really let her have it too. At the start, I didn't speak. Just spanked on one cheek and then the other. Back and forth. This paddle really creates a loud sound too.

Jean wanted to block the swats, but I made that effort fruitless. She exclaimed that she was sorry and wouldn't do it again. I asked her what she was sorry for... and she said, "sorry for eating the cookie, sir."

"I'm glad you're sorry, now that I'm whipping your ass for eating the cookies, young lady" ... as I continued to vigorously apply leather to Jean's backside... "but I need you to remember that there will be a price for blatant disobedience, no matter how sorry you get after the fact."

Jean struggled against the barrage against her bottom, but to no avail. She tried to block, she tried to bargain, apologize and plead. Finally, Jean broke down and started to cry. This was the first time I'd seen her cry during a spanking. She later told me that the pain in her bottom had a lot to do with it, but it was the fact that she knew that I was really disappointed and unhappy about what she did that pushed the tears out.

After a few more spanks, I told Jean that she was getting 10 more. Same deal... she had to count them out and this time she had to say "I will respect and obey all the rules."

I lifted the leather paddle into the air and held little back in bringing it down on her backside.

"One sir, I will respect and obey all the rules." As I continued, Jean took longer and longer to get the words out. But even though she was sobbing, she got them right all ten times.

While the incident with the cookies was a big deal, by far the most serious offense Jean committed was the final item to be dealt with during this spanking. Jean's decision, with a badly injured knee, to climb onto a chair to dust a ceiling fan really was reckless.

Jean knew that now, of course. But, she also knew it when she did it. Jean has a terrible habit of putting her own needs last... this time, behind even the dust on top of a fan.

I spent extra time rubbing her bottom. In part, I wanted to give her butt a short rest. I really wanted to emphasize how important it was for Jean to take care of herself. Think of herself.

Of course, I can only take a point so far verbally. Jean needed to get a physical sense of how important I thought this was. To make that point, I selected the wood 'Baseball Bat' that we'd recently purchased (from Wood Paddles at woodpaddles@hotmail.com) . I'm told it has an incredible sting to it.

The first hard spank on her already sore bottom took Jean's breath away. I lifted the paddle and paused for a moment before landing it very solidly on her other cheek. I continued in rapid fire succession. Jean struggled and cried, but maintained her position.

She bellowed out, "I'm sorry sir."

As I spanked, I asked, "What are you sorry for, young lady?"

Jean had no answer or at least was unable to get it out.

"Are you sorry for not valuing your own health young lady?" "y-y-yes sir." Are you sorry for ignoring the impact your reckless decisions can have on others... 'yes sir.'

After I'd made myself quite clear I told Jean it was time for the final 10. I told her they'd be given with the wood discipline paddle... which she hates. (as does Suzy)

She asked if I'd "please skip it, sir." lol... I had to appreciate the "please" part. As polite as it was though, I had to decline. Jean was getting the final 10.

I instructed Jean to count and say "I will start valuing my own health."

There is nothing nice about the wood discipline paddle. Spank number one had Jean squealing A couple of spanks later Jean was trying to push herself away. Since she was using her hands and not her legs, I wasn't worried about her injuring her knee. I wasn't letting her get away though. I grabbed her shoulder and gently tugged her back into my lap.

Suzy gets a spanking
Jean did a perfect job counting, which I know couldn't have been easy. As I finished, Suzy exited the bedroom to get some ice. Jean's bottom had some light bruising and swelling. Her skin tends to mark rather easily and she is a spankee that needs a harsh spanking to feel punished. So, a certain amount of marking is just going to happen. Her skin held up pretty well though. Certainly now that her debt was paid... well, minus one small issue... we wanted to help her feel better.

I used ice on Jean's bottom, which melted pretty quickly. Suzy stroked Jean's hair and offered her soothing and encouraging words. After about 10 minutes, I switched from ice to lotion. It was definitely a very-very mellow mood.

After about 20 minutes or so though, Suzy started to get a little playful. She joked with Jean that it didn't look like her spanking really hurt that much. Jean, of course, begged to differ. I, of course, offered Suzy the chance to sample a spanking for herself.

Suzy admitted that she was thinking maybe she did want a spanking. That after all that watching, she was wondering if there was any way she could take one of her two discipline spankings now. I told Suzy that would be fine, so long as she understood there would be no discount. She'd be getting a very real discipline spanking... even though Jean would be watching.

Suzy thought about it and decided that she'd do it. She said she didn't want two discipline spankings on Sunday. I think that maybe Suzy really just wanted a spanking though. Of course, she could have just asked for a playful one. Since she didn't though, playful mood or not... alone or being watched... any discipline spanking would be just that. A discipline spanking.

I instructed Suzy to undress. She asked if I wanted everything off. Since Jean was sitting in a chair completely nude herself, I said, "That would only be fair, young lady." I seriously doubt Suzy agreed, but she did as she was told. Definitely could see a change in her attitude. Let's just say it got less playful and a little more "worried."

With trepidation, Suzy went over my lap. Luckily I still had the wood discipline paddle handy. I only scolded her briefly. Suzy knows what's expected and she knows what to do. Besides... she was owed another discipline spanking the next day.

I didn't have Suzy count. When she gains 1 pound or less on her diet, it's 10 spanks. This was a 10 spank spanking. But each of the 10 was extra hard. Suzy fought hard to not cry and I'm not sure she made it. Her bottom was nice and red by the end. Suzy took her spanking like a good girl though.

I asked Jean what she thought, and she said, "it was a hard spanking."

That it was.

Rest, and the rest of Saturday Night
After I was done spanking Suzy, I put some lotion on her bottom. Her bottom wasn't too bad though, so she was feeling better after about 15 minutes.

After I was done, I found my back was a little bit sore. I'd basically been sitting in the exact same spot... with someone laying over my lap... for an hour. Plus my hand was a little sore. I know spankees everywhere can sympathize with my plight... lol.

I did need to lay down though and rest my back for a bit. I slid Suzy from over my knees to my left side where I had her lay on my shoulder. I called Jean over and had her lay on my right shoulder. I rubbed each of their bottoms and hugged and comforted them both. It was a peaceful scene. And, I must say... I enjoyed having two lovely ladies with freshly spanked bottoms in my arms.

In less than 20 minutes, Jean had drifted off to sleep and then just a few minutes later Suzy followed. I guess I'm just that exciting!

I too ended up falling asleep. The three of us rested for about an hour.

Jean did need to get up and test her blood sugar level and eat though, so I woke both sleeping beauties up and told them to get dressed.

We ate sandwiches for dinner and spent some time online chatting with our mutual friend Missy. Missy asked Jean some really tough questions like... "Did it hurt?" and "Do you wish you wouldn't have dusted the fan?" lol, Missy is a sweet girl and her playful questions were a lot of fun.

The three of us mostly just talked though. Jean told us about some issues at her work right now and her summer plans. It was a very relaxing evening.

It had been a long day though. With the drive and swimming we'd all done, bedtime came pretty early. Suzy and I each hugged Jean goodnight and turned in. We left the sliding doors open, so the sounds of the ocean could flow through.

Sunday Morning Spankings
We all slept in on Sunday morning. Hey, it was the weekend. Breakfast was made in the condo. We talked about some possible things to do outside, but nothing sounded very appealing. Seemed like a real waste to not at least have some fun with the view though.

I decided to give Suzy a little playful spanking in front of the sliding doors... where we could hear the ocean clearly in the background. Nothing too hard. It was lots of fun though. Would be great to find a secluded beach, but this was the next best thing.

After our little bit of spanking fun, we started to clean up the condo a little. Didn't take too long to straighten up though. When we were done, all three of us sat down in the livingroom and relaxed for a bit.

There was still another issue to deal with though. Suzy was still owed a final diet discipline spanking... thanks to her naughty efforts on our previous visit with Jean. And then Jean was in trouble for having decided to eat 2 final cookies the day before meeting with Suzy and I.

I didn't offer Jean too much of a scolding, because the cookie issue had been well talked out. It did tell her though that she can never assume I'll only spank her one time per visit. If she's been naughty enough for it to take two separate spankings... or more... that's what will happen.

Suzy did get more of a scolding though. Or at least that was my intent. Her eating habits on the trip had actually been worse than they were last time. Suzy was in a feisty mood though. She was being silly and playful. That's normally fine, but during a discipline spanking... it's just not acceptable and she knows it.

I think though she was a bit embarrassed to be scolded and spanked in front of Jean, so she tried to lighten things up. Not a huge deal. I decided to handle it by taking the talk back to the bedroom.

I told both Suzy and Jean to remove just their pants. They could leave their underwear on. I didn't see any need for anything more to be removed.

I guided Jean over my lap and pulled her close to me. I made sure she was comfortable and then also helped Suzy onto my lap... right next to Jean. Before I even was able to start talking though, Suzy started teasing and laughing. Clearly her impending spanking wasn't having an impact though. So, I gave Suzy 2 or 3 hard hand spanks over her panties.

No change. If anything, she actually laughed louder. Now I gave her 6 or 8 hand spanks. Again though, it did no good. This time, I really let her have it. About 15 really hard hand spanks over her panties this time.

That did have an effect. It pissed Suzy off... lol... and she decided to get all mouthy. She started complaining that I was a miserable person that hated happy people. That kind of attitude is even worse than the teasing-fun one was.

I told Suzy, "I don't hate anyone. I do expect you to be a good girl though and take your spanking seriously."

That just brought more teasing. Ms Happy was back. This time she was met with a wood paddle though. I was tired of the game and Suzy got at least 10 hard spanks on her bottom (over her panties).

You'd think that would have worked. Not so much! NOW Suzy started to complain her spanking should be over!

I gave her 5 more *hard* ones... and had to fight to keep her flat over my knee to do so. I warned Suzy that I'd spank her like this all day long. She was now crying and upset, but she finally understood the message.

Meanwhile Jean just laid still and never said a word.

With the drama now over. I gave Suzy the scolding I'd intended. I know she did her best to ignore me, which is fine. It's her butt that gets spanked if she doesn't heed the warning.

I slipped Jean's panties down to her thighs and then Suzy's next. Her butt was already red.

Suzy was getting the wood discipline paddle, which is the only thing I use for diet spankings. She was owed only 10 spanks. For Jean, I decided on the rubber loopy-johnny. This thing is easily the harshest implement we own. I wasn't at all happy with Jean's decision to eat those 2 cookies though, and since she was only going to get 10... they were going to count.

I told them both that they had to count their spankings. There was too much math involved for me.

Jean got the first one and I made sure it was felt. As soon as the spank landed, I switched to the wood paddle and used it to spank Suzy's bottom. I switched back and forth. After Jean had said "3, sir"... Suzy got the wood paddle. Only instead of counting it as #3... she said "4, sir." I'm sure it was an honest mistake, but why risk it? Suzy got #3 again... and this time she counted it correctly.

By about spank #5 Jean was crying. Suzy tried her best to hold out... she hates showing emotion when she's mad. But she gave in too and started to cry herself.

The spanking was pretty short. It was over in less than 2 minutes. Both Suzy and Jean were sore though. I grabbed the lotion for the final aftercare session of the weekend. I took lots of time and I was as gentle as I could be.

A Final Surprise Spanking
After an extended session, we all again laid down together. Suzy finally started to relax. She wasn't thrilled with all the extra spanks, but I think she understood. Jean though, didn't seem comfortable. She seemed agitated. I asked if her leg was okay... she said it was. Did she need to test or eat... no. Was she too sore... no.

I asked if she was happy to have a "clean slate" now, and she didn't answer. I asked again, and she said "yes, sir."

Maybe she just didn't want the weekend to end.

In any case, we all laid in bed resting. I felt like it was a good end to the weekend. With it getting closer to lunch time, I asked Suzy to get up and go check on possible restaurant options. Have a meal together before the long drive. As she got up, I told Jean that I wanted her to take a quick shower. I'd been a little too generous with lotion and didn't want her to be uncomfortable on the way home.

Jean got up and took one step towards the bathroom and stopped. "Todd, there is something else I need to tell you."

"What is it?"

"On the drive up here yesterday, I ate two more cookies."

Yikes. Breaking the rules *on the way* to see Suzy and myself was bad. Not telling us right away that she'd done it was worse. Having lied and said she was happy to have a "clean slate" several minutes early though, was the worst. It, at its core, was a lie.

I was put into a tough-tough spot. Jean had received two HARD spankings and her poor bottom was pretty much worn out. Another spanking didn't seem fair. But, if I didn't do it... there would be no clean slate. Further, I'd JUST told her if she needed "two spankings... or more... in a single visit, that's what she'd get."

I called Suzy in and told her what was going on. Suzy was confused for a moment, then disappointed... then furious. She had no advice for me though.

For over a minute I thought about it. I didn't say anything and I didn't move. Jean just stood at my side waiting. I really did think long and hard about what to do.

Finally, I told Jean to remove her clothes. She pleaded for no more... but I told her that I'd already decided. If it takes three spankings to get your slate clean, that's what will happen.

This was easily the toughest spanking I've ever given. I really-really didn't want to spank Jean... but honestly felt the DD aspect of the friendship would be permanently damaged if I didn't.

I spanked Jean with my hand and the wood discipline paddle. Nothing fun at all about this spanking. But, I did make sure it was a very real and very hard spanking. No discounts.

Heading Home
After I was done spanking Jean, I offered her some brief aftercare. I had her stand up and I told her how hard it was to spank her. But, I told her that she did have that clean slate... and that I had forgiven her. She did something wrong, she took her punishment like a good girl... and I was ready to move on. I told her honestly though, she had to work things out with Suzy.

I let Jean get dressed and then sent her into the livingroom to talk with Suzy. I stayed in the bedroom and cleaned up and started packing. The two of them talked for about half an hour. Jean was very contrite. She admitted that she'd been too embarrassed to tell us what she'd done when we were face to face. She kept trying, but would lose her nerve.

It was a heart to heart and Suzy was honest about how she felt. She wanted Jean to know that this only worked if she always came clean about her misdeeds... and that she couldn't wait until the last minute to do so. Jean was truly sorry and at the end... she and Suzy gave each other a big-big hug.

Things were worked out, which made me feel good. After Jean showered, I had her lay over my lap on the couch and I put a little more lotion on her bottom for the drive home. Everything had come back around, but it was tense there for a bit.

The three of us closed out our time together with a very nice lunch. Jean and Suzy both had sore bottoms... but all in all... it was a wonderful R-n-R and DD weekend.

Diet Update

2008-04-29T18:13:00.001-07:00

This last weekend we went down south to spend some time at a beach front condo... and to also meet with our friend Jean. We'll be sharing more about how that went tomorrow, but as you might already know... Suzy was owed a diet spanking. Actually, she was owed two spankings.

One was earned the last time we'd met with Jean. Suzy had made some rather naughty restaurant decisions on that trip and it cost her a gain at the scales. She made a deal to postpone it until the next meeting with Jean though... which made some sense since perhaps a spanking then could help motivate better restaurant decisions. The other spanking was earned quite a while back, and it had been postponed for a few different reasons.

So with all that hanging over her head, you'd figure Suzy would be a really good girl with her diet. You'd be wrong though!

The list is a long one. There were 3 McDonald regular cheeseburgers and 2 ice cream cones (two different meals)... movie popcorn, movie candy... a fried food plate at a restaurant... pizza... more ice cream.

Quite a weekend!

Suzy had hopes though, because she's saved herself before despite a bad weekend. Not to be this time though. She was up 1.2 pounds. That meant a spanking.

The spanking had to wait until evening. Suzy attempted to offer excuses for her naughty week.. but a few minutes of hand spanking straightened things out. Suzy got 12 very-very hard spanks on the bare with the wood paddle. She promised to do much better the next time we're out of town.

As for Todd, he had a few extras. Had some pizza and a few french fries, but overall he did pretty good. It paid off at the scale for him as he was down 0.6 pounds. Reward time!

Don't feel too badly for Suzy though. She lost weight a couple of weekends ago in Texas, while Todd was the one that gained. 2008 has been going great too, which is really the main thing.

If you'd like to know more about how our diet works, the carrot and spanking stick approach we use... just click the above picture for details.

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Diet Friends Update

Caryagal: Carye had a challenging week. She was out of town for a few days, there were birthday parties and lots of treats... plus, Carye didn't feel good. She had a lung infection that made exercise difficult. Enough to derail most any diet.

Carye had a good motivator though. The possibility of a bare bottom caning hung over her head if she gained. Well, really it was more like it hung over her bottom. In either case, Carye battled and made a real effort despite the many challenges. We're happy to report that her efforts paid too. Carye was able to avoid a spanking. Very good girl, Carye!

We think the week Carye had really shows the value of the Spanking Diet. She didn't have a big loss, but she stuck in there are tried despite the difficulties. Wasn't just a painful spanking that helped her focus either, though that is a part of it. Knowing that hubby Papa Shrek was there and watching and supporting was a big motivator too. Great teamwork and we're really happy for Carye.

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Elis (from New Beginnings): PK hit a bump in the road this week. She was up 3 pounds. There was lots of good news though. Five trips to the gym for hard workouts. Many good food decisions. Hubby Nick hoped the gain was just a fluke and allowed for a new weigh-in the next day.

Unfortunately the scale didn't improve with the extra day. That meant PK had earned a spanking. In short order she had her bottom bared and Nick had the hairbrush in his hand. Nick decided to try something new with this spanking. He instructed PK to count each spank, and then ask for another until she felt the lesson had been learned.

PK has hinted before that she wished her spankings were longer and harder, so here was her big chance. And she went all the way to FIVE before she stopped... lol. Even Nick thought that was too mild and he made it 20 spanks. In fairness to PK though, it's not easy extending your own spanking. Taking a spanking is actually easier than asking for on. Hopefully next week PK wont need any spankings at all... but if she does, we hope she's not asked for her input!

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Mister G: Mr G was on some pretty thin ice last week. After several misdeeds, Mrs G put him on probation. He had to go to the gym 6 of the next 7 days, had to avoid snacks and stick to only reasonable meals. Any failure... ANY... would result in the most extreme spanking that is possible within his DD relationship.

We frankly were pretty worried for Mr G. But he really stepped things up and made his goal. Great job! The scale appreciated it too. Mr G was down 2.2 pounds. Mrs G did a wonderful job using the threat of a spanking to motivate.

The one problem with that approach though... is it is only effective for so long. The threat of getting the mother of all spankings only goes so far. Mr G tells us his new week is off to a slow start. We're really hoping he turns things around. Know it's possible too. Mr G knows what he needs to do.

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Peaches: Peaches was up slightly this week... which usually means a spanking. Well actually, everything usually means a spanking for Peaches, lol. Hubby El Domino tells us that Peaches is a spanko through and through... and that she feels empty if her bottom doesn't get warmed up at least once a day. But a gain usually would mean a discipline spanking... which is of course something beyond other kinds of spankings.

This week though, El Domino was actually thrilled with the gain. Peaches was really struggling at work. Things were so busy that she often skipped meals. No good! El Domino made it clear that he wouldn't allow *any* unhealthy eating habits and that a hard and long spanking would be coming if an immediate adjustment wasn't made.

Peaches took the warning to heart and started taking a lunch with her to work. That way she didn't have worry about finding the time to go get something. It worked, and Peaches is feeling better... and she's certainly being healthier. Not that it helped her bottom avoid a spanking... lol... but it did help her avoid a punishment spanking. Good job, Peaches!

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Michelle (from Brat Out Of Control): Last week Michelle did a great job with diet and exercise, yet still somehow was up at the scales. That got her down, and those depressing feelings carried into the new week. Instead of overeating though, Michelle starting skipping meals in favor of flavored water.

This isn't a good idea, because it puts the body into starvation mood. The metabolism slows down, and the body is setup for a big gain when it does get food. Michelle ended up the same at the scales, likely because of her slowed down metabolism.

MG (my guy) wasn't happy about these skipped meals. He understands that emotional under-eating is as unhealthy as over-eating is. The goal is *healthy eating*. Since he believed Michelle didn't mean to be naughty by skipping, he decided to not spank her for it. But, he made it clear that a punishment would be coming if it happened again. Michelle tells us she understands, and feels great about this coming week. We're pulling for her!

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Lori (from Switching Gears): Lori had mixed results this week. She did a pretty good job with diet and exercise. The one issue was a few trips out to eat. Hubby Joe wanted to try some new local places, and Lori had some problems making healthy choices off the new menus.

At her weekly weigh-in, Lori was the same. The scale didn't move up or down. Normally that would mean a punishment spanking. The rule is lose at least one pound a week or else. But, Joe felt that since it was his idea to try some new restaurant... and there was no gain at the scale... he'd give a spanking pardon.

He did make it clear though that there would be no exceptions this coming week. If the goal isn't meant, Lori will earn herself a long session with the bath-brush. Lori tells us she wants *no part* of that. We can't blame her! Lots of luck Lori... know you can do it!

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Jean: We'll be sharing a log post tomorrow about how Jean's past week went tomorrow. She's doing well though, and happy to have a clean slate.

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Jessica: Poor Jess was sick this week. Plus, she had her mother in town... to help celebrate Jess' daughters birthday. A lot going on there! Good chance of gaining too, if focus is lost. Of course, Jess isn't spanked for gaining weight. She's not even allowed to weigh in. Instead, the focus is on effort.

Unfortunately that subtle rule difference didn't help Jess' bottom. She made several bad food decisions as she drifted back towards old junk food habits. Worst of all, Jess bought cookies at the store without permission. That's a big no-no for her!

Her naughty choices earned her a long spanking with the cane, bath brush and hairbrush. Hubby Dan wasn't happy and he made the spanking count. Jess tells us she rarely cries during a spanking, but this one did the trick. Her butt is still hurting. Lesson learned though, and a better week is on the way!

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Pat & Karen: Karen was really worried about her weigh-in at Weight Watchers this week. She'd given a good effort, but she could "just tell" that it wasn't enough. She actually strongly considered skipping her weigh-in and just taking her punishment.

Good thing she didn't listen to that voice. Karen was down 2.8 pounds! Great job! Maybe a little spanking for being so pessimistic wouldn't be a bad thing though... ;)

Karen picked a fun and erotic self-spanking as a reward for her loss... which she gave herself while thinking about hubby Pat (who is fighting in Iraq). Karen tells us for her next reward, she's thinking of getting a new pair of pants because the ones she has now are starting to get baggy. That's great news, and we love the way Karen is thinking about earning more rewards.

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Beth: Beth had a wonderful week. She was down 2.6 pounds. The focus has been on sensible food choices and getting more active. Hubby Paul doesn't really consider this a "diet"... but rather a weight management program.

So, Beth is on the 'weight management spanking program'... ;)

No matter what it's called though, Beth is off to a great start. We wish her the very best in the coming weeks.

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Amber Grey (from Amber's Spanking Journey): Amber tells us she "only lost 1 pound" this week. Frankly, those are spanking words. Only one pound?!!! One pound is great! Amber is off to a heck of a start and we think she should celebrate it. Big hugs to her from us.

Of course, a good week doesn't mean that there aren't issues to work at. Amber tells us that consistency has been an issue. She'll do real good for several days and then have a really naughty meal.

To help with that Tom has instructed Amber to keep a daily food journal. Hopefully that will stop the occasional binge meal. But if not, it might be able to show what triggers them. Tom is also having Amber work out at least three times a week. Amber says it will take all of her good girl powers to accomplish those goals. We know she can do it though!

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Kari: Kari has been under some stress the last week or so. She has some big tests coming up at school that will difficult... which is on top of the 'regular' stress she has as a working mom. The stress helped contribute to some naughty snack choices, and the busy schedule didn't help with exercise goals.

At the scales there was good news. Kari was down 0.2 pounds. Congrats to Kari on that! Unfortunately though, Kari did break two of her rules. Too much snacking and not enough exercise earned Kari a punishment. It took a few days for her to get together on the phone with her online disciplinarian, Aunt Cindy.

Kari was told to get out her hairbrush and start spanking her bare bottom. Aunt Cindy listens carefully and won't count any spank that doesn't sound hard enough. About halfway through the spanking, AC instructed Kari to put out Ben Gay on her spanked bottom... and then continue spanking. This doesn't cause any damage, but it really adds to the spanking pain. Kari tells us it drove the point home, and that she promises to be a good girl this week.

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We'd like to remind everyone that we welcome any (safe) diet tips. So if you've found something that's helped you... please share!

Good luck to everyone in the coming week.

If you're interested in the Diet Group here... if you have questions, or might like to join... please just drop us an Email at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. We blog about this because we like talking to people that share our desire to get healthier and are willing to consider using spanking to help motivate the effort. So, please don't be shy!

2008-04-28T23:58:00.000-07:00

Niki Flynn

Niki Flynn is a well known spanking model with a large following. Her different movies can be found in a variety of places. Some of them push boundaries and touch on themes that aren't directly spanking related. Niki's 'not' blog shares her modeling adventures, and her motives for making movies.

It's the sharing of her motives, and the personal journey that she's on that we find most interesting about Niki's site. She has an absolute fascination with spanking and punishment, and the need to submit to them. If you've ever wondered what motivates a really hard player, what makes them tick... Niki's blog really is a must read.

And speaking of must reads, Niki is also a writer. She's just recently released a new book... "Dancing with Werewolves." We've only been able to read the first part of the book, but we have to say that we are impressed. Niki will actually be at the Florida Moonshine party this coming June, and she'll be signing copies of her book. We hope to have the chance to see her then.

Her blog offers a long excerpt from her book and how to find her movies. There is a wonderful picture gallery as well as several free (long) video clips. There is also a nice links area and a detailed bio page. The thing we like most bout Niki's site though is the chance to peak into Niki's mind. She's very open and honest about what drives her. We know you'll be as interested as we've been, so we do invite you to check out...

Niki Flynn

Roundtable Wrap-up

2008-04-27T23:51:00.000-07:00

Have you ever been spanked or given a spanking for something that happened in the distant past? Do you think such a spanking could legitimately help with guilt and closure? Could you use a real past misdeed in a role-play type spanking?

We've talked with several spankos about this topic over the last several days, so we were looking forward to hearing what our friendly readers here thought about this week's timely topic. Lots of responses too, and we appreciate everyone that took the time.

Here is how the Quick Response Poll finished up.

Do you think a spanking for a long ago misdeed could legitimately give you... or your spankee... guilt relief and provide closure?
Absolutely! ~ 46%
Can be somewhat helpful. ~ 20%
Maybe a little help. ~ 24%
No, too much time has passed. ~ 6%
No, that kind of spanking just wouldn't work. ~ 4%
Nope, don't ever get those benefits from any spanking. ~ 0%

Most spankos think a spanking for a long ago misdeed can be helpful, and it wasn't even close. We were surprised the results were so overwhelming. The friends we'd already talked to about this had the same thoughts though, so we probably should have seen it coming.

Here are this week's comments. An extra thank you to those that made the special effort. Several of those that commented have blogs too... and we link to them (all you have to do is click their name).

Our comments are at the bottom. Enjoy!

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Lori said: A long time ago I had done something that hurt some people and their livelihood. I didn't feel all that good doing it at the time, but as I got older I was never able to get over it. Many times I wanted to find these people and make things right. Joe and I were talking about this one night and I told him that I still had all the guilt because I've never been punished for what I did. A couple days later we were watching a TV show and the person was talking about her guilt feelings she had for the last 5 years. I said "gosh, she should try carrying guilt for 20+.

Later that evening, Joe grabbed my arm and took me upstairs. I figured he wanted to play, which we did. After some playful swats, he got serious and said that he wanted to deal with this guilt I had. So, I got spanked for that deed and honestly, I have felt better ever since. He lectured on how I shouldn't have done it, what it did to the people and so on. It wiped out my guilt.

~Very nice. Great insights by Joe. It takes more than just a spanking too, of course. It takes the right kind of spanking from the right spanker.~

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ZED & ginger said: I believe it can help. Depending on the person, all that may be needed is an acknowledgment and then the absolution.

Zed (RG) spanked me once for something I *should* have been spanked for while in high school - something I'd done. But it wasn't about absolving any guilt I had. It was kinda woven into some play with the school paddle and it became a 'what I should have gotten", so he didn't go lightly and gave me what he thought the school might have done. (My school paddled but I had gotten detention for this misdeed.)

But I think for people who have carried guilt around that yes, it could definitely help with closure.
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~Zed is very talented with a school paddle, no doubt about that. To have a role play built around a real life incident sounds like a very interesting time.~

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ThomasIII said: I have never personally spanked anyone for a distantly past misdeed, though I would not hesitate to do so if the situation arose that required it. While it primarily depends on the spankee, there is certainly cause to believe that a spanking, even given years after the fact, could ease guilt over an action that was never properly dealt with at the time. As long as that guilt lingers, there is potential for a cathartic release of those emotions, thus relieving those feelings of guilt.

As for roleplay, yes, I can imagine using a past misdeed as the basis, but only if that misdeed has already been satisfactorily handled. If guilt still exists for the misdeed, then using it for roleplay could be taken as "poking fun" at that guilt, thus making the person feel worse inside. The only other way that a past misdeed may be used in roleplay, in my opinion, is if that roleplay is a sort of "reliving" of the past events. In this manner, the misdeed can be fresh in the spankee's mind, and the spanking that follows would be true discipline/punishment, rather than simply roleplay.

~Wonderful point about a role-play not being about something that still has real issues and emotions surrounding it. You're right that it could make the spankee feel worse about it.~

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Pixie said: Yes, I've been spanked for things that have happened in the distant past, but I don't feel that the punishment given helps or feels as "cleansing" as when it's given right away. I know that it's not always possible to be punished at the time of the infraction, but somehow the guilt becomes ingrained over time and harder to purge.

~Certainly makes sense that some would process it that way. You find enough peace about the past to move forward... and in doing so, the guilt changes.~

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Beth said: For me, yes, I have some mistakes that I made in the past, poor choices that I have felt guilty about and received a spanking for the misdeed and forgiveness. It helped me to have closure and put the past back into the past.

~Good point about spanking *and forgiveness*. That's a big part of it, the words spoken during and then afterwards.~

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cookie said: I dont know anything much about the topic but I would have to say that I mixed about whether it would help or not. I think something that you having been holding guilt for such a long time might not be washed away with just a spanking. But then again it might I wouldnt really know. I guess it could help if they could get in the right mindset to allow them to let it go but as Pixie said I think it would be hard after a time period.

As far as roleplay I guess it would be fun to use real things as long as they arent anything haunting or that would cause undue hurt and strong emotions.

~Probably for many, a spanking wouldn't totally wash away a past misdeed... not a serious one at least. But perhaps it would help reduce the guilt, and start the process if moving forward.~

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David 007 said: If the spankee thinks it'll help, I certainly have no compunctions about spanking them. Unresolved guilt can stay with a person for a whole lifetime if they let it. There's no statue of limitations when it comes to things a person can be spanked for. The absolution some spankees feel after a session can make all the difference in the world.

~Good to know that you have no compunctions about lending a help hand! Love your line about no statue of limitations.~

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Heidi said: I think that this is an interesting topic. While I am new to this and have never experienced this I personally think that it depends on the situation and the person. It probably helps some people, others it probably wouldn't make a difference.

~We totally agree with you, Heidi. Does seem though, at least when it comes to spankos... it is more likely to help. ~

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Suzy Says: Yes, Todd recently was asking me casually (we were in two separate rooms even) whether I ever did anything I regretted in my past and I quickly said YES and started naming off stuff.. one of the things being this incident from middle school. Little did I know that later that evening (without warning) he'd pat his lap and tell me I had something to 'discuss' with him. Needless to say that meant I got a spanking coming. I don't really think I had much closure at the time and I didn't up until the spanking think I really needed it anyways, but I must admit that after the spanking I felt a lot of forgiveness of myself that I didn't expect. I don't really know that I'd want this for EVERY old event I regret but it certainly could be a fun role play spanking scenario or be used for serious past offenses.

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Todd Says: I have given a few spankings for long ago misdeeds, and have found them each to be very rewarding spankings for me to give. Suzy outlines a very a good example of that. What I liked most about that spanking was that Suzy went into it a complete skeptic. She really thought it was pointless from an emotional point of view. The spanking might be fun, but there would be nothing else to it.

Turned out, the spanking was very powerful for her. She did have a lot of guilt over that incident... which was obvious to me (why else would she have so vividly recalled it). A lot of raw emotion came out, and it turned out to be quite the experience for both of us... and in a good way.

So, I know such a spanking can work for some. It's worth giving it a try in my opinion, even if you don't think it would work. Find out for sure!

At worst, it's probably a decent role play idea. Suzy also recently got a role play school paddling from our friend Zed... which was based on a real spanking at school she'd received. That was certainly enjoyable to watch!

Retirement Dreams

2008-04-26T23:55:00.000-07:00

We're enjoying a weekend away at the beach. Back to the day to day grind Monday morning though... and that means back to daydreaming about the next fun weekend.

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Still time to share your thoughts on this week's Roundtable. The topic is how effective a spanking for a long ago misdeed can be. Would love to hear your though. You can scroll down to Thursday's post or click HERE. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Texas All-State spanking party (part V)

2008-04-25T23:42:00.000-07:00

We're sharing our spanking party adventures in a short series of posts. You can click below to view previous posts.

Part I: Getting to San Antonio
Part II: Amber spanked at the Alamo
Part III: Our First All-State Spankings
Part IV: Group Spanking Fun

Part V
Late Friday night
David007 and Dixie (from The Inner Workings of Dixie) said their goodbyes for the evening and we all promised to meet up later in the weekend. We'd spent over 2 hours talking and spanking with them. Wonderful time and we both were on a bit of a spanking high.

There was plenty going on outside of our sliding glass door on the patio, and even though we were both beat (one of us more literally than the other, lol)... we decided to go outside and check things out. Not surprisingly there were lots of spankings in progress. Some spankees were bent over tables or chairs and others were in the more traditional OTK position.

There was some wild action going on in the pool and hot-tub too. There was one young lady in the hot-tub that got her swimsuit bottoms pulled down... and over the knee she went. Her legs were in the water with her bare butt just a few inches above the water line. Spanks were flying in the air with water and bubbles splashing everywhere. She was laughing and squealing and ouching all at the same time.

Meanwhile in the same hot-tub... another couple was chatting amongst themselves as if the spanking right in front of them was a daily occurrence. Quite the scene!

Richard Windsor
Richard Windsor (from The House of Richard Windsor) was sitting at the table closest to our door. He motioned us over and invited us to sit down. We'd already gotten to know Richard from our trips to the Riverwalk and the Alamo. He's an instantly likeable and gregarious guy.

He offered us both a Lone Star beer. Even though Richard is from New York, via England... he's a Lone Star man. It's his favorite beer, which works out perfectly in Texas.

Suzy took him up on the offer (Todd doesn't drink). After a few sips, Suzy laughed and told Richard she would trade a spanking for the beer. Suzy had been itching to get spanked by Richard from the moment she heard his English accent.

Richard was more than happy to play along and that fast, Suzy had a date for a spanking. It would have to wait for a bit though, as Richard had a previously arranged engagement set up, but he said he was definitely looking forward to the chance to spank Suzy later on.

The conversation then flowed from spanking, to hockey (Richard is a big New York Rangers fan) to parties... to England... Punished Brats... the Alamo. Wonderful chat. It is so much fun to talk about spanking in such an easy and comfortable way. It's truly intoxicating to have that kind of freedom. So different from conversations in which bringing up spanking is an absolute no-no.

One spanking related topic that kept coming up was what a "noodle arm" Richard is. That his spankings... why, they couldn't hurt a fly. Suzy was a little wary of this teasing at first. Can be dangerous to tease a spanker. But with Richard playing along and laughing... Suzy soon joined in.

Mistake! Little did she realize that soon enough she'd be finding out how inaccurate that statement was.

Suzy becomes a Thomas "spanking exploit"
Richard had to get going as he was already late. After he dashed off, Todd stepped back into the room to check Email. This proved to be a challenge the entire weekend. There were a few minor issues with the hotel. Overall though, no complaints... except for the wireless connection. If you were lucky, you got slooo o oo oow service. Most of the time though, you were just totally out of luck.

Instead of dealing with that frustration, Suzy decided to go find trouble of her own. She spotted Thomas (from Thomas's Spanking Exploits) and Cookie (from Cookie's Jar). We first got to know Thomas and Cookie through their blogs. Then during a cute school girl scene earlier in the evening at the conference room... where volunteer spankees got to role-play a classroom spanking scene... we'd gotten the chance to talk with them in some depth.

Thomas, who is a bit of a spanking items scavenger, had found a vintage school desk from somewhere in the area. He graciously loaned it to the party for the role-play... and it was his desk that the naughty students had to lean over to get their punishments (here is a picture of the desk, from Thomas' blog).

We'd hit it off with both of them right away, so Suzy was more than comfortable saying hello to them on the patio. She sat down and started chatting about Texas and how they'd gotten there. Turns out they'd driven, which was something we'd considered doing... but scratched the idea because the savings just weren't great enough (with the price of gas). The idea of car pooling with them to the next party came up though, and everyone agreed it made a lot of sense.

Feeling nice and cozy with new friends, Suzy decided to show off one of our favorite spanking implements... our Brat Paddle (from Paddle Master Products). Thomas was examining the paddle when someone at the table pointed out the obvious. A spankee had just handed a spanker a paddle.

Thomas needed no more hints, and Suzy was bottoms up in mere moments. Thomas started off with the Brat Paddle, and gave it a very nice test spin. Judging from Suzy's reactions, it appeared to handle quite well. Thomas then decided it was time for some bare bottom hand spanking. Down went the paddle and down went Suzy's panties. Suzy welcomed the change, since she figured his hand would provide a reprieve to her stinging backside.

Wrong again!

Thomas has a spanking technique in which he focuses on using his fingers to spank and not the palm of his hand. This greatly increases sting and Suzy was dancing in no time. She yelped out, "It stings!"... and a rather unsympathetic Cookie offered a knowing giggle.

Thomas finally released his newest 'exploit', but he wasn't done with her quite yet. After a little more chatting and Suzy's enthusiastic show of interest, Thomas decided to bring out some of his implements. He has an interesting collection to say the least. His aluminum paddle had to be at the top of the list. Thomas said he likes to put it in the freezer and then use it when a spankee felt like her bottom was on fire.

Instead of RUNNING from a spanker with such a devious mind... lol... Suzy coyly mentioned that she wondered what the paddle would feel like. Thomas nodded. Next, he brought out a plastic pasta measuring tool... and Suzy laughed. "What kind of damage could that thing possibly do?"

Showing off your own paddle, wondering aloud what a spanker's paddle might feel like... these sort of things are likely to earn a spanking in short order at a spanking party. But *laugh* at a paddle in front of a spanker... and as the saying goes... your ass is grass.

Suzy was again over Thomas' knee. "Okay young lady, you are going to see exactly what it can do right now." Suzy's laughs turned to ouches as she earned new respect for Thomas' noodle measuring device. Her already sore bottom started to glow red.

Then, to close things out... Thomas gave Suzy's bottom one swat with the aluminum paddle. That cat that curiosity killed got off easy! This aluminum put a dent in Suzy's can that she wouldn't soon forget!

She was literally still rubbing her backside an hour later as we headed off to bed. It was a long but spectacularly enjoyable Friday at the Texas All-State Spanking Party.

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Several others bloggers attended the Texas All-State Spanking Party, and they too are sharing their experiences. Here is a list, and we do hope you'll check these out.

Amber - Amber's Spanking Journal

Zed and Ginger - Zed & Ginger

Richard Windsor - House of Richard Windsor

Dixie - The Inner Workings of Dixie

Cookie - Cookie's Jar

Thomas - Thomas's Spanking Exploits

Ann - SpkrBryan's Blog

Thursday Knight at the Roundtable

2008-04-24T23:11:00.000-07:00

*Spanking for the Past*

Many spankees find comfort in being in a spanking relationship... in part... because of how effectively misdeeds are dealt with. A wrongdoing is brought out into the open. It is discussed in a firm but loving manner and then a suitable punishment is given. Afterwards, all is forgiven and a clean slate is had.

This method does wonders for problems with guilt. Instead of an issue lingering on the conscience, a period can be put on the matter and the focus can shift from the past to doing better in the future.

That concept is at the center of the Spanking Diet plan. Guilt can be a quick diet killer, especially for an emotional eater. Best to deal with it quickly and directly, and then move on with a fresh start.

Some guilt goes back a lot longer than last week's food choices though. Guilt can be carried for ~years~. We were recently talking with a friend that shared the guilt she still feels for the way she treated a teacher in High School nearly 20 years ago. Thanks to peer pressure, she went along with harassing a teacher... until the teacher quit. Our friend never got into trouble for this, and she's carried the guilt of her actions ever since (even though she tracked the former teacher down and sent her a long apology letter... which was accepted).

This story got us wondering about using spankings to deal with misdeeds that were committed in the distance past. We'd like to hear your thoughts on this topic, and we do invite everyone to share. Spankers, spankees, switches, self-spankers, those that just think about spanking... you are all welcome, and we'd love to hear from you.

Here are a few questions to get the discussion going:

Have you ever been spanked or given a spanking for something that happened in the distant past? Do you think such a spanking could legitimately help with guilt and closure? Could you use a real past misdeed in a role-play type spanking?

You can comment HERE, or you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. If you have any stories or links to stories about the kind of spanking we're talking about... please do feel free to share.

Also have the Quick Response Poll, and we welcome you to share your opinion there too. Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!

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2008-04-23T23:12:00.000-07:00

Diet Update

2008-04-22T23:53:00.000-07:00

We'll cut straight to the chase and say... the news is all good this week. We're very happy about that. You never know for sure until the official weigh-in, but we both liked our chances stepping onto the scale.

Suzy was first, and she was down 1.0 pound. Todd was up next... a little more nervous thanks to an unexpected gain last week... but he was down too. 1.4 pounds.

We both earned rewards, but have decided to save them for the weekend when we'll have some alone time near the beach (in a lovely condo).

One thing we've been working on is walking. That's been going well enough that we wore down our poor old dog this week. lol... she flat had had enough of walking her owners around. That was a moral victory for us, because there have certainly been many times that it was the other way around.

And, folks... that's about it. lol, we realize these are more exciting when we gain. Then there are spankings and punishments to talk about. Sorry!

Chin up though, Suzy will be getting a discipline spanking this weekend. She earned it the last time we visited with Jean (from the Diet Group)... but made a deal to postpone it until the next time we met with her. The catch was, Suzy's spanking will now be in front of Jean. That debt will be coming due this weekend.

If you'd like to know more about how our diet works, the carrot and spanking stick approach we use... just click the above picture for details.

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Diet Friends Update

Caryagal: Carye often has trouble over the weekend. If she's going to be naughty on her diet, that's usually when she's going to do it. This week though, she was a pretty good girl. She actually was hoping to be down a little when she stepped on the scale Monday morning. And... lol... she was up FIVE POUNDS! No idea why, but Carye went into a little bit of a panic. No way did she want the spanking that would come with such a big gain.

In an attempt to save her butt, she started to work her butt off. Lots of hard leading up to her Friday weigh-in, and it paid off. She was only up 0.9 pounds. Carye figured she'd be safe too, because she and Hubby Papa Shrek were packing for a family trip. While loading the car though, Carye found herself getting bent over the car... and her bottom getting spanked with a piece of bamboo (sort of like a cane).

Luckily, Carye had her jeans on. She says it still HURT big time though. The scary part was when Papa Shrek hinted that another gain this coming week would mean a bare bottom session with the cane. Ouch! It will be a real challenge to do well on her trip... but Carye tells is she is extremely motivated. We believe her!

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Elis (from New Beginnings): PK had an awesome week. She was down 1.4 pounds, which is her biggest loss in a while. Great job, PK! That she did so well is especially nice given that she went out to eat several times this week. That's a tough challenge and PK did a great job making reasonable and healthy choices.

As important as food choices are though, PK has found that the only way she's been able to really get the scale to move is to get her body moving. She posted on her blog this week about a 30 minute 'core strengthen class' she started this week. 30 minutes isn't much time at all, but they worked poor PK hard enough that she was feeling it for the rest of the day. She's also going to start a 'water fitness class' too.

Doesn't take a lot of time out of PK's week, but these classes have a big impact. Not only do they burn calories and tone... but they build muscle, and muscle burns calories. The more muscle, the more calories your body burns. PK has done a wonderful job showing how a new healthy lifestyle can... and should... be about more than just making good decisions about food.

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Mister G: Mr G had a bad week. Early on, one of his kids got sick... which as any parent knows... means the rest will follow in short order. As things got busy with changing beds and dishing out meds, Mr G started to let his diet and exercise go. When Mrs G asked how things had gone for the day, Mr G answered... I didn't use my diet log so I don't know, but it wasn't good.

Mrs G understood how hectic things were, so she let it go. But then the same thing happened again the next day... and then the next. On the forth day, Mrs G had had enough. The schedule wasn't THAT hectic. She announced a spanking had been earned, and in short order Mr G was in position to receive his punishment. Mrs G announced that 40 had been earned... which is the maximum amount.

Mr G was horrified. 40 is very difficult to take, but what could he do? At the last moment though... Mrs G offered a lifeline. She'd forgive the spanking if Mr G promised to... have no large portions, no seconds, limit snacks and make it to the gym 6 of the next 7 days... 'or else.' Mr G actually thought about declining the deal, because the terms were pretty harsh. But in the end, the spanking would be harsher. He agreed, and he tells us he is VERY motivated this week. Tip of the hat to Mrs G for a brilliant motivational tactic!

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Peaches: Peaches has been doing real well on her diet lately. She getting closer and closer to her goal weight, and we're all excited about that. This week, she was down 1.1 pounds... but, that's news is not as good as you would think.

Things have gotten crazy busy for Peaches at work. Her position in the company simply does not allow her to take time off or assign her duties to others. When business is busy, Peaches is busy. This week that meant several 15 hour work days. The 'slow' days were closer to 12 hours. That's working on her feet, almost nonstop too. Peaches busted her butt, and not in a good way.

All that work meant she often went long stretches without eating. That, along with the stress caused an old medical issue to flair. So, tough week. Peaches did ask for some spanking attention to help with the stress, and hubby El Domino gladly did his part. He also told Peaches that some real punishment would be coming if she continued to skip meals. Peaches has promised to demand that she at least have time to eat at work from now on. We wish her lots of luck this week. Hang in there!

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Michelle (from Brat Out Of Control): Michelle thought she had a pretty good week. She did a good job with her diet and her exercise. Well at least she was doing good until near the end of the week when she got sick. Still looked like a for-sure loss coming at the scale.

Didn't turn out that way. Michelle was up for the week, and she feels pretty down about it. Our guess is that it has something to do with her getting sick. MG (my guy) was very supportive. He gave Michelle a soft hug and told her that he was proud of her efforts. He also told her that her spanking would be postponed until she feels better. Very sweet of him... and it's sweet of him to not let Michelle totally off the hook too. Even though the gain doesn't make sense... a gain is a gain and it means a spanking.

Michelle is feeling better about things now, though she tells us she's been wondering what her spanking will be like. MG doesn't give any hints (he isn't THAT sweet... lol). Michelle thinks it will be given real soon and she will share the details when it does happen. We're looking forward to that... and we're also looking forward to a reward for her next week.

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Lori (from Switching Gears): Lori didn't have a bad week. She tried to make good decisions, and she avoided major pitfalls. But, by her own admissions she didn't really try her best. Lori just didn't take the week as seriously as she should have. As a result, the scale showed no change this week.

Hubby Joe wasn't too worried about what the scale said. He knew that a spanking was owed, because that's what happens when Lori doesn't lose at least 1 pound in a week. His greater concern was the lackluster effort. He wasn't happy about that.

He made his point with the leather stinger and leather paddle (pictured). Lori tells us the stinger actually has a lot of thud to it, and that it... along with the paddle... really had her bottom feeling it. It was harsh spanking. There was a long talk afterwards, and Lori came away from the spanking sore... but feeling good, and feeling motivated about having a better week on her diet. Can read more about her spanking on her blog too (and there was more to the spanking than just the diet issue). We wish Lori lots of luck this week. We know she can do it!

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Jean: Jean simply could not be doing better with her diet and diabetic testing issues. In the months we've been helping her she's gone from ~never~ testing and paying almost no attention to her diet... to testing at least 6 times a day (usually more) and paying much closer attention to her diet. We're very proud of her!

That said, there was a rather large issue this week. Jean has a badly hurt knee. It's a long standing problem that has gotten worse recently. It's so bad now that she essentially can't bend her knee and keeps it in a brace at all times. She'll be having surgery this summer. Until then, she must be very careful.

A few weeks ago, Jean told us that she'd fallen down in her backyard. We asked what she was doing at the time, and she told us she was moving huge potted plants... because she was straightening things up. A huge no-no. She must conserve her strength for the most important tasks, and not risk injury with household projects. That stuff just has to wait a few months. We made this clear to her, and promised her that if she did anything like that again... she'd be in big trouble (ie - we gave her a free pass for having played gardener).

Apparently Jean didn't grasp our warning. This week, she decided that her ceiling fans had to be cleaned. Instead of asking a family member to do it for her... because they have a stomach issue and might get hurt... Jean climbs up on top of a chair and dusts the fans herself. Even her former disciplinarian... that had to move out of state... wanted to spank her over this stunt. Jean just has no earthly business climbing around to get to dust. Either have someone else do it, or let it go until the knee is fixed. It's just to risky (something she understands when it comes to OTHER PEOPLE).

Jean wont have to wait long to find out what that dust has cost her. We'll be seeing Jean this weekend.

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Jessica & Dan: Jess is doing an awesome job in most respects. The thing that blows us away is her running. She ran 10.5 miles this last weekend. We are impressed! This is someone that once got tired going up a flight of stairs. To go from that to training for a half marathon is indeed worthy of praise. Jess has come a long ways!

Her hard work paid off at the scales this week. Jess was down 2.5 pound. Great job! Of course, if either one of us ever ran ten miles we'd lose WAY more than Jess did (exactly how much would a coughed up lung weigh?... hehe).

All was not good news for Jess though. She did have one binge day in which she basically went off her diet. Hubby Dan wasn't happy about that, and Jess got a rather harsh "bad choices" spanking. Jess told us this is becoming a pattern and that she may just start scheduling her once a week binge spanking. Not sure Dan would go along with that though. Good spankers... like Dan... have a way of turning up the heat when a spankee gets too comfortable with the current temperature.

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Pat & Karen: Karen told us this was an emotional week for her. She's really missing hubby Pat (who is fighting for our country in Iraq). She was aware of how she was feeling though, and how much that can impact her food decisions... and so she focused on not allowing herself to make bad choices.

It worked nicely as Karen was down 0.2 pounds. We know Pat is super proud! It's a big step to have a tough week and not let it ruin your diet. That 0.2 pounds is hug!

Karen earned a reward for her good girl week. She picked a fun/erotic self-spanking. She's a big fan of hairbrushes... because they are vanilla safe around the kids... and she has one she really likes for good girl rewards. It's a really big rectangular brush that covers her bottom very nicely. Karen likes to go nice and steady... while occasionally throwing in hard one while fantasizing that it's Pat giving the spanking. Hang in there Karen and keep up the good work... Pat will be home real soon. :)

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Beth: We didn't hear from Beth this week, but hope she's doing well and will catch us all up next week.

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Amber Grey (form Amber's Spanking Journey): Amber would like to lose between 10 and 15 pounds, but more importantly she wants to focus on healthier eating habits and toning up a bit. It's proven to be a real challenge though. Like most of us, Amber has a busy life. On many nights, she has to work late. By the time she's off... she is tired and grabbing something quick just sounds too easy to pass up.

It's been hard getting her butt in gear. So, her guy Tom has decided to lend a hand. And a paddle... or a belt... or whatever else he can find in the woodshed. Amber is going on the Spanking Diet and we're thrilled to welcome her to the group!

Amber's weigh-in day will be on Friday. She has her digital scale ready to go. If she gains... she will earn herself a spanking. Not sure if there will be a special reward for losing... Amber will have to share that with us.

The cool thing is we should get a chance to see Amber this coming summer at the Florida Moonshine party. We're really hoping she's made a lot of progress by then (us too!). We know Tom will be a big help, and we're wishing our friend lots of luck!

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Kari: We'd like to welcome Kari to the Diet Group. We've been chatting with Kari for a little while now, and we're really excited that she's decided to join us all in this journey to a healthier lifestyle. Kari started to struggle with some weight issues when she got divorced a little while back. Being a single mom, with a stressful job... while going to school... pushed food decisions to the back of the line.

Kari had been getting some help with her diet issues from her friend and online disciplinarian 'Aunt Cindy.' There wasn't really a set pattern though. There were some successes, but overall the results were mixed. AC has decided it'ss time to have a more focused format. That new format is pretty much in line with the Spanking Diet that so many here are familiar with.

Kari bought a new digital scale. She'll weigh-in once a week, with any gain meaning a spanking. She also will be required to exercise 3 times a week and limit her snacks (chocolate). It's a great plan that is proven to work.

Most of the spankings earned will be self-spankings, since Kari and AC live several states apart. AC does listen over the phone though, and she ensures that the spankings are indeed a punishment. There will be occasions in which Kari and AC will be able to meet too though.

Things are off to an interesting start already. Kari did good at the scales in week 1... but she was naughty with chocolate and didn't get all of her workouts in. Can see Kari will be a challenge!

But, Kari really is a good girl and she is very motivated to make this work. Aunt Carol is a supper lady too, that really cares. It's a good match and we know there will be lots of good news coming. Welcome aboard!

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Two new members this week. We're thrilled that the group is getting so big. Lots of support for everyone. More good news too, our old friend Scout will be rejoining the group after a break. She is out of town this week, but starting next week... she's back on plan. Can't wait!

Good luck to everyone in the coming week.

If you're interested in the Diet Group here... if you have questions, or might like to join... please just drop us an Email at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. We blog about this because we like talking to people that share our desire to get healthier and are willing to consider using spanking to help motivate the effort. So, please don't be shy!

2008-04-21T23:38:00.000-07:00

Normally we do one Wink/link at a time. We like to put the spotlight on just one blog or spanking related site. This week though, we have a bit of a problem.

At the Texas All-State Spanking Party we met lots of wonderful people and made several new friends. Some of our new friends have blogs, which we of course started to read. Well, actually we started to read them more carefully and regularly (we'd sporadically read and enjoyed each of these blogs before the party).

We'd like to add these now daily reads to our links list... and we don't want to wait a few weeks to get to them all. So, this week we're giving three winks for the price of one. We highly recommend each of these blogs. We know the people that write them, and each of them has a quality site that we promise you'll enjoy

ZED & ginger
Zed and Ginger are a couple living in Kentucky. They have a wide variety of hobbies and interests, and their life together is filled with joys and challenges that any vanilla couple would recognize. What a vanilla couple might not recognize and understand is Zed and Ginger's interest in spanking.

They enjoy all types of spanking. Erotic, role-play, playful... and DD spankings. Their blog shares their insights and experiences with spanking. They're both extremely talented writers and we can promise that any spanko will appreciate their musings on the subject. We've been exploring their archives and are really enjoying ourselves.

Zed and Ginger don't have a blog meant just for spankos though. One of their goals in blogging was to show how 'normal' a spanko couple can be... so they often focus on the non-spanking related parts of their relationship. This has given their blog a richness and depth that we know you'll appreciate as much as we do.

Amber's Spanking Journey
Amber is a lovely young Texan with a heart of gold. You'll not meet a nicer person. Amber does have her naughty side though. Her recent trouble at the Alamo is a good example. She can be a bit of a brat at times!

Besides that playful side of getting in trouble, Amber is also in a relationship that uses DD. Using spanking to motivate is very real to her. In fact, she'll be joining the Diet Group later this week. Amber is a spanko through and through.

Amber is also a spanking model. We picked up her 'Best of Amber' video (from AmateurSpankings) and it was excellent. Instead of being a fun and bratty spanking video... Amber shared a peak into the DD spankings she receives within her personal life. It was really fascinating to see how things are done in her relationship (we hope to do a full review of her video soon).

Amber shares her different spanking interests in her blog. The fun and playful stuff, the real DD spankings and her adventures as a spanking model. Now, we did mention that Amber does have her naughty side... and that side comes through in how often she updates her blog. She's a busy-busy girl with lots going on in her vanilla life. Still, she can sometimes go too long without updating. She promises that she's going to be a good girl from now on and keep her blog current. If she doesn't follow through, we now know how to motivate her!

Thomas's Spanking Exploits
We first found Thomas' blog several months ago thanks to a link on Cookie's Jar. Thomas and Cookie have an interesting relationship, and we were instantly fascinated by it. Cookie has had more than her share of challenge and heartbreak in her life... and the happy change of fortune she's found with Thomas is truly a heart warming story. In reading Cookie's telling of this story, we naturally found our way to Thomas' blog. We've been enjoying it ever since.

Spanking Exploits offers a unique look into the life of an active and always thinking spanker. Thomas spanks a number of ladies. Some for the enjoyment of spanking, some for real discipline issues. The different personalities he deals with and the different kinds of spankings he gives have helped Thomas amass a perspective on spanking that few can match.

Thomas is a blunt guy, and isn't afraid to post what he's thinking. He's a very confident man and he's all top. But here is a not too well guarded secret about Thomas... he's also nice guy that puts his heart and soul into the things and people he cares about. And he cares about spanking and the people he spanks... and that comes through on his blog.

Lots of fun stuff on Spanking Exploits. Videos, pictures, humor, insight, opinion... but it's the man himself that will bring you back. Thomas is a good guy, and we very much enjoy his blog.

Roundtable Wrap-up

2008-04-20T09:54:00.001-07:00

What do you think of Bloggers content warning entry page? Is it a good idea or a bad idea... and why? Will it impact how you surf blogs or how you use Blogger?

A very lively discussion this week! Obviously there is interest in bloggerland about this topic. We certainly have been thinking about it since blogger slapped us with the warning last week.

Let's take a look at how the Quick Response Poll finished up.

What do you think of Blogger's content warning entry page?
It's a great idea. ~ 5%
I'm okay with it. ~ 27%
Doesn't matter. ~ 17%
Not a fan of it. ~ 42%
I can't stand it. ~ 9%

The voting was pretty close, though dislike of the content warning did receive the most votes. Certainly can say that opinions are mixed though.

There were quite a few comments this week, and we enjoyed reading them. Some interesting and insightful opinions. Lots of back and forth too. Was a wonderful discussion and we want to thank everyone that took the time to participate.

This week, we're not going to respond to the comments individually. Instead, we're going to share our opinion at the end of this post. We do welcome all of our readers to read the comments below though. All sides of the issue are represented here and there are several points addressed that we'd never considered. Good reading!

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Well Spanked Man said: Not to alarm you, but I have noticed a lot of adult blogs become restricted after getting hit with the content warning page (and some not too).

Thebes

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Debbie :) said: Hi Todd and Suzy,
I was shocked when I popped in the other day and found the warning label. Yours was not the only site I noticed that same day, either.

I absolutely abhor censorship. While I believe it has a place with young formative minds, my mind is formed and I know exactly what I want to read or watch. I do not need the censorship police telling me what to do.

I don't understand how these warnings occur. A silly thought - what spanko reported that they were offended by the site? Really, think about it. What's more likely happening is that people are reading every little detail (getting their jollies, most likely at the same time) and then reporting that they are offended. Also possible, parents monitoring their children's computers. Given the political climate these days I'm more inclined to go with the censorship groups reading all the blogs.

Why is it that people can't mind their own business? We live in strange times and Big Brother is alive and well. I am not so sure that anything is going to be different in 2009 but I can hope or move to another country. :)

Blogs are like television remote controls, people. If you don't like the content, change the channel and mind your own business.

Thank you Todd and Suzy. I'm getting off my soapbox. I think I did this once before here.

Debbie :)

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cookie said: I thought everyone that had one was because they had checked the box adult content on their settings. I guess I was wrong. I think that they are a good way to let people decide what they want to read by letting them know that it contains material that is graphic in nature or something they might not like. Although most of the blogs I read also have added their own warnings on the page. It is hard to say. I dont really think or at least I hope that it isnt in the works to not allow bloggers with adult content anymore that would really put alot of bloggers out of service. Although I have read other blogs that are much more graphic and sexual then any of the spankos blogs I have read.

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Kari said: I never read the part about where someone had to have complained to have it tagged with the blogger warning, just thought maybe it was something you opted to do or everyone was forced to do. Only one additional click, and it's just like a warning on any adult website. Personally don't know who would complain, sounds like someone who really had objectionable material and lost their site.

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Sherryl said: If they don't like it they can just go to another website. I think(to be on the silly side) that they are making an A.S.S. of themselves and should be spanked very hard with a holey wooden paddle. (I have one and it hurts.)

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dixiedarling said: I made the choice myself to put the content warning up by selecting adult content in my settings...

I looked at it as a way to protect my blog in a way. This way there is no confusing as to what you may find if you proceed from that page. Thus if you hit proceed you should have no reason to complain.

In my mind that means that you give blogger no reason to come in and shut me down just because someone happened upon something they were not looking for while surfing the web.

So I guess I look at it as protection rather than censorship - after all what we do isn't for everyone and I don't want to inadvertently put it on someone who isn't looking for it.

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ZED & ginger said: hmmmm....I notice some of the tags are different. On some, it says readers complained and found the content objectionable, as Todd stated in the beginning of his blog.

On our blog, because we chose to implement the warning for unwitting clickers, it says "readers may find the content of this blog objectionable."

I went to google's terms and conditions and, under pornography, it states that it supports free speech - however, the warnings can be put up to let people know what they are about to read can be offensive to some if they receive complaints.

I don't have a problem with that. I don't want to mistakenly click on something and have a big asshole or a closeup shot of a penis staring back at me and I have sense enough to realize that things we show or post may not be what someone wants shoved in their face when they click on something not really knowing what they are clicking on. When using search engines, you unwittingly click on all kinds of stuff trying to find what you are looking for.

This is how I feel about it - I don't like censorship but I do not see warning readers as censorship, even if it was determined by the site itself to issue the warning with no choice to the blogger.

From a business perspective, this site belongs to someone (owners of google). "Free speech" as a right does not apply on someone else's private property. To use this "free" site, whose costs are paid for by other people/companies than the blog users, we must abide by their terms. And I find Google's terms reasonable. None of us have the "right" to use blogger at all, much less in any way we choose.

From a personal standpoint, the way I look at it is this - whether spankos associate themselves with the porn community or not, the fact of the matter is, we ARE part of it. We are considered "ADULT" content.

While I believe adult content is simply a venue of free expression, I also believe in being responsible with it. There are people who do not want to see it. It is easier NOT to go into an adult store or buy a porn magazine if you don't want to see it than it is to avoid it on the internet. It is not always clear by the URL when someone searches blogger, or other search engines, what exactly is going to be clicked on. Sure, you can X out of it once you get to it and see what it is. But, like going into a strip joint that may look like a bar and grill.....a sign on the outside saying "EXOTIC DANCERS" can keep a family of parents and kids from unwittingly walking into what they thought was simply a restaurant. The strip club may have the right to be there, but it's only courtesy to let people know what they are walking into so they can choose to avoid something they don't want to see.

This simple courtesy, I think, makes our community look a tad better rather than just a bunch of perverse and disrespectful animals intent on showing off our sexual exploits and private parts. Cuz to vanillas, that's what it looks like.

Ultimately, it's the parents who must monitor their kids.

g.

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ZED & ginger said: Boy, you guys are lucky.

ginger was quite brief in sharing her opinion. :D Being with her, I get the full versions of all of these.

ZED

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Thomas_III said: I don't see much chance that I could improve upon what ginger has said, but I'll still add a few points of my own.

Many of us, like Dixie and Cookie, have given our blogs names that are very mundane when first read. There is nothing about "The Inner Workings of Dixie" or "The Cookie Jar" that presents the site as being what it is.... a blog about adult consensual spanking. Even my own blog, "Thomas's Spanking Exploits," can be misinterpreted by someone that's looking for something else. A parent might try to find sites giving the pros and cons of spanking children, and stumble upon mine on accident. Worse, what if a child, doing a report on the changing opinions on corporal punishment in school, accidentally lands on my site? this is far from what an adolescent should be reading.

However, the availability of such material online has brought younger and younger minds into what would have been a solely adult activity. I have come across teenagers (and younger) in Myspace spanking groups, in spanking chatrooms, and even in spanking discussion threads on "PG13" sites. These are children who are jumping into things that they're simply not ready for, and are the most likely to get hurt. True, many of us had these desires in our teen years or before, but a lack of access prevented us from acting on them until we reached an age that we could handle it. Is a 14 year old really ready for the mindset of adult spanking and BDSM?

So, what's one more click before you get to a site if it means that a few people that either don't want to, or simply shouldn't, see the page will be kept away?

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David 007 said: Bottom line (no pun intended) is that the warning will NOT stop anyone from pushing forward and viewing the content. When I think of certain individuals who boast that they were viewing illicit material on the Web when they were 13, I write it off that kids will find adult material no matter what you do. It really isn't all that hard to click the "Yes I'm 18 and wish to ENTER" button. I don't know whose butt they think they're covering with the added step of this new warning.

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New Beginnings said: I am so offended by people who are offended by everything. I don’t really mind the extra click. But I know what I am looking for. I read the blogs written by my friends. I don’t really like the warning because when I was first looking around in blogland it might have scared me off. I could have mistakenly thought many of these sites were porn sites when all I wanted to read about was some romantic spanking. I could have missed some wonderful sites and friends. I have read some spanko blogs that I didn’t really like. Some of their ideas or practices made me uncomfortable. Guess what – I chose not to go back! All by myself because I am an adult. When I have accidentally stumbled on horrible sites with things I truly did not want to see I don’t remember a warning. It’s really a waste.

At the same time it is not going to keep young people from coming on. Didn’t we read all the books than were banned in high school?

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Cara said: I really don't care either way about Content Warning because I can see both sides of the picture.

True, some sites and blogs should have labels so people know what they're getting into. Example, someone I knew had a report to do and did some research on the internet. This person, a child, typed in "White House" not knowing that you must put .gov after it to get to the "USA" White House. This child got on a porn site and was looking at naked women instead of our US president. If you're going to use a site/blog name that could be "mistaken" for something else, when YES, you should have a some type of warning to state what it's really about. I don't see spanking as porn, but that's my opinion. Some people may disagree with me on that statement.

But I think it's really funny and stupid to tag a site/blog that STATES its contents in its name. This blog is named "American Spanking Society", like I put into my email to Todd and Suzy about this topic, "What do you think this blog's about, knitting?" It's about spanking. With THAT name, what else would it be about?

So like I said before, I can see both side of the picture.

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Jessica said: I don't mind the extra click and I do think Ginger has made some good points. People who are easily offended can be annoying but clicking a site and getting a huge pornographic pic could be a problem. In the interest of fairness though, I think there should be other blog warnings. For example: "Warning, religious zealot." Or how about "Warning, homophobic content." What about "Warning, Bill O'Reily fan" (grin that was for me). How about, "Warning, frequent rants about offensive blogs and the resultant decline of societal morality."
-Jess

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Thomas_III said: Actually, Cara, "American Spanking Society" means that to you because you KNOW what it means. To a vanilla, it could be the name of a group that supports spanking as a form of childrearing (as stated in my previous comment) rather than a site about consensual spanking between adults. Without something labeling a site as "adult," there is no telling who might misinterpret the meaning of what, to us, is obvious. There is nothing about the word "spanking" by itself that separates if it's referring to an adult kink, or a childhood punishment.

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ZED & ginger said: jessica, all of those can fit under "objectionable material".

While I agree that anyone who wants to take a peek inside, be it kids or otherwise, that the warning labels won't stop them,people who truly do not want to land on such a thing can be duly warned.

Keep in mind, it also takes Google off the hook to an extent. It's easy for people to bitch and moan cuz they had no warning. But when they go ahead and click PAST the warning....well, the responsibility falls on them.

For people intending to go to sites within our community, well....all I have to say is that you're gonna *have* to click on the "enter" button to be able to find what you are looking for. I don't think it's fair to blame those warnings for lack of ease of finding the specific kinds of sites you would like to look at while avoiding something more extreme than what you are seeking.

g.

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ZED & ginger said: Wow, what a great discussion this thread has started!

You just never know when one of these things will take off, do you?

Another thing that I like about it is that it brings out more of the vanilla side of people who we often see only in the spanking context on these blogs and other areas, since that is the usual focus. I like learning about the fuller person, and hearing a bit of what they think and have to say, even if I don't necessarily agree with all of it.

Good job, Todd & Suzy.

ZED

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SPANKEDHORTIC said: I voted "not a fan of it" but I would like to take the option of putting a content warning on my blog myself, preferably one that trips the "net nanny" type programs, to keep the kiddies out.

I am lead to understand that the content warning page removes a blog from Google's search engines, this puts me in the against the warning page camp.

If Google would allow bloggers to have a warning page and still be in the search engines, I would be all for it and would hold a kink blogger in higher regard for choosing to be responsible and initiating the warning page themselves.

Prefectdt

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ZED & ginger said: nah - our blog comes up in google search engines, warning page and all :). So does A.S.S. I just checked.

g.

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SPANKEDHORTIC said: Thats good news g, I will take a look at the voluntary warning page to see if it blocks out the people using software to protect their kids.

Prefectdt

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Anonymous by Choice said: I am livid that our friends' blogs are being censored. And by whom? This smells like the lowest common denominator approach where the most reactionary elements get to impose their intolerance upon all of us.

As others have said, there is nothing to stop a young person from clicking through. All this barrier does is harass good people who choose a lifestyle that happens to be beyond the understanding of small-minded demagogues.

Thank you for providing a forum for this timely issue.

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Thomas_III said: Censorship?

What has Blogger changed about any of our blogs, or prevented us from posting? What have they blocked viewers from getting to?

The answer is nothing. All that they've done is added a safeguard, a single click of the mouse, Is making a single extra click so much more work that it qualifies as "harassment" to those that want to visit my site?

No, it doesn't stop a young person from clicking through, but would be you happier if they put a safeguard in place that DID do that? What if adult blogs had to have an age verification process for viewers, like so many porn sites have? After all, spanking *IS* an adult activity, at least the way that we practice it.

Push comes to shove, our blogs qualify as adult material, and could easily be treated as such. A "warning label" is a small price to pay when compared to the hoops that they COULD have us jumping through.

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Richard Windsor said: Maybe I am a bit more pessimistic than most here, but I see this as the start towards adult content blogs being deleted. Yahoo started the process by deleting wads and wads of adult related yahoo groups and it is my humble opinion that google will head in the same direction. I know a lot of folks will say it will never happen, and we won't know until that day comes anyway, but I do fear that this may indeed happen one day.

As for the warning page itself, I don't really have a problem with it as such. If you want to see the material you are going to accept the warning anyway, and the chances are you are here to see the content, not by accident.

Like a few other bloggers though, I have just purchased a domain and later this week I will be moving my blog to that domain. Perhaps the move is not really warranted, but I'm going to do it before google tells me that I can no longer have my blog on blogspot.

Houndog.

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lddcurious said: I can't really add much that hasn't been said already. I'm not a fan of the whole content warning add, but I can deal with it. It's just one click! I just hope that the blogs I read on a regular basis do not get pulled or go private. Some of the blogs I read have already done so. Please don't do that too me A.S.S.!

I hope that Richard Windsor is wrong (no offense) because I would hate to see google start deleting blogs such as this one and others. I think you should be able to put what you want on your blog. As long as you have an "adult content" warning at the top of the page there should be no problems. If people get offended they can leave the site and never return. Honestly, I am tired of this "politically correct-ness" and censoring what you say because someone MIGHT be offended, mentality.

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ZED & ginger said: I think yahoo groups started getting deleted because there were members in those groups who did not have an age on their profile that they used for membership to those groups. Yahoo requires that, and the groups who make it a point to not admit anyone without an age over 18 stated explicitly on their profile seemed to be safe.

Also, if the groups had *any* connotation of minors and sex mixing, that became an issue as well. It became more of a legal covering of their own asses in this regard. Sure, people can lie on their profiles about their ages, but then the "responsibility" behind that lies on the person creating the profile and not really on yahoo.

Disclaimers are all part of legality. They're good business sense, actually. And, as I have said, I believe responsible.

g.

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heidi said: I personally find the warning labels anoying. My opinion on it is that they should have warning labels up on all adult blogspots or none at all. I find it kind of anoying that there are only certain blogs with this warning label and that there are others that are much worse with no lable on it at all. And like others have said it does absolutely nothing to keep kids out.

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Richard Windsor said: Then we get into the issue of connotations and where our lifestyle falls in the vanilla world in regards to childhood and sexuality. Quite frankly I don't know where the line gets drawn.

On my blog I have a story posted about receiving the cane when I was 14 years old, in the vanilla world I wonder if using a childhood recollection on an adult blog would be considered taboo? Obviously I understand how early memories sometimes tie into our adult lives, but would the powers that be also understand that?

My blog is tame in that area, but I do know of other blogs where childhood memories form a big foundation to the blogs content. Where is the line drawn and more importantly, who draws the line?

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Thomas_III said: I would say that stories of your own childhood and how it formed the basis for your current interests would not be taboo, unless the content, itself, were overly explicit.

By the same token, writing about anyone else who is underaged and spanked would almost certainly be taboo, even if the content ISN'T explicit in nature. For instance, you can't put a picture of a child anywhere on an adult site, even if that picture is blatantly vanilla in content. While I care deeply for Cookie's children, and treat them as my own, there will never be pictures of them on my blog, as it simply isn't appropriate. I might make mention of taking them somewhere, like a zoo or theme park, but simply cannot post images of them from the trip.

In spanking, where ageplay sometimes comes up, it can really blur the lines for what would be acceptable and what wouldn't. I have an ageplay story on my blog, based on some online players that I used to chat with, and have considered on numerous occasions to take it down, because I wasn't sure if it would fall within acceptable boundaries. It has a very innocent feel, though, as the characters are very young, so I've left it for now.

By the same token, I would not write a similar story that included a spanking of a teenager (13-17) as a child in this age bracket has started to edge into adulthood, and such a scene could blur the lines between childhood innocence and adult eroticism. I remember reading one story that included a spankee that was 16, and complaining because of it.

For that matter, I wouldn't discuss spanking as a form of childrearing on my blog, whether I was for or against. My blog is meant to titillate, and I wouldn't want anyone to take an entry on childhood spanking as titillating.

Sorry for the rambling on the sidetrack, but my mind kinda races on topics like this. Plus, I'm a little sick, so my head isn't completely clear.

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Michelle said: I just got done reading your blog and thought that I would respond about this week's question. I have been noticing the warning before I enter a lot of the spanking blogs and I am not sure if I agree with it or not. I know it's for the protection of minors , or people who would be offended by the material but I really don't think that it makes a difference because kids are going to get curious and enter anyways , and as far as other adults who would be offended ....well I say they need to get over it :) That is just how I feel about that :)

As far as how I am handling the warning....well Blogger has yet to set that warning page on my blog yet . I am sure they will tag my blog just like they have with the others but until they do I haven't really thought of how I would handle that. If it's one of their "new" rules then I can't do much besides changing to another free blog service but I like blogger so much that I won't do that. I will just deal with it!!

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Caryagal said: For me, Doesn't really bother me. I just click past it, no big deal.

Me:-)

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Todd and Suzy Say:

We have our blog for our own enjoyment, and we hope in having and sharing our fun... that other spankos might also enjoy our tiny little piece of the internet. We certainly don't want to offend anyone. Zero benefit there. That's why when we started our blog we did two things...

1) We put the word SPANKING in the title of our blog. Yes, we realize that doesn't automatically mean "adult content." But, it is a reasonable warning flag. It's not quite as red flag as a word like penis would be (which could theoretically be non-adult content)... but it aint quite "puppies" either.

2) Day one, we placed an Explicit Content warning on the top left corner of our blog. If someone did stumble into our site, we wanted them to know straight away that this wasn't a kid appropriate place.

So, we do care about the internet community we share. That said, we are in the 'not happy with' the Blogger content warning page. In no particular order, here are the reasons for our displeasure:

~ The warning page doesn't protect kids any more than our own Parental Warning does. If a kid will ignore our warning (and his/her derelict parents allow it)... that same kid will skip past the warning page.

~ Adults that stumble into our SPANKING site are sufficiently served by the warning we placed on our blog. They also can be gone in a single click (never to return). That's plenty enough protection for them. They are adults after all, so they should grow up and censor their own eyes. They don't need Blogger's help.

~ If someone can blog about it, we can guarantee you that there are people that will find it objectionable. It's ~impossible~ to protect people from being offended. That an attempt is made when it comes to adult consensual spanking... but not other topics (religious zealots, political whackos, etc-etc)... is just not something we can support. We frankly don't see ANY harm in what we do.

~ The content warning does censor our site. We were at the Tampa airport last week and we could not access our site. Other spanking blogs... without the warning... could be accessed. We also, just for kicks and giggles, were able to pull up a site (in under 20 seconds) that showed a rather messy gang-bang. It's random, but there are places that you... a consenting adult... will no longer be able to view our blog because of the warning page.

~ The warning page has almost totally KILLED our presence on Google. We're google hounds and we once were pretty easy to find through different spanko based keyword searches. Now, it's almost impossible to find our blog on Google. Even the keyword search "American Spanking Society" gets very little. We get the top hit, which reads:

Blogger: Content Warning
Content Warning. Some readers of this blog have contacted Google because they believe this blog's content is objectionable. In general, Google does not...

lol, what does that tell anyone? Before the warning, that top Google hit read:

American Spanking Society
Todd and Suzy are a happily married couple, loving their busy life in Florida. This blog is dedicated to one facet of that life together... Spanking!

Then beyond that one nearly worthless hit we have on Google... there is almost nothing else. What you'll find is other (unflagged) blogs that mention our site (ie, a keyword search of our blog name will land you on someone else's blog). Before the warning, a keyword search of American Spanking Society brought back dozens and dozens of hits directly to our blog.

Before the warning, we got about 15-20% of our hits from Keyword searches. Included in those numbers were spankos that were exploring their interest for the first time... people that we very much want to lend a hand to and reassure (you're normal, lots of people have this kink, etc-etc). That is now GONE.

~ The warning page has rendered our stats worthless. We know how many people visit, but no longer have any idea how they got here (they all come from the warning page). We not only enjoyed that, but by looking at our Keyword analysis we were able to better grasp what topics our viewers enjoyed. We've lost that ability now.

~ The entire way the warning was assigned is ridiculous. If x number of people complain, you get slapped with the warning. If y number complain, your blog is made private (invitation only). And if z number complain... your blog is deleted. It's not that Blogger cares about kids or sensitive adults... they've made the business decision to placate the squeaky wheels. We're not a fan of that method.

We really do respect those that disagree with us. We read every comment, and those that like the warning... like it for the right reasons. They want to see kids protected and don't want to see anyone offended. Noble goals.

We like those goals too and worked towards them long before Blogger started this warning page stuff. This newest step though just goes too far for us. We don't see very much benefit in it. Easily offended adults have an extra layer or protection. They no longer have to leave our site after getting to it. Now, they can read the warning... *guess* that they'd be offended... and skip past it. We aren't thrilled with that benefit.

And the cost for that silly benefit... too high for us. We also frankly see this trend continuing.

Blogger can do as they please, but so can we. We can get our own site, that we control, for about $100 a year. That's the direction we're headed. We'll keep updating this site until the change occurs, and we will of course keep you all posted about the switch. But, we've started packing our bags.

when Vanilla and Spanko worlds collide

2008-04-19T23:59:00.000-07:00

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Still time to participate in this week's Roundtable discussion about Blogger's content warning entry page. It's a lively discussion and we'd love to hear from you. You can scroll down to Thursday's post, or click HERE.

Texas All-State spanking party (part IV)

2008-04-18T23:37:00.000-07:00

We're sharing our spanking party adventures in a short series of posts. You can click below to view previous posts.

Part I: Getting to San Antonio
Part II: Amber spanked at the Alamo
Part III: Our First All-State Spankings

Part: IV

Orientation
With all that had already happened the actual party still hadn't yet officially started. Would be hard to know that though, given that there were 5 or 6 spankings in process when Lin started the orientation meeting in the conference room. Probably not many meetings in which the speaker has to raise their voice to be heard over the sounds of hands and paddles slapping against bare bottoms.... but such is life at a spanking party!

Lin, and her husband Fred, spent about 10 minutes going over party etiquette. What the colored dots meant, where in the hotel spankings weren't allowed, how to say and/or accept "no thank you" and so on. It was a nice refresher, and best of all it gave us a chance to see the vast majority of people at the party.

Couldn't have been a more 'normal' looking group either. Every kind of body type, young and old, party veterans and newbies. It was a mix that anyone and everyone could fit into and that certainly made things comfortable.

To make things even more comfortable, there was a little role play scene that was put on after Lin and Fred were done talking. The premise was a man had to babysit for his boss. If he did a good job, he'd get a promotion. Of course, the girl that he was babysitting... played by the lovely 'Kinker'... was aware of the arrangement and she used this to her full advantage.

She was a world class brat! It was extremely funny. There were some funny lines about her age in the scene. Was she 6 or 16... no one, not even the actors, were sure. All in good fun, and of course it ended in a spanking. Everyone was laughing and clapping.

It was a great ice breaker and we just can't say enough about the job Lin and Fred did making everyone feel welcome.

After the role play scene, there was pizza and soda for all. Pretty much all you wanted to eat, but we limited ourselves to two pieces each. People started to mingle about the room and in no time there were spankings starting up all over the room. It's interesting to walk around meeting people, and have someone that has their bare bottom pointed towards the ceiling greet you with a hello.

Then, while being spanked, they continue the conversation. The spanker is happy to chat too. It's a very spanko friendly environment!

Old friends and new friends
The conference room was big, but not enough so that we couldn't drift towards different corners of the room and still be close by. Todd's quest was obvious... find naughty girls in need of a spanking. Suzy's goal was on the other side of that coin... to be one of those naughty girls that spankers were looking for.

Her search was a brief one. Our friend David007 spotted her and walked over. With a grin on his face he asked, "Don't I owe you a spanking young lady?" Suzy coyly replied, "I don't know, are you sure it was me?" David nodded and patted the chair in front of him. He guided Suzy to bend over and take her spanking.

As Suzy assumed the position, David reached for his CP Ruler Strap (from London Tanners). He set the leather implement to the side and slowly started to spank Suzy over her checkered panties.

Now you know how your memory can recall voices and looks and certain personality traits? Well Suzy recognized 007’s hand spanking instantly. It was like time had gone back to the 2007 Shadowlane party and David's wonderfully familiar hand and spanking rhythm had Suzy's mind flashing back to that last time he'd spanked her. She was smiling even as the spanking got harder and faster. As David spanked, he reminded Suzy of some of the naughty misdeeds she'd committed on chat over the last several months.

Suzy's mind was still drifting though. She was too happy to focus on the scolding she was getting. Even harder spanks only got giggles. David decided it was time to make an impression on her here and now, so he picked up the CP paddle.

The move from the nice warm thudding of David's hand to the biting sting of leather quickly got Suzy's attention. The CP Paddle cracked on one cheek and then the other. Back and forth at a crisp pace. Suzy was squirming and wiggling, her giggles now turned to ouches.

With the focus where he wanted it, David moved his hand to grab another implement and... his backpack was gone! Our friend Adelina had snuck off with it. This was bratting in the first degree and she'd have to pay for her little stunt. But until she could be found, David and Suzy could only laugh.

As they laughed David whispered, “you know there is a LOT more to come - this spanking is NOT over.” Suzy just smiled and said, “well it is for now” with a soft giggle.

Meanwhile on the other side of the room Todd had bumped into Dixie (from the Inner Workings of Dixie). We'd both been chatting with her for a few months and had become friends. Dixie was owed a spanking... which Dixie and Todd were talking about later when Suzy and David approached.

The four of us had all talked online about some four person spanking scenarios and with two naughty girls owed spankings and two spankers ready to collect on the debts... it was agreed that we'd all return back to the room for some spanking.

Todd and David and Suzy and Dixie
Once back in the room Suzy and Dixie pulled off their pants. No point in trying to negotiate keeping those on! The room had two queen beds. Todd sat on one, David on the other. Suzy walked over to David where she was guided straight over his lap. Dixie quickly found herself in the same position with Todd.

Both spankings started simultaneously. Sounds of hands slapping into panties filled the room as the girls giggled and the boys swapped suggestions... "I think Suzy is laughing at her spanking" ... "I don't know that Dixie can feel that"... all in good fun, of course.

With all the teasing about the girls not properly feeling their spankings, it didn't take much time for their panties to come down. First to drop were Suzy's silky blue panties. David slipped them down to her thighs, which immediately created a sharper slapping sound on Suzy's bare bottom.

Dixie's red 'Fine Behind" panties (from Paddle Master Products) came off right after. Both bottoms were already pink... and both spankers freely admired the dual bare bottom view before their eyes.

After some more hand spanking the implements came out. Just about everything in the collection got at least a brief tour of each bare bottom. Some implements got smiles and giggles. Others got squirming ouches.

As the intensity of the spankings built and the ouchiest of implements started to come out... Suzy started to really feel a buzz in her bottom. She was enjoying every moment of it and wanted it to continue. But David is a bit of a pro at spanking parties and he didn't want to overdo things with two days still left in the party. So, he eased up on his spanking.. moving to a lighter hand spanking that turned Suzy's bottom to a nice, warm and pretty shade of reddish pink.

David softly rubbed Suzy's bottom for some nice aftercare and then they turned to watch Dixie “aka Titanium butt." Even as the intensity increased Dixie kept on laughing and chatting. Not even the wood paddle got that much of a reaction.

Threesome spankings
Suzy rubbed her bottom and then laid down on the bed (on her side) and started to talk with Dixie. It was clear reinforcements were needed. David was a happy volunteer and in a snap Dixie found two spankers on her bottom.

Still though, she kept on talking! It was clear that even 2 spankers weren't enough. But necessity is the mother of invention and a solution was found.

David picked up two of our "Hairbrush" and the "Stinger" paddles and Todd grabbed two wood paddles. In rapid fire order Dixie had four paddles spanking her bottom at the same time. THAT did seem to get Dixie's attention. Finally! (can see a short video of Dixie's bottom getting spanked with 4 paddles HERE).

Tremendous fun, and everyone in the room was laughing. It was actually Suzy's idea to use four paddles. She seems to have the best ideas when it is someone else's bottom on the line!

Of course, such naughtiness,,, getting her friend spanked by 4 paddles like that... wasn't going to be ignored. Suzy's had no more lost that intense burning in her rear and her panties were back off again. Only this time she was over Todd's lap... right next to Dixie.

It's a tough job for any spanker... being forced to spank two naughty girls at the same time... but Todd did manage. The clear flex-ruler paddle made a real impression on both young ladies. What worked best was the 'Clapper" paddle though... because it was big enough to spank both bottoms at the same time.

Was a great deal of fun for everyone and if you ever get the chance to do a threesome spanking... we recommend it!

After some gentle aftercare, both lovely ladies pulled up their panties and got dressed.

There were still more hours left in the evening though...

Here is a short video of Dixie getting spanked with Lee's (Paddle Master Products) Hairbrush Paddle, can hear Suzy's bottom getting spanked in the background too...

Todd using lees hairbrush on dixie
Video sent by toddnsuzy

TASSP

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Several others bloggers attended the Texas All-State Spanking Party, and they too are sharing their experiences. Here is a list, and we do hope you'll check these out.

Amber - Amber's Spanking Journal

Zed and Ginger - Zed & Ginger

Richard Windsor - House of Richard Windsor

Dixie - The Inner Workings of Dixie

Cookie - Cookie's Jar

Thomas - Thomas's Spanking Exploits

Ann - SpkrBryan's Blog

If there are any other blogs with party posts, please let us know.

Thursday Knight at the Roundtable

2008-04-17T23:23:00.000-07:00

*Content Warning*

If you're reading this, it means you hit the 'I understand and I wish to continue' button... after reading this content warning from Blogger:

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American Spanking Society isn't the only spanking blog that Blogger has tagged with the warning. Everyday more and more spanko blogs are added to the list.

How exactly we got this warning isn't clear. Blogger's info page says it takes more than one complaint to generate the warning, and that there is some sort of review process. They're pretty vague about the process though.

This much is clear, the warning isn't going away. Some like the idea of a warning page before entering a blog with adult content. They feel it protects viewers that really would be offended, and that it's only one extra click for those that do wish to view the site. In fact, some bloggers voluntarily place the warning on their own blog.

Others see this warning as a form of censorship, or even worse... they view it as a first step towards deleting all spanko/adult content from Blogger. Of course, there are many opinions that fall somewhere in between totally for it or totally against it.

This week at the Roundtable we'd like to hear what you think. This topic is truly open to everyone, to even those with no interest in adult consensual spanking. So please do share. It's an important topic to us, so we really would appreciate it.

Here are a few questions to get the discussion going.

What do you think of Bloggers content warning entry page? Is it a good idea or a bad idea... and why? Will it impact how you surf blogs or how you use Blogger?

You can comment HERE, or you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. If you have a blog on Blogger, we'd love to hear how you're handling the warning too.

Also have the Quick Response Poll, and we do welcome your vote there. We'll post a wrap-up of the discussion on Sunday. Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!

Texas All-State spanking party (part III)

2008-04-16T23:58:00.000-07:00

We're sharing our spanking party adventures in a short series of posts. You can click below to view previous posts.

Part I: Getting to San Antonio
Part II: Amber spanked at the Alamo

Part III:

Friday Afternoon
After our fun at the Alamo, we drove back to the hotel and dropped off Tom and the freshly spanked Amber (from Amber's Spanking Journal). We promised to meet up with them both later on, and then headed towards our room to freshen up.

The moment we walked into the hotel, it became clear that the last of the vanilla guests had checked out. The only place spanking wasn't allowed was in the front lobby, but we could hear that familiar slap-slap sound coming from every other corner of the 'spanking hotel.'

Once we rounded the corner of the front lobby, we could see the spankings we were hearing. There was a spanking right in the hall... a couple out by the pool... and some more in the conference room. As we walked past a spanking, the couple would smile and say hello. It's an interesting experience!

After Suzy had freshened up... and Todd was taking his turn... she went to the registration desk and checked us both in. She met Fred and Lin, the event organizers. As friendly and relaxed as any people you'll ever meet.

The Texas All-State party uses name tags, but instead of identifying people as a spanker or spankee... top, sub, etc... they use colored dots. Blue means you spank, Red means you are spanked, Yellow means you're a switch and Green means you only want to watch/talk. Helps when you forget to take your name tag off before going into a restaurant, lol.

First Spanking
After filling out the name tags and getting all signed in, Suzy bumped into our friend Bill, whom we'd gone on the Riverwalk with. He's a spanker... or a blue dot... from New York. We first met him at the Shadow Lane spanking party last year, where he gave Suzy a very nice spanking. He politely asked if she'd like another. That's the way it works at a spanking party!

Suzy was more than happy to accept the invitation.

Bill followed her back to the room, where he greeted Todd with a handshake. Bill is a spanker that prefers to spank with his hand, but he did enjoy looking over our growing collection of implements.

Always the gentleman, Bill asked Todd for permission to spank Suzy... which was quickly granted.

Bill sat on the edge of the bed, and had Suzy in semi-OTK position (with her arms resting on the bed and her feet on the floor). Bill started off real slow with his hand spanking over Suzy's panties. He asked if that was okay... Suzy said yes... and then if she'd like it a little harder... yes again.

Bill picked up the pace, rhythmically moving from cheek to cheek. He was smiling the entire time. He asked Suzy if it was okay to pull her panties down. It's perfectly acceptable to say no, but Suzy was comfortable with Bill so she said it was okay.

Bill is a gentleman, but he didn't ask that question twice... lol. Suzy's panties quickly came down and the spanking continued. Bill picked up the ouch factor in his spanking just a little bit more... and again asked if it was too hard.

Bill is an excellent spanker. He's on the mild to moderate side as far as spankers go, but even harder players like and respect him. Suzy thinks the world of him too. Really couldn't pick a better way to start the spanking portion of the party.

Suzy's ass strikes again
After saying goodbye to Bill and promising to catch up with him again, we headed out to the pool area. The pool is in the middle of the hotel, and is surround on all sides by rooms and the lobby. Our room had a sliding glass door that led directly to the patio, which had plenty of tables and chairs. It was a really comfortable area.

We walked out of the slider to more spanking. The people doing the spanking want to be watched, so gawking is not only okay... it's welcomed (well, as long as you're not intrusive about it).

After gawking for a little while, lol... we noticed that Tom had set up some paddles on a table. He was planning on setting up a booth at the vendor fair, but he wanted to get a head start... so spankos that wanted one of his paddles could have the entire weekend to enjoy it.

We checked out what he had to offer and it was quickly appearent that he had some quaility items. Tom (or 'Wood Paddle') makes everything himself and he's a perfectionist. He's also a spanker, so he has a good insight into what works and what doesn't.

Suzy expressed some "concern" about getting a wood paddle. She's not a fan of the thud of wood. Tom said he had a wood paddle that was great for sting though. Nice thing about a spanking party is, it doesn't really matter what anyone SAYS. It's really easy to just SEE and FEEL!

So, Suzy dropped her pants to her ankles and bent over a chair. Todd tugged her panties down enough to just barely expose her bottom... have to test on the bare to be sure... and he started to spank. Slow at first to get a feel for the swing of the paddle, and then the pace got faster and faster.

Suzy started to do the little ouch dance with her feet. She confirmed that the paddle had ~a lot~ of sting to it. Tom was a man of his word! (Tom can be reached at woodpaddles@hotmail.com if you're interested in purchasing one of his paddles. He's a well known paddle maker, and we LOVE the one we bought at the party).

We agreed to purchase the paddle as Suzy pulled up her pants. As she walked away, tragedy struck. We'd brought our Big Red ASS paddle out with us to the patio (to show off, lol)... and Todd used it to take an innocent little swat at Suzy's bottom, and it broke! Suzy's butt strikes AGAIN!

lol... in all seriousness, it wasn't an innocent swat at all. With her bottom already warmed up, and her pants pulled up... it was close to a full swing. It didn't land squarely at all either. It hit awkwardly off of her pocket, and it broke at the end.

We KNOW this paddle can take a lot, because we've used it several times... and have used it HARD. So, it's well built. Was just an unlucky thing. The good news is, we got the paddle from Lee at Paddle Master Products and he backs his work up. He's already told us he's replacing it totally free of charge. He offers a no questions asked 30 day guarantee... so, he stands behind his work.

Bad news though was that we'd be without our favorite paddle for the rest of the party. Bummer!

Todd Gives a Birthday Spanking
After we collected our broken paddle (we didn't have the heart to throw the poor guy away) it was time to head to the conference room. There was an "orientation" meeting scheduled, which we thought was pretty cool. Gave us a chance to see who was at the party.

The conference room was pretty cool too. Not sure when you were last in a conference room... but we bet it didn't have a collection of spanking benches in it!

We grabbed seats, and of course... there were already LOTS of spankings going on. We spotted our friend Dixie (from The Inner Workings of Dixie) and we each gave her a hug. She'd already been a busy girl, having been spanked several times. We no more looked away too, and Dixie was getting spanked again.

Shuffle your feet, and you lose your spankee... lol.

There were lots of people to meet and greet, and each of them was smiling and friendly. Todd had brought along an implement (one of the few that Suzy's butt has yet to break) that we'd received from our friend Warren down in Louisiana.

He's a spanker and a great guy. We really like Warren. He also is a clever guy with a real talent for making spanking implements. This one is made of a clear plastic-like substance that is super flexible. It's a little bigger than a ruler and it frankly looks rather harmless. But oh-boy does it have a wickedly biting sting to it.

Spankos would ask what it was... we'd speculate what it was made of it... and then spankers would ask to test it out... and spankees would ask what it feels like. Again, probably not typical conference room conversation!

Emmy (from A little less talking and a lot more spanking) happened by next. She was telling spankers that her 21st birthday had just passed two days ago. Doubt she was shocked to get birthday spanking after birthday spanking! A lifetime of birthday spankings.

Here is a pic of Emmy that she sent us. It's from Saturday night (which was "1920's night"). She's a real cutie as you can see.

When she made her way towards Todd... she not only mentioned it was her birthday (hint-hint!) but she also was wondering what the flexible ruler felt like. Might as well kill two birds with one stone!

Emmy lifted her skirt, exposing her red 'spank me' panties... complete with stars. Emmy is not subtle with her hints. She took her spanks like a good girl, and reported that the flex-ruler really did have an evil sting.

A few minutes later the meeting started, but the spanking didn't stop...

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Several others bloggers attended the Texas All-State Spanking Party, and they too are sharing their experiences. Here is a list, and we do hope you'll check these out.

Amber - Amber's Spanking Journal

Zed and Ginger - Zed & Ginger

Richard Windsor - House of Richard Windsor

Dixie - The Inner Workings of Dixie

Cookie - Cookie's Jar

Thomas - Thomas's Spanking Exploits

Ann - SpkrBryan's Blog

If there are any other blogs with party posts, please let us know.

Diet Update

2008-04-15T23:47:00.000-07:00

We're going to offer an abbreviated Diet Update this week. We figure we have got about 20 hours of sleep total in the last five days, and it's starting to catch up with us. Plus, we have sooo much to catch up on. So, please do forgive us for being on the short side this week.

Our diet week was obviously dominated by our time in Texas at the All-State Spanking Party. From Thursday morning at 3am until about Monday at 7pm we were away from home... and thus away from our set diet routine. It's tough for us to manage one meal at a restaurant sometimes, so you know what a challenge 5 days of eating out was.

One thing we did was avoid picking up food to keep in our hotel room. We had a few low-cal breakfast bars and that was it. There was also no room service or restaurant in the hotel. So, we had to actually get in the car to get something to eat.

Once in the car, we avoided fast food. We're proud to report there wasn't a single drive-through run. That was tough too, because Jack-in-the-Box is a favorite fast food, and they don't have those in Florida. They're all over San Antonio though! But, we didn't give in and always drove-past.

We tried to focus on lower-cal options at restaurants, and had some success there. There were some healthy menu choices... salmon, grilled chicken, salad with low-cal dressing. All of it tasted good too. But, there were some other meals... yikes.

We went a little nuts at a Tex-Mex joint. The food was awesome. But the servings were HUGE (think 'Texas size') and there was no attempt to make these dishes diet friendly. Then there was a trip to the Texas Lone Star restaurant, and that was pretty much a binge meal. Even included a dessert.

On the positive side, we did a lot of walking on this trip. There were two trips at the San Antonio Riverwalk and one to the Alamo. That had to help.

The weigh-in was a total unknown though. No idea what the scale would have to say. Suzy was more than a little worried too, because her bottom was still sore from all the spanking over the weekend. That would mean no discount if a spanking was earned. And as much as we joke and play around, this diet stuff is serious... and any spank earned is the real deal.

Suzy took off her clothes... her bottom was still a little red... and she stepped up.

Wasn't even close. Down 1.2 pounds! We were both shocked. Figured it was 50/50 that she'd gain. Turns out it wasn't even close though. Suzy earned a reward and she picked a butt massage with lots of oil and tender care. Might be a few spankings in there, but only the fun/erotic kind.

As for Todd, it seemed a pretty safe bet that he'd lose. He had his moments during the week too... but at the worst, he was no more naughty than Suzy was. If she lost 1.2 pounds... no way he gains.

Wrong! Up 1.2 pounds.

The scale has a nasty sense of humor sometimes. Tons of stuff to do around the house this week... including an week's worth of laundry. Suzy will have no problem picking an extra chore for him to do for his gain.

If you'd like to know more about how our diet works, the carrot and spanking stick approach we use... just click the above picture for details.

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Diet Friends Update

Caryagal: Carye lost 0.9 pounds this week. Fabulous news and Carye deserves a big hug for her efforts. An extra 0.1 to make it 1 full pound would have meant a reward (think more than a hug, lol)... but Carye is really happy with what she did lose. We totally agree, 0.9 is great! Not that Carye's bottom is totally safe. She didn't keep her diet log for two days, which might very well earn her a spanking. We'll let you know what happens there next week.

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Elis (from New Beginnings): PK is back into her normal groove after her vacation. She's making solid food choices and sticking with her workouts at the gym. It's the same old - same old thing, but it does work. This week, she was down 0.8 pounds. Great job! Slow and steady wins this race. Plus... the horse doesn't get the whip at the finish-line!

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Mister G: The diet Mr G is now using focuses strictly on effort. He still does a weigh-in once a week, but those results don't have an impact on any punishment or reward. This week Mr G had an issue with snacking early in the week and it seemed he was headed for trouble. He turned things around though... ended up losing at the scale... and earned himself a nice reward (he's a guy, so take a guess, lol). One interesting thing Mr G told us was, from now on it is *his* responsibility to report his progress each day. It's a great idea for those that use the diet log system.

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Peaches: Peaches has been zipping along on her diet like a real champ. She's getting closer to her goal and is feeling and looking great. This week, she got a little reward from hubby El Domino. They headed off to Nevada for some gambling fun. Peaches hit it big too. She won a little over $280 on a 25cent draw-poker machine. El Domino has developed a new system to beat the house. If Peaches makes a wrong play in draw poker... she earns 5 minutes with the paddle. Gives new mean to the phrase "hit me"!!

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Michelle (from Brat Out Of Control): Michelle has gotten really busy with her work and hasn't been as focused on her diet as she likes to be. But, she has been taking the time to make good decisions when shopping, and that's been a big help. At the scales this week, she was down over 5 pounds. What a week! Pretty amazing to do that well when things are so busy.

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Lori (from Switching Gears): Lori had a big week on her diet this week. Down 2.4 pounds. Great news! She really did struggle without her kitchen, and then it took a little while to get back into the swing of things. But, she's already lost over half of what she gained during that down time... and is now focused and fully on track. She tells us that hubby Joe's promise of a really hard spanking was a big motivator this week. Keep up the good work you two!

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Jean: We're really proud of our friend Jean this week. Normally we get a chance to talk with her on Yahoo chat every evening... and see how things have gone during her day, and sometimes offer gentle (or not so gentle) reminders on things to focus on. With as busy as we were, we just couldn't do that this week. We did follow her daily Emails, of course. But, we did worry how she'd do with very little instant feeback though. Turns out, there was no reason to worry. Jean had a perfect week! No diet or testing issues. Nothing but good news. Doesn't get any better than that!

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Jessica & Dan: Jess decided to push her luck this week! She snuck onto the scale, which is a no-no for her. She somehow managed to avoid a spanking for that. Her one day binge got her butt spanked with the spatula and the hairbrush though. Hubby Dan had an interesting line when Jess pointed out it was "only one day." He asked if it was okay to rob a bank if you only did it once a week. lol... we think Jess should have said "yes"... but since her bottom was getting spanked at the time, she was too smart for that. Oh, and Jess was down over 5 pounds when she took her sneak peak at the scale. Big congrats on the loss!

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Pat & Karen: Karen was a little disappointed to have not lost her first week on her Spanking Diet, but she more than made up for it this week. She was down 1.2 pounds. Great job and a big hug for Karen! As a reward, she picked a little erotic self-spanking. Hubby Pat (serving in Iraq) was really proud. Karen tells us that she's more of a stress eater than she likes to admit, but that she really found it helpful to focus on earning a reward this week. Gotta love that carrot!

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Beth: Beth has just started her Spanking Diet. This week was the first official weigh-in... and it aint easy stepping on a scale and letting your boyfriend see your exact weight. Beth did it though, and deserves a lot of credit for taking that step. She purchased a brand spanking new digital scale, and she and Paul will use the standard approach. A gain means a discipline spanking, a loss means a reward. They're doing two things that we really like too... 1) They have a 'net day' to catch any missed spankings and 2) They have agreed to follow this plan for 12 weeks, no matter what.

Really helps with focus knowing that things aren't changing any time soon. Beth knows that she either gets the scale moving in the right direction, or she's getting a hard spanking. We really like her chances of success!

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We wish everyone luck this coming week!

If you're interested in the Diet Group here... if you have questions, or might like to join... please just drop us an Email at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. We blog about this because we like talking to people that share our desire to get healthier and are willing to consider using spanking to help motivate the effort. So, please don't be shy!

Texas All-State spanking party (part II)

2008-04-14T23:32:00.001-07:00

We're sharing our spanking party adventures in a short series of posts. You can click below to view previous posts.

Part I: Getting to San Antonio

Friday Morning
Suzy got up bright and early to see what was going on. She learned from Zed (ZED & ginger) that folks wouldn't start to check-in in for a few more hours and that there wasn't anything planned, at least spanking wise until then. A group was getting together for breakfast though, and he invited her to come along.

... meanwhile, Todd slept in... lol

At breakfast, plans were ironed out to go to the Alamo. Eight spankos signed up, which is honestly fun to say. How often do you get to do anything with that many spankos!

After we were BOTH awake, we headed out to the lobby. At this point, the hotel was still officially 'vanilla' because there were people checking out. Could tell that they were wondering what was up, but they probably assumed we were there for a business conference or something similarly boring.

As our group came together we all figured out who needed a ride to the Alamo, which was about 20 minutes away. No point in taking a bunch of half empty cars. Tom and Amber (from Amber's Spanking Journal) had driven about 5 hours just to get to the party, so it made sense to give them a break from being behind the wheel. Into the backseat of our rental car they went.

We'd never met either one of them, but we really did hit things off straight away. They're both native Texans. Amber has the cutest little accent. Really fits her personality perfectly. Same with Tom, except for the 'cute' part (he's a top, lol). He reminded us both of Trace Atkins with not only the way he talked, but with his common sense approach to things.

We learned on the drive over that Amber is a spanking model. Well, she's many-many things in this life... but spanking model is one of them. A good deal of what she's done can be found on Amateur Spankings. She was really open about her experiences as a model and how she got into it. The neat thing about Amber though is she really and truly is a spanko. Nothing 'Katie Spades' about her... trust us!

Tom too is involved in the spanking community. Beyond having a friend that is a spanking model (and he takes very good care of her), he's also a paddle maker. He promised to show us some of his work. hmmm, lets see, a beautiful spanking model and a charming cowboy paddle maker in the backseat... yea, that's a party!

The Alamo
We parked just a block or so from the Alamo, and met up with the group from the other car. Zed was the only one that had ever been to the Alamo before, and he's somewhat of a history buff, so he led the way.

All eight of us headed down a side street shortcut (Zed loves shortcuts), where we spotted a car with a killer whale theme. It had something to do with a local marine park. Not sure exactly what a killer whale has to do with spanking, other than the fact that when 8 spankos hook up... everything has something to do with spanking!

It took only a passing second to get Amber over to the car and into position. Our friend David007 took less than a second to take advantage of the position Amber was in... and, WHACK-WHACK! Two solid spanks over her pants. All in good fun, of course. Amber was giggling the entire time.

Turns out she wasn't the only one that liked it. A man at the street corner said that it made his day. If he liked that, he should have tagged along... lol.

We got to the front of the Alamo, and everyone took some vanilla pictures. The 'see what I did on vacation' kind of stuff that provides the perfect cover. Inside, things are somewhat stoic. Lots of security and no photos allowed. There actually are 4 people buried under the main building in the Alamo. Lots of historic things to see, and everyone was interested in looking at the different artifacts.

Outside on the grounds, things were a little more relaxed and we were all able to walk around as a group and chat. Richard (from The House of Richard Windsor) had never seen a cactus in person before, so he took the chance to have a picture taken... "for me Mum." We say that with great affection too. Richard really is a nice guy, and tons of fun to talk with.

Everyone was super friendly. David007 was of course already a good friend. The young lady he escorted was a real doll. Of course, Zed was awesome... Tom and Amber are as cute of a couple as you'll ever find... Richard Windsor, great dude. Can't say enough about these people. Each of them would be an awesome vanilla friend and we really do mean that. Throw in the fact that they are all spankos, and understand this thing we do... and, well... it was special!

Amber gets BUSTED!
After spending close to two hours touring the Alamo and looking through the gift shop (we got some cool souvenirs) it was time to get some grub. The Rainforest Cafe was down the street from the Alamo so we headed that way.

Now in Amber's (very weak) defense, what comes next wasn't her idea. Not sure who said it first... might have been any of the spankers in the group... but as we walked away from the Alamo, someone suggested that Amber hop up into a window sill *outside* of the Alamo. Though, upon further review... the window was actually a part of the Alamo.

As you can see, it's a neat picture. Amber is as cute as a button. She smiled for the flashing cameras... when all of a sudden a whistle blast exploded into the air. Amber jumped about 3 feet into the air as a police officer approached at a *fast* pace.

He said there was no sitting on any part of the wall, and he was rather clear on this point. lol... this guy was all top! Amber did as she was told and jumped down (she's all bottom, lol). Of course, the first thing that came into her head was to pass the blame (also a brat!)... "it wasn't my idea."

lol... famous last words. Might not have been her idea, but she sure didn't pause when doing the crime. The cop must have agreed too, because he didn't blow his whistle and ask whose idea it was... he blew his whistle and told Amber to get her butt down!

Should again point out that Amber is a native Texan too. She should have known the rules!

Really no point in having a trial. Amber knew what she was in for... much like those brave Texans in the Alamo back in 1836.

Amber gets spanked
Amber didn't have to wait long for her punishment. Across the street from the Alamo is the 'Ripley's Believe It or Not' museum. They have a statue of a man with his eyes bulging out... and there weren't many people around. The perfect spot.

Amber assumed the position, and Richard Windsor delivered the bad news onto her naughty bottom. The few vanillas that were around must have thought it was part of the show, because they stood around and watched. Sort of had that bulging eyes look themselves!

Wish we had a better picture, but the lighting was off. You get the general idea though. Bottom line, Amber got her Alamo spanking!

This was all in good fun too. Amber was a great sport and we could tell she had a good time. Well, except for that brief fear that she was about to be arrested... lol.

At the Rainforest Cafe, Richard did have a little more fun. He told the hostess that we had a party of eight and asked if there was a free corner... because someone (looking at Amber) had to stand in it before having lunch.

That got... one huh?... one red face.... and 7 people laughing. A fun-fun mix of vanilla and spanko time for sure. Things were about to get a whole lot less vanilla in San Antonio though... as you'll see in the next Texas All-State spanking party series.

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update:

Here is a much better picture of Amber's Alamo spanking. We snagged it from Amber's blog (Amber's Spanking Journal). She's sharing party posts too... as are Zed and Ginger (from Zed & Ginger)... Richard Windsor (from House of Richard Windsor)... Dixie (from The Inner Workings of Dixie)... Cookie (from Cookie's Jar)... Thomas (from Thomas's Spanking Exploits)... Ann (from SpkrBryan's Blog).

If we're missed anyone that is posting about the party, please do let us know.

Roundtable Wrap-up

2008-04-14T18:21:00.000-07:00

Have you ever been to a Spanking Party? What did you think about it, the positives and negatives? Would you ever want to go to a SP (or go again) and why?

We're back home from the Texas All-State Spanking Party. Had a great time. Truly couldn't have possibly gone any better than it did. We have several Party Posts coming with lots of pics.

Before we get to that though, we'd like to wrap-up this weeks Roundtable discussion about, what else... spanking parties! We want to thank everyone for taking the time to share their thoughts. Here is how the quick response poll finished up.

Have you ever attended a Spanking Party?
Yes, and liked it. ~ 33%
Yes, and disliked it. ~ 4%
No, but really want to. ~ 37%
No, but might consider it. ~ 19%
No, and no thanks! ~ 8%

1 in 3 have gone to a spanking party and had a good time. We're sure several of our friends at the spanking party this week voted, lol... but that's still a pretty high number. The most interesting number to us is how few have not interest in going to a spanking party. Just a little over 10% fall into that category. So, we expect to see most of you at the next spanking party!

Here are the comments we received this. And extra big thank you to everyone that took the time to write. We appreciate it! And a little heads up... Cookie and Thomas were actually at the All-State spanking party this weekend.

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Paul and Beth: We have attended one party together and had a great time! We would like to attend parties often and have even considered hosting them, because we don't have any locally. Certainly will plan a vacation around a Texas or Vegas party when the kids get older.

~We thought of putting together a party in Arizona back when we lived there. Fortunately there is a great local group here in Florida, so there really isn't the need here. But we did met some folks that have successfully put together smaller private parties (10 to 30 people)... so it can be done!~

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sara said: I just don't get the public aspect of seeing, or being seen. I guess of you have voyeuristic or exhibitionistic tendencies, it would fulfill those fantasies. There is nothing wrong with that, just not my 'thing'. For me, I would just 'die' of embarrassment, but more importantly, we both feel it would breech a very private marital activity that is exclusive, and just between Grant and me.

~Spanking parties aren't for everyone, that's for sure. We will say though that there are people that attend spanking parties that *only* play with their spouse and *only* in private... but still enjoy the party for the atmosphere, talking with friends and the vendor fair.~

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J. said: Never been to a SP. Would like to, but don't know if I could for a couple of reasons. 1) I'm too shy. I wouldn't know how to act and would probably end up hiding in a corner all weekend. 2) My wife isn't into spankings, and I wouldn't want to go without her.

~Issue number one there is no biggie. 90% of folks that attend are shy at first, and everyone understands that... and people will make a point to walk up and say hello. Number two though is a deal killer. It's a totally understandable reason though.~

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Michelle said: Todd & Suzy, Welcome to Texas :) I live in Houston and I really wanted to attend the spanking party that you guys are attending but MG and I couldn't get the time off to do so :( But there is always next year I guess.

I have never been to a spanking party but I am interested in attending at least one in my lifetime to see how I like it or not. I am not sure how much I would like it because of how shy I am and because of my weight ( I am very self-conscious about that) but I definitely know that I would love it because I love spanking so much :)

MG has been to a few spanking parties in the past and he says they are "ok" but the ones he has been to consisted of more couples than singles and he always went as a single and there were problems with that I guess.

You guys have lots of fun, and keep us updated on what goes on there :) I am sooo jealous :)

~Wish you could have made it! Being shy just isn't an issue, especially for a female. As for weight issues, seriously... it just isn't something others worry about. We really-really do hope you can make it next time!~

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Jessica said: Hi,
I have never been and never will. I think it sounds like fun, but I can't imagine myself baring all in front of strangers. My butt is too old for public display anyway! :-)
-Jess

~You know, lots of girls don't take their panties down. Some do, of course. But a good number keep them on for a spanking that others can see... and no one, including the spanker, minds one bit. As for "old"... there was a couple at this party that was in their 70s. ~

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cookie said: I have always been really shy and reserved and not at all into being seen or anything or even allowing that part of me to be out in the open. Im still pretty on the side of shy but with my new relationship with an experienced spanko I have attended a small spanking party in Atlanta my very first one I was very very shy and nervous. I didnt play at all even with my partner. I basically hid behind him all night and bite my fingernails. The second party with the same group I was a little more comfortable but still kind of shy. I only played with my partner and wasnt to keen on the idea at first. I survived it though and by the third party was open to letting him spank me in front of others. My Top is very open about his interest and has no qualms about spanking in public even outside of parties. Though I am still not into it outside of a party scene though. By my third party with the same group I ventured as far as letting one other spank me but had to have my partner there with me and holding my hand literally the whole time. Just recently I attended the Texas party. And I really came out of my shell. The atmosphere is very friendly and comforting in those parties that even a person as shy and reserved as myself can overcome the shyness without having to worry about being noticed or even labeled as odd since it is a very common thing at the parties to see others it really gets to where you arent really aware that others are watching as most arent really watching as they are more involved as well. I think parties are a great place to meet and experience things in a safe and friendly atmosphere. I couldnt tell you how many people I was spanked by at that party I had alot of fun and am glad that I was able to overcome my shyness and reserve and experience new things. I had alot fun and would have missed out on a great weekend had I stayed within my shell as I thought I would. I guess the fact that I had a protector with me and the whole friendly atmosphere helped me greatly to go for the gusto and try it. I am glad I did.

~It was so cool seeing you break out of that shell, and we both could tell you had a great time. Really was a friendly group, and we know that was a big help... as was Thomas, of course. You did awesome overcoming your shyness though. Shows others too that one can go at their own pace at a spanking party.~

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Thomas said: As you both already know, I've been to several in the past 4 1/2 years, and intend to attend many more in the future. Yes, it can be daunting, especially for a newbie, though I've learned that it really doesn't have to stay that way. Yes, I'm a bit of a showoff, so perhaps it was easier for me to acclimate myself to, but there really isn't a lot of pressure to play, and you can always choose how and when you play if you do. You get to decide how much of your butt is showing, if the spanking is in public or behind closed doors, and just how far the spanking goes. Appearance won't determine how much play you get, as pretty much everyone will find someone to play with, and spankers don't always look for the skinniest girls there, either. Being single might be a problem, but only while you're new. Once people know you, it really won't be a factor in how much play that you get. Truly, the only reason that it's easier to be a part of a couple when you're new is that people are able to see you playing with someone (your SO) before they consider playing with you themselves. You could just as easily attend a party with a "good friend" that will let you spank them, and it would be just as good as being in a couple. This only really applies to spankers, though, as spankees will get ample play regardless of attachments.

~Very-very well said. We agree with every word you said. It's a more relaxed and open atmosphere than a newbie would probably guess. You really summed it up perfectly!~

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Todd and Suzy Say: We both have been to a spanking party... loved it... and the biggest negative was that it wasn't longer. We'll be sharing more about the Texas All-State Spanking Party really-really soon!

Texas All-State spanking party (part I)

2008-04-11T23:16:00.000-07:00

Howdy from Texas! We're going nonstop and having a blast. Already hopelessly behind on our sleep, but there will be time for that after the weekend. Here is a quick update on what we were up to on Day 1. A lot more has happened since and we'll share that when we can. But, here's a peek at the beginning of the Texas All-State Spanking Party.

The Drive
We live about 2 hours from the Tampa airport, and our flight was at 6:15. With bags to check, that meant hitting the road at 2:45am. It's not a fun drive to start with and with us already a bit tired (we only were able to rest for a few hours mid-day)... we both liked the idea of being the passenger.

In the end, a deal was struck. Todd would drive, BUT... 'backseat driver Suzy' would get one spank for the first "comment" she made about ~anything~ to do with the drive. Then, for each additional comment afterwards... the total would double. So, it starts small but gets huge in a big hurry.

Suzy hit spank #1 before we were out of the driveway (you don't have to speed to get there on time). That doubled to 2 before we were out of town (watch for deer)... and hit 4 by the time we were on the highway (there are cops looking for speeders on the highway).

At earned spank #8 she realized that each comment really was counting... at #16 she decided it was time to be quiet... #32 meant no more talking about "anything at all, ever again"., later #64 "just slipped"... and finally, #128 meant it was time to start arguing. You'all know how far Suzy got with that line of reasoning.

Her spanking has been put on tab until later this weekend.

The Flight
One of the reasons we go to the airport early was to get a good boarding group on our Southwest flight. Shows what we know, lol. They don't do it that way anymore. Luckily, we did get a group B boarding pass... and got decent seats at the back of the plane with no one sitting next to us.

The flight got off right on time, and we both pretty much slept the entire time on route to Houston. We actually landed 15 minutes early, which was rather meaningless... given we waited over 30 minutes for the plane in front of us to leave the gate.

In Houston, we had to catch a connecting flight to San Antonio. There were 2 hours between flight... wait, make that 3 thanks to weather in Chicago (a plane could crash and the airline is going to say the delay is weather related). We killed a good 90 minutes eating breakfast and then headed to our gate. The flight we were waiting for was now FIVE hours late and in fact still hadn't taken off. It was possible and probably likely that the 5 hours would continue to grow.

Houston and San Antonio aren't that far apart. Certainly not 5+ hours. So, we figured renting a car here and now... and making the drive... made sense. When we went to Southwest to get our checked bags pulled off the plane (which had most of our spanking implements in them)... they told us they could stick us on a flight that was leaving, well... NOW. Sounded good to us!

Of course, we wanted to make sure our bags followed us. We asked the ticket person three times about our bags and were ASSURED that they were putting them on our new flight as we spoke.

Yea, it's not a mystery what happened. The bags never made it to our new plane. The folks in San Antonio blamed the folks in Houston. In the end... it took over 12 hours for us and our bags to be together in the hotel. The worst part of this delay was that no one was spanked for it, because you can't spank "the weather."

Riverwalk
By the time we finally were settled, there wasn't too much going on spanking wise. Or at least we weren't aware of anything, thanks to being out of the loop chasing down bags. There was a group of about 15 headed to the Riverwalk though, and we were invited to go. Zed (from ZED & ginger) organized the outing, and he did a great job. He's a super nice guy and a real spanko at heart. Was a pleasure meeting him and we quickly have become friends.

Also taking the walk with us was our good friend David007 and Richard (from House of Richard Windsor) and Dixie (from The Inner Workings of Dixie). Can't say enough nice things about either one of them. Richard is a chap with a wonderful English accent and a love for the New York Rangers hockey team. He's also a well known spanker that has worked for Punished Brats (and has got to spank our friend Pixie). Dixie is a great gal that was a good friend of ours already, and we were thrilled to get to finally meet her in person.

The river was lovely and the people of San Antonio super friendly. If you've never been, the Riverwalk is a walk along a river (duh, lol). Very narrow river with lots of bridges and restaurants on both sides. There are spots here and there where a few moments of privacy can be had and the less shy people in the group took advantage.

Dixie got several swats over her jeans. Here she is right before a swat is delivered. We know she wanted to pull her pants down, but there were too many people coming and going. Was certainly fun watching her get spanked in such a public place.

We were only brave enough for a couple of really quick not-bending-over swats.

After lots of walking and taking in the sites, the group settled in to eat. We picked a place called "Dick's" and the deal there is, the staff is rude to you. Hardly a unique concept, lol... but since you know going in that they're going to be rude, it's a fun time. Good food too.

Richard Windsor got the sassy waitress to pull up her shirt and show off a tattoo. He was real happy about that, but would have been happier had he got to spank her. She needed it too!

Speaking of spankings though, Dixie got a really quick spanking in the restaurant after the meal was over. That drew some looks, but it was a pretty wild crowd so no biggie.

By the time we got back, it was late... maybe midnight. There were offers to spank, but we were on fumes from the long day of travel and all the walking. We decided to call it a night, and day 1 was in the books.

We'll share more soon!

Thursday Knight at the Roundtable

2008-04-10T23:37:00.000-07:00

As many of you know, we're in Texas right now for a weekend spanking party. Thrilled to be here and we'll have lots of naughty details to share soon. Time is short right now though, so we're going to do a flashback post.

This post was originally posted during the first week of January 2007. Back then, we were living in Arizona with a family member and room renter. Privacy was close to zilch. Also at that time, we'd never been to a spanking party. We were thinking about it for sure, but had yet to take the plunge.

How times have changed! So for this week's Roundtable, we want to revisit this topic. We hope you'll share... and that you'll also let us know if your views have changed in the last year and a half.

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*Spanking Party*

If you read yesterday's blog entry, you saw that our New Year's spanking plans were spoiled by a lack of privacy. No doubt many can identify with such an experience... especially with all the guests those holidays that have just passed typically bring.

It would be embarrassing to be 'discovered' spanking. To be heard, or especially seen, would be most uncomfortable. At least it would be for us... and surely many other spankos would agree.

So, precautions are taken. For us, that means waiting until late at night, when everyone else is asleep. We make sure the air conditioner is turned on and the TV is turned up. Even then, we have to keep the spanking play on the milder side. Best bet is to get an empty house, but that is pretty rare.

There is another direction a spanko can go though. They can actually seek to ~avoid~ privacy. To embrace the embarrassment of being spanked in a way that guarantees they're discovered. We're talking about the Spanking Party.

Spanking Parties come in all shapes and sizes. From very large groups that are well organized, with convention like planning... such as 'Shadow Lane'... all the way to much smaller local groups that meet at private homes. Groups have different focuses and ideas of what a good time is. But, they all pretty much provide spankos with the opportunity to spank or be spanked in front of others... or to watch others spank.

We're curious about what others think of Spanking Parties. We invite everyone to leave their comments, and/or if time is short, a Quick Response vote in our poll. Emails are always welcome, too... ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. Here is this week's question:

Have you ever been to a Spanking Party? What did you think about it, the positives and negatives? Would you ever want to go to a SP (or go again) and why?

Really looking forward to your thoughts on this one... especially from those of you with some SP experiences. We'll be posting the wrap-up on Sunday.

Suzy gets another 'F' word spanking

2008-04-09T23:11:00.000-07:00

This last Friday evening Suzy was on her Yahoo chat name (SpankableSuzy) and I was on our other chat name (ToddnSuzy). We were both talking with a couple of different friends... but both of us were chatting with our friend Lyn too.

Friday night before bed was when Suzy and I were planning to do our Spanking Implement Review of our new Big Red A.S.S. Paddle that we'd gotten from Paddle Master Products. Plus, of course, we have the Bottom's Up spanking party... which was less than a week away at the time.

We both were talking with Lyn about those two things, and basically having pretty typical chats with her.

Now, Lyn has a midnight bedtime. This is a long standing rule for her, one she earned from her disciplinarian thanks to a very naughty habit of staying up until 2 or 3 in the morning and thus getting only 4 or 5 hours of sleep a night. Normally we'll remind Lyn that it's near her bedtime... trying to help out in any small way we can.

Near her bedtime on this night though, things went a little differently. Here is a snip from Suzy and Lyn's chat:

Lyn: It is time for me to go to bed.
Suzy: no, lol
Suzy: don't go to bed yet
Suzy: hide from that guy (Lyn's disciplinarian) lol
Suzy: put him on invisible lol

Suzy turns and tells me what she is saying to Lyn (Suzy is on the desktop computer, and I am on the laptop computer a few feet away). I then have this exchange with Lyn:

Todd: lol... Suzy is trying to get you spanked
Lyn: I see that
ToddnSuzy: Tell her that if she's so brave and doesn't worry about a spanking... to call me a fucker.

Suzy had called me a "fucker"... in a joking way (she says)... when she was chatting with our friend Jean (from the Diet Group) last week. That little stunt had earned her a hard paddling, and a warning of more to come if she did it again.

I figured Suzy would immediately back down at that point and the silliness would end and Lyn would head off to bed. Suzy does normally HATES the wood paddle and will usually do anything she can think of to avoid it. Didn't quite work out that way though!

Lyn: Todd just said call him a fucker
Lyn: if you dare
Lyn: don't do it
Suzy: I just did
Lyn: SUZY
Suzy: he asked me what we were talking about and I nothing you fucker
Suzy: lol
Lyn: lol
Suzy: I wonder if I'm in trouble?
Lyn: yea !

As you might be able to guess... Suzy earned a BIG time spanking for her stunt. ha-ha and he-he, we'll see who gets the last laugh, Ms Suzy.

Lyn really did need to get her butt to bed to avoid getting into trouble, and Suzy and I had our S.I.R. spanking to do. So we all said goodnight and signed off of our respective computers.

Suzy and I headed off to the bedroom to do our S.I.R. spanking. Before we even started, Suzy started to chirp.

You know I was just joking around... I was just playing around... It's Lyn's fault I said that... You know I didn't really mean that...

I just smiled and ignored her yammerings. Clearly though, Suzy's tone had become a little more, shall we say... 'worried.' Not sure what happened to all that brave "fucker" stuff?

I had Suzy take a quick shower before her spanking and while she was in the bathroom I went into the closet and grabbed the wood discipline paddle. I knew exactly where it was, since I'd just spanked Suzy the week before for the *exact same misdeed*.

I put the wood paddle under the pillow on the bed, and then set the Big Red A.S.S. Paddle on the bed. Suzy enjoys her S.I.R. spankings, because there is a very enjoyable erotic part of the testing. She likes the playful part of the test too. Not so much a fan of the harder discipline-type spanking we do for the review... but the fun stuff seems to override that.

She came out of the bathroom naked and a little damp. Suzy quickly got herself over my lap for her spanking... knowing the playful part was first. She was definitely excited.

The Big Red A.S.S. Paddle performed like a real champ. It's perfect for playful spankings, and I gave Suzy about 15 minutes of playful tap-tap-tap... rub-tap-rub... tap-SMACK-tap... spanks. Her bottom was a nice shade of pink by the time I was done with that part of the spanking and she was extremely excited.

From there, I moved to the erotic portion of the spanking. As much as I like our new Big Red A.S.S. Paddle, it's really not much of an erotic implement. Simply too big! So, I used the paddle to keep Suzy's bottom nice and warm... while using my non-spanking hand to tease and touch and spank her pussy.

Suzy had just shaved in the shower, so she was extremely smooth. I love that, because I can feel her wetness so directly. I pushed her body until she desperately wanted to climax. As I started to give her blissful pleasure... I also started to swing the paddle with a good deal of force.

I know she was feeling the sting over her entire bottom, because she was yelping with each spank. That only slightly delayed her orgasm though... and in short time she was having a powerful climax.

I love too that Suzy is multi-orgasmic and I don't think she minds that fact either... lol. I gave her lots of pleasure which certainly got me 'excited' too.

After the fun was over for Suzy, I started to spank her with my hand. I slowly started to build the speed and intensity as I moved her mind away from the erotic. When I was sure that Suzy's mind was squarely on her spanking, I picked up the Big Red A.S.S. Paddle and moved onto the final part of the S.I.R. spanking... the discipline spanking.

Of course, for this review there was a very good reason for the spanking. I scolded Suzy for her potty mouth and her lack of respect. Of course, Suzy got mouthy... and started offering her different excuses.

I made it clear that she was responsible for the words that she used, and that no one else was to blame. I made her acknowledge that reality... which took some really hard spanks to do.

I also told her that she was free to be as bratty as she liked, and that I'm happy that she had a good time playing with Lyn online. But, teasing or not... I would always give real spankings for a potty and disrespectful mouth. As I spanked... HARD... I made her acknowledge that the spanking she was getting was indeed very real.

I instructed her to say... "This is a real spanking, sir."

When she did as she was told, I said... "I notice it's SIR now and not FUCKER."

She got the point. The Big Red A.S.S. Paddle did a good job punishing Suzy's bottom. Her butt was bright red, and I could tell she was feeling some serious sting.

Of course, Suzy thought this was the end of things. That her spanking was over.

It was not.

Since she had done the same misdeed the previous week, Suzy was getting the wood paddle too. When she realized that fact, she wasn't pleased... but she didn't say a word.

I gave her a harsh scolding, and reminded her that I'd warned her last week to watch her mouth. Suzy was in a very submissive state of mind, and quickly gave the right answers.

I spanked her for about 5 minutes with the wood paddle... which is an extremely long session for her. Suzy was kicking and struggling at first, but it did her no good what-so-ever... and she settled into place. I could hear her crying into her pillow.

The wood paddle has a lot of thud to it... and it was landing on a sting filled canvas. Suzy told me afterwards that it was extremely intense. I'll note though that she didn't call me a "fucker" when she was telling me this!

The spanking ended with 10 hard spanks, which Suzy had to count with this phrase...

One Sir, Fucker is a word I am not allowed to say.
Two Sir, Fucker is a word I am not allowed to say.

I told Suzy if she messed up the count or didn't say the line correctly... I'd start over. Suzy knew I meant it too.

Normally, I'd go somewhat slow when making her count. Not this time. I'd lay the paddle down harshly onto her left cheek, and then as soon as she was done with her line... I'd spank on the right cheek. Back and forth, no pause. And as always, the last one was the hardest of the spanking.

I gave Suzy some gentle aftercare when her spanking was over. Lots of ice and lotion.

Suzy's debt was paid in full. We'll have to see if the lesson is learned though.

We've edited this story at "Lyn's" request... which is not her real name, of course. It is the fictitious alias that she picked for us to use. Lyn has decided that she doesn't want *anything* that could even hint as to whom she might be (her background and such), in case the wrong person were to stumble upon it. We totally respect her wishes. We will always-always put the privacy of others first whenever blogging about them. So, we do hope you understand and that you did enjoy hearing about Suzy's spanking.

Diet Update

2008-04-08T23:23:00.000-07:00

The biggest challenge this week was a hectic schedule. We're leaving for the spanking party in Texas early-early Thursday morning and wont be back until Monday evening. Getting ready for a 'normal' five day vacation is crazy enough. There is setting things up for our teenage son at his grandparents, the packing, the travel arrangements, making sure the dog is cared for (gets her medicine), the house is in order, the right people have the right numbers... yada, yada, yada.

But since this is a spanking party, there is extra stuff. There will be a 'Roaring 1920s' theme night that requires costumes (well, doesn't "require"... but we want to play along). What did people wear in the 1920s and where do you get stuff like that now were questions we not only had to answer... but then follow through and get setup with what we needed. Was fun, but it did take time.

Plus, Suzy had to cram her normal work week into 3 days. Busy-busy-busy!

When things get like that, an easy corner to cut is food. Instead of fixing a meal... taking stuff out, cooking it, eating, putting stuff away and doing the dishes... it's ~much~ easier to just go out and eat. It's a tempting shortcut!

We took advantage of it a few times too. But, two of those were runs to Subway for lower-cal sandwiches and then there was a trip to the restaurant 'On the Border.' We sort of have a set thing we order there. We split two dishes, and we figured out how many calories were in it *before we went*. The total... 4000 calories! And that was before the chips. It's embarrassing, but that's what we used to order every time we went there.

This time we changed things up and ordered off of their new low-cal menu. We both picked items that were under 550 total calories. Not only did it taste good, but it filled us up. Filled us up, without making us feel bloated. Really was a nice family meal. And best of all, no dishes! (used Dotti's Weight Loss Zone to figure out the calories in our old meal)

The healthy dinning out choices not only gave us the break we needed time wise, but they also weren't diet killers. Feels good too to be taking on a real challenge for us (dinning out), and coming up with a workable solution. Never-ever going out to eat was a good short-term idea while we got things in gear, but it's not a forever solution.

The results at the scales were good news this week. Todd was down 1.2 pounds, and Suzy was down 0.4 pounds. We're thrilled with those results! 0.4 pounds a week works out to over 20 pounds in a year. That's a loss, instead of a for-sure gain that would come without the efforts. Every tenth of a pound counts, and we celebrate it.

Not sure what the rewards will be this week. With us headed to Texas in under 48 hours now, we might be pressed for time. We'll figure out something fun to do once we get to the Lone Star state though!

If you'd like to know more about how our diet works, the carrot and spanking stick approach we use... just click the above picture for details.

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Diet Friends Update

Caryagal: Carye is back from her vacation. She had a good time too, even while trying her best to make reasonable diet decisions. She was a pretty good girl for the most part, which is great considering she knew that not only would there be no weigh-in during the vacation... but, she'd also get a fresh starting weight when she got back. Very nice that the 'free pass' wasn't abused. Increases the chances of getting one next vacation!

Carye did get back home with one new rule in place though. If she loses a pound or more in a week, she earns a reward (her choice). Nice incentive, and it must have worked. Carye was down 3.2 pounds! Awesome job, and Carye put her reward to good use. She picked a nice OTK spanking filled with lots of touching and rubbing, followed by some full-service love making.

We're thinking hubby Papa Shrek wins there too, but Carye is just a giving person. ;)

Carye isn't too far away from her Weight Watchers goal and is in a very motivated state of mind. This new reward system is boosting that even further. We are excited to see Carye zipping along so nicely and hope she keeps it up this week.

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Elis (from New Beginnings): PK had an awesome week. She was down 2.4 pounds, which is a great week by any standard. Our friend though was... ummm... less than thrilled with the result. The 2.4 loss was less than what she gained the previous week on vacation, so she's bummed out.

Well, we say someone should slap her on the ass, and do it more than one time!! What is it we always are saying... celebrate a loss! And PK is far and away the naughtiest about following that advice. She's far too quick to minimize her tremendous successes.

Think about what that 2.4 pound loss shows. It shows that PK can head off on vacation and indulge in some old eating habits and have a good time... yet come back and get her butt right back in gear. Would the 'old' PK have done that, or would she have taken those vacation habits home with her and just kept on going?

PK has really changed her life for the better. A healthy lifestyle doesn't mean that there is NEVER a naughty meal or a naughty vacation in the mix. It means that taken as a whole, you eat reasonably and you exercise regularly. PK does that! That's a big change for her.

Some motivation to think more positively couldn't hurt though. Well, actually it could hurt... but that's not always a bad thing! ::smile::

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Mister G: Last week Mr G got himself in some big trouble for neglecting his workouts at the gym. After skipping for nearly a month straight, he earned himself a hard spanking... and a promise of more to come if he didn't get in at least 8 workouts over the next two weeks. Mr G took the warning seriously, and by the third day of the week he'd already been to the gym three times. A great job there.

Unfortunately, Mr G also was snacking far too much. The main culprit were some peanut butter filled pretzels. Mrs G was none too please about that when she checked the diet log mid-week, and she issued another warning. Any more snacking, and there would be severe consequences.

Again, Mr G took the warning to heart. The fact that he'd just received a hard spanking the week before was a big motivator. He didn't want any more of that!

At the end of the week weigh-in, the scale showed a very slight gain. In the past, that would have meant a spanking. Now though, Mrs G takes everything into account and makes a decision based on that. Since the snacking had stopped, and things were going good with workouts at the gym... Mr G avoided a spanking. He did however get 100 lines, which he had to write immediately after his weigh-in.

This new approach that the G's are using calls for a much more hands on disciplinarian. Mrs G is up to the task though, and we know positive results are coming.

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Peaches: Peaches set a new weight loss goal several weeks ago... to reach a BMI (Body Mass Index) of 21. It's an aggressive goal, and she was struggling with it at the beginning. But once El Domino started a morning paddling ritual to help break through the plateau, Peaches hit her stride. This week, she made it to the half way point of her goal. Great news and we're so happy for both of them.

Peaches has had to order new clothes for her work, as the old stuff has just gotten too baggy for her. Of course, people at work want to know how she does it. Same with family members. At a birthday party last week, several people wanted to know what the secret to her success was.

Peaches was honest. She's using portion control, cutting back on snacks and calories and being more active. Of course, everyone knows that. Eat less - exercise more... it's no secret. What people ~really~ want to know is how Peaches manages to stay motivated to do those basic things.

Here is where Peaches has to be a little secretive. Not because she wants to. She'd love to let her friends and family in on the secret... because for some of them, weight loss is really a medical necessity. But, Peaches knows that some wont understand (or worse) so she is forced to go with a vanilla answer. That's probably the biggest negative of the spanking diet. Can't pass it on to others!

Peaches is well on her way to goal, and we all know how she's doing it though. We're all real proud of her success too.

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Michelle (from Brat Out Of Control): Michelle was down 2.4 pounds this week, which is awesome news. MG (my guy) was extremely proud of her, and told her she'd earned a very nice reward. Michelle was happy about the results, and was glad to earn a reward. But, she was feeling guilty about something.

Normally she'd just let this go and move on with her day feeling guilty. She's been working real hard on being more honest and vocal about her feelings though... and this week, she took a big step and told MG what was on her mind. Towards the end of the week, she was feeling stressed about some vanilla issues and she went on an eating binge. Really overdid it, and actually was surprised that it didn't show up at the scale.

Michelle also shared that she was worried that her emotional eating would continue into the new week. MG said he was real proud of her for being so honest, and that he was happy with her loss for the week... but that out of control eating was simply not acceptable and would earn a discipline spanking every time.

So, Michelle lost this week... but got a spanking anyway. And MG didn't hold back. His discipline spankings always count, and this one was no exception. He was very firm in his scolding too and made it clear that eating decisions would be made for the right reasons (nutrition and not to feel emotionally better).

Michelle tells us that she really did feel better after the spanking. Well, her poor bottom was hurting big-time... but emotionally, she felt centered again. Sounds like a spanking was just what was needed. Michelle is off to a good start this week, and hasn't had any emotion eating issues. Sounds good to us!

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Lori (from Switching Gears): Lori is still having a bit of trouble getting herself completely back on track. Vanilla issues keep getting in the way. This week, Joe had a nasty cold that put him largely out of commission. Lori was a good mouse though, and didn't get too naughty while the cat was away. For the week, she was down 0.3 pounds. Good job!

Now normally, Lori would get spanked for any loss under a pound... but Joe was too busy sneezing to administer it. We hope Joe feels better real soon, and that Lori can make her 1 pound goal next week.

We are glad that Lori is enough on track enough to be weighing herself and losing weight. We like her chances of making her 1 pound goal next week.

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Jean: Jean has managed to get herself into some pretty deep trouble the last few weeks. She'll do good for several days in a row, and then out of the blue... she'll have an extremely naughty day. Last week, the naughty highlight was a little cookie eating binge (even though cookies are a big no-no). That earned her some serious time with the wood paddle.

But, it had gotten to the point that not much more could be added to the spankings she's already earned (one from each of us). So, Jean was told that if she had any big misdeeds this week... a third spanking would have to be added to her total. Jean didn't like any part of that idea, and she got herself motivated to make sure it didn't happen.

It worked too, because she had a perfect week! She tested at least 6 times a day... she never missed taking her insulin, she ate at least once every 4 waking hours and her diet was spot on. Great job! We're real proud of her.

In fact, she did better than she was even supposed to. Her doctor has told her to start rotating where she takes her shots. Jean hates that, because it hurts anywhere besides her tummy. But, she did what her doctor told her to do. So, extra good girl points for that.

Not all the news is sunny though. Jean's blood sugar level started to crash at one point last week. Instead of taking the medicine she has that fixes this problem (doesn't like the taste), she tried to fix it by drinking juice. When she got even lower, she stopped drinking the juice. A friend tried to get her to drink it by putting the glass back in her hand... and Jean responded by tossing the juice on the poor guy! Luckily a more assertive friend stepped in and made her drink the juice (he was probably a spanking!).

Obviously this was a very naughty misdeed. Not for actually throwing the juice. By that point, Jean honestly didn't know what she was doing. The real issue was how she got to that point in the first place... not taking the yucky tasting gel. Jean got a pass of sorts for this, because there was no rule about it in place. There is now though! Jean promises to take her gel when needed from now on, so it shouldn't be a problem again. We're hoping for another perfect week.

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Jessica & Dan: Jess got herself in trouble last week. After a long run, she rightly assumed that the scale would show a loss. Maybe even a big loss. Instead, it showed a big GAIN! That set Jess on quite a "what's the point" tailspin. As unfair as the gain was, Jess wasn't evening the score by going off of her diet.

So hubby Dan stepped in and made a new rule... no more weighing-in without him being there. After Jess got her bottom paddled for not listening to the rule, she realized hubby was serious. It was really hard not weighing-in this week, but Jess did manage to do it. Great job there! We know how hard that habit is to break.

Another hard habit to break is trips through the fast food window and then later eating a large piece of cake... and there, Jess had less luck with old habits. Dan was less than thrilled. No excuse about being upset by what the scale was saying this time. This was just naughty behavior, pure and simple.

Jess got a very hard paddling for her misdeed. Dan held very little back, and he made it clear that it was time to get back on track. Jess tells us her bottom was sore a full day later. Ouch!

Jess is feeling good about this week and has high hopes that she'll earn a reward. We know she can do it!

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Pat & Karen: Karen had a hectic week. She's home talking care of the four kids while hubby is off in Iraq fighting terrorists. Given that Karen was dealing with sick kids all week, along with a cold of her own... we're not sure who has the toughest job!

Karen did manage to hang in there though. She very much wanted to avoid earning a punishment on her first week of the Spanking Diet. It was hard because of not being able to do her daily walks, but food decisions went pretty good given the challenges. At her Weight Watchers weigh-in... which had to be a day early this week... Karen was the same.

Keep in mind that she's been doing WW for a while already, and in fact has lost over 10 pounds on it. So, pounds don't just fall off like they tend to do in the first week or two of a diet. All in all, she's happy to have made it through the week without a gain.

She's feeling better know, as is the rest of the family. So things are back to normal... and Karen tells us she's real excited about having a good week and earning her first reward. Sounds like a healthy does of motivation... both from the carrot (rewards) and the stick (spankings)... is getting the job done. That's the way is it should work, and we're wishing Karen and Pat lots of luck this week!

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Beth: We'd like to welcome Beth to the Diet Group. We're real excited to have her join and very much look forward to sharing this journey to a healthier lifestyle with her. Welcome!

Beth has tried a spanking diet before, but had it fad away when finance Paul didn't spank when there was a gain... because he could see how hard she was trying. Yes, another dreaded 'nice guy' spanker! lol, but Paul is motivated to stick with whatever plan they come up with this time. He's going to have a lot more to do with setting up the rules this time.

Luckily Paul and Beth have been living a DD lifestyle for a little over 4 years now. So, they're not newbies to this. But diet is a tough issue to tackle, because there is so much emotional baggage to it. Paul in no way wants to ever spank for "being fat"... he not only would never feel that way, but he knows that sort of feeling to a spanking wouldn't work for Beth (or most any spankee).

It's a delicate mix to come up with a plan that emphasizes the positive, and punishes in the right way. They're taking the time to set things up the right way, which is the way to do it. Don't RUSH into this. Take the time to get it right from the start.

We hope to have the details of their agreement to share next week... and we do wish Beth lots of luck!

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Thrilled to have Beth join the group this week. She's a really nice woman, and we think she's a great addition. In fact, she already came up with an excellent suggestion. She thinks some sort of members forum would be a good idea. Perhaps even something specific for those that are on the receiving end of the Spanking Diet.

When we get back from Texas next week, we're going to explore the idea of a weekly chat... or perhaps a message board group. Something that is more directly interactive. Maybe a Yahoo Group. If you have any ideas, or any interest in something like that... please do leave a comment or drop us a line.

Good luck to everyone this week!

If you're interested in the Diet Group here... if you have questions, or might like to join... please just drop us an Email at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. We blog about this because we like talking to people that share our desire to get healthier and are willing to consider using spanking to help motivate the effort. So, please don't be shy!

2008-04-07T23:04:00.000-07:00

All Things Spanking

The internet has been a gold mine for spankos. What once was only found in obscure fetish magazines is now just a click away. A few minutes of word searching on Google is all it takes to learn that an interest in spanking is not an uncommon thing.

The problem with the internet though is, it throws ~everything~ at you. While looking for something about safe and sane adult consensual spanking, it's easy to stumble into a hardcore torture site or something that is illegal.

Fortunately, there are members of the spanking community that are willing to do the searching and filtering for you... and Mitch from All Things Spanking just happens to be one of those individuals.

His blog is more or less broken down into two sections. On one part he posts interesting finds from across the internet. Pictures and videos from both the vanilla world and the spanko world. Vintage images, advertisements, humor, survey questions, interesting finds from other blogs... on and on it goes. If it's got something to do with adult consensual spanking, there is a good chance Mitch will be sharing it in one of his daily posts.

Then, the other part of ATS is the side-bar section to the right. A wide-wide list of links to spanking blogs (broken into handy sections)... spanking stories... spanking videos... different spanking forums... lists of spanking books... artwork and photography... and one of our favorites, a list of different spanking party groups that can be found across the United States and Canada.

Mitch really does a great job, and as members of the online spanking community... we both really do appreciate his efforts. His blog is worth checking out, and we think it's definitely worth bookmarking. You'll find yourself going back time and time again. We know we do! So, please do yourself a favor and head over to

All Things Spanking

Roundtable Wrap-up

2008-04-06T23:50:00.000-07:00

How secretive are you about your spanking interests? Who do you keep in the dark and what lengths do you go to? Why do you think that is? What's the major driving force behind not being completely open about your spanko side? Have you become more open or closed about sharing your interests? Have you had any bad experiences sharing?

Every spanko we know is at least a little secretive about their spanking interests. Some are only 'in the closet' with a few people in their lives... while others tell almost no one, not even their spouse. We wondered what motivated this, and if there were any exceptions to the rule. So, we asked... and lots of you took the time to share your thoughts, and we do thank you.

Here are the results of the Quick Response Poll.

What's the *main* reason you keep your spanking interests hidden?
Don't want my children knowing. ~ 14%
Don't want friends or family knowing. ~ 40%
Worry about my job. ~ 5%
I'm a private person in general. ~ 26%
My partner wants/needs discretion. ~ 5%
Something else. ~ 2%
I don't keep any part of my spanko side a secret. ~ 7%

Not wanting friends or family knowing was the winner, with just being a private person in general finishing close behind. We're a little surprised that concerns about a job and partner wanting discretion didn't do better. We actually know quite a few spankos that would pick one of these reasons. They must not have voted!

Here are this week's comments, and an extra thank you to those that made the extra effort. We do appreciate it!

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Jessica said: We have not told anyone of our secret spanking life. I have been tempted to tell a friend a couple of times, but I didn't do it. I think society sees spanking as deviant. I also think there is a misperception that people wanting to be spanked. Nothing can be further from the truth. Most of the spankees are strong people.

~Well, you have told us Jessica. :smile: But we know what you mean. It's funny, because we all surely have vanilla friends that are spankos too. They'd love to talk about it too. But then, there are also those that would freak out or think less of you. No way of knowing which is which, and often times it's not worth the risk of finding out.~

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Jenni said: Hi Todd and Suzy!

For me its an issue of family. Sure I blog and share pictures of my punishments, but no one other than my best friend and strict Spankos know of this side of me. I think, for me, the not sharing stems from the fear that ‘if’ they knew, they would somehow, for some reason think less of me as a person. It’s a insecurity factor on my part for sure.

Another factor is that society (some parts of it anyway) situate Spankos as sexual weirdo’s or as being into paraphernalia which is so untrue! It's about being made to feel bad about something that is so natural for me. This is a part of who I am, always has been--so not being able to share it, is hard. A secret that is mine to share with who I wish. Or not as the case may be. It all depends on the person, I think--and for me, right now, sharing this side of me with family is not an option. I hope to one day be able to be more open though. Its a journey.

~First of all, it's awesome that you are able to share your spanko side with your best friend. Not everyone has a 'best friend' that they could share something like this with. Know what you mean too about how others might judge, and how that would change the relationship. We think that's especially true for a spankee.~

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J. said: I'm pretty secretive about my spankoness. I don't really go to any extremes to keep it hidden since it's something I only discuss with my wife who is a somewhat willing bottom. Otherwise, I don't share my private life with many. I've only recently started commenting on blogs. I find them not only informative, but also a support system that helps me realize there is nothing wrong with being a spanko.

~We totally agree that the online spanking community is a big help. We've found it to be a great support system and a tremendous help in our journey.~

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lddcurious said: Hi Todd and Suzy... this is one I can actually answer!!! The main reason I hide any interest I have about any aspect of a dd relationship... I do not want my family or friends finding out. I am very careful to hide my interest because having your husband as the head of the house and spanking is not the status quo. I would be extremely embarrassed if my family and friends did find out. I do not really classify myself as a 'spanko' per se, because I have not been in a relationship with spanking and I do not think I would enjoy it at all. I just like the principle behind the dd relationships of having the husband as head and the close relationships the dd couples seem to have.

~Spanking is hard enough to explain, but DD is a real challenge. There isn't the kinky sexual aspect that a vanilla friend or family member can focus on. We know we're much more open about fun and erotic spankings than we are about DD spankings.~

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Sherryl said: I'm a private person about my self-spanking. The problem I'm facing now is that my mom needs help once in a while and I help. She has to leave the trailer park she's been living in because it is closing and Mom decided to be a snowbird. I'm going with her to help out and keep her company. I am taking my paddles with me but living in a camper with her there will be little to no time that I can use them without her being there. I guess I'll just have to wait, there is no way am I giving up my paddles.

~We've dealt with privacy issues... but yea, being on a road trip in a camper... that is a real challenge! Also would be really hard to explain self-spanking to a vanilla. We've only shared the self-spanking we had when we were long distance with other spanko friends.~

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Span King said: As far as I know, no one outside the blogosphere knows that I am a spanko. The only person that I would want to know is my Love of 33 years, but I am fearful that it would upset the magical balance of our relationship. We are more in love with each other than ever and would rather spend time with each other than anyone in the world. We have something truly special and I would do anything, including being secretive about my spanko desires, to preserve that bond.

~We talked about the fear of changing a friendship if spanko interests are shared... so can only imagine your concern with your wife. It's a tough spot, but we can totally understand your decision.~

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Lori said: Wow, those are a lot of questions in one question. We have not told anyone in the vanilla world. It's hard enough to explain that I want my husband to be in charge of the home. Even that is seen as weird. I don't have a best friend right now but if I did, I would really want to share with her. My best friend all my life moved away and I don't see her anymore. If she moved back here and we saw each other all the time, I think I would share it with her. We always talked about everything. Joe may not agree with this though, so if he objected I would have to refrain. Joe would never tell any of his friends. He feels spanking is something very private in our lives.
Hugs to you both,
Lori

~You bring an interesting point to mind... it does seem that females are a lot more likely to share their spanking interests with vanilla friends than males are. Certainly that way for us. Suzy has shared with several vanilla friends and even with her mother, whereas Todd hasn't said a word to any non-spankos.~

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David 007 said: I think family will be the # 1 answer for most folks responding. All of my real friends are already in the community with me. ;) My family members represent the full spectrum. One could probably handle the info but doesn't WANT to know. One could probably handle it but I don't feel like sharing. One could NOT handle the info and I couldn't handle their having it. The last one would probably be cool about it, but would also tell the others. :p

~You're right, family and friends was #1. Does seem too that we have more and more friends in the spanking community too. It's just so much nicer having friends that we can share this part of our life with.~

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New Beginnings said: I have always felt like this was my deep dark secret. But telling Nick and making all my friends on the blogs I am much more relaxed. That, however, doesn't mean I have told many people.

My sister is the one family member I have told. Telling her made me see that even if you tell someone or they find out by accident they still don't REALLY understand. They still just think of it a an unusual sexual foreplay. They won't understand the deeper meaning unless you chose to go into deep detail with them. She and I did get a chance to talk again last week and she asked if we were 'still into it'. I told her yes. And she asked "Doesn't it hurt?" and I told her "Hell yes!" She just shook her head and laughed!

~You told your sister spanking hurt? lol, you're not a good recruiter! Seriously, totally understand what you're saying It's almost pointless to tell some people about spanking because they just wont grasp it no matter how much you explain.~

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Amber Pixie Wells said: Well, I'm fairly open in the sense that I work in the spanking industry and appear on websites as well as on my personal blog, but when it comes to people in my everyday life, it really depends. I've come out to some friends, but not others and definitely not my family. I'm cautious about who I tell because I know that not everyone will be understanding and non-judgmental. Thankfully everyone that I have shared with so far has been incredibly supportive even if they are not spankos themselves.

~It's great that those that you've shared with have been so supportive. You must be a pretty good judge of character. That you're so well known in the spanking community, yet still remain cautious about your interests with some people kind of shows what we were talking about this week. It's close to impossible to be totally open about spanking. There are just some people that will not understand, and we all have to deal with that reality. ~

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Suzy Says: This is one of the areas where Todd and I are completely different. My entire personality focuses upon up front openness and honesty and communication and so I try my hardest to share my life with those I can. However, unfortunately that's not always possible. I am a mother and I don't think our lifestyle would be appropriate to share with my son until he's an adult. I have shared it with my own mother but she really isn't comfortable talking about it on a regular basis. My dad and I wouldn't feel comfortable talking about this with because he's way too judgmental and I don't feel like trying to defend my own personal choices with him. I have tried to open to my friends as much as I feel is possible and as time passes I am opening up more and more to them. I have found this has cost me some closeness with some and gained some closeness with others but I know it feels good so I will keep doing it.

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Todd Says: I'm "secretive" about my spanking interests with family and vanilla friends in the sense that I don't ever intentionally expose myself. For example, we're going to Texas next week to attend the All-State Spanking party. That's why we're going. But, while we're there... we'll also check out San Antonio. Perhaps go the Alamo and the Riverwalk.

When the vanilla people in my life ask what we're going to Texas for... I talk about seeing the Alamo. I just don't mention that sandwiched all around the tourist stuff will be lots of spanking fun!

My reasoning for that is simple. I don't want to make the person I'm talking with uncomfortable. It's sort of like asking some in an elevator how they're doing... and getting a 10 minute story about their evil ex-wife, a bad case of hemorrhoids and how broke they are in return. It's just too much information and it's not really the 'social' answer that was expected.

When it comes to other spankos though, I'm extremely open. I enjoy talking about and hearing about spanking... and since talking about it completely acceptable... I don't feel any need to hold back.

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All the photos in this week's wrap-up come from the Dallas Spanks Hard site... which is an extremely accurate name!

S.I.R.

2008-04-05T14:52:00.001-07:00

Every spanking implement we have has it's own 'personality.' Some are fun or sexy, some are serious and some are even a little mean. They each have their own niche and each is capable of providing exactly what is needed in a given spanking situation. One implement that had been lacking in our collection though was something playful for a spanking party.

Since we are going to three spanking parties this year, including the Texas All State's Spanking Party next weekend... we decided to try and fill that gap in our collection with a new paddle. Because so many of our friends first got to know us through our blog, we wanted to try to find something that somehow incorporated the American Spanking Society blog into it. We wanted it to be something a little eye popping too, while of course keeping it on the playful side.

What we came up with was the Big Red A.S.S. Paddle, and it's the subject of this week's Spanking Implement Review.

As you can see, it is red and we did get it personalized. It's big too, 6" wide and 16" in length. The paddle comes from Lee at Paddle Master Products. He calls this version the 'The Spankster.' It's one of his largest paddles, and it sells for $25.

We picked Lee in large part because of how much we enjoy his products. Our 'Brat Paddle' remains a favorite. The deal clincher for us though was the personalization option Lee offers. For $5, Lee will put on any permanent vinyl lettering you like. Don't know of any other paddle maker that offers this service.

Lee did a great job too! We love the way the A.S.S. ~pops~ off the paddle. The black and white lettering on red works perfectly. Couldn't be happier with the way it looks. In fact, we decided to get a paddle stand to display our new Big Red A.S.S. paddle as well. Didn't make much sense to store it in a bag... we want to be able to set it out in our hotel room so everyone can see it (and maybe want to give it a test spin!). Lee sells these stands for $15... and they are well built and nice looking.

So, we're thrilled with how everything looks. The lettering, the stand and the paddle itself all look great. But, this isn't purely a display item. It is a *working* paddle! We've used it a few times already, including on Jean's naughty bottom. But, it's always been used along with a number of other implements in the mix. For this review. the Big Red A.S.S. paddle was the star.

Usually these S.I.R. spankings are just about the review, but last night before the spanking, Suzy was in a naughty mood, big time! Maybe it's because she has spanking on the brain with the party coming up, but whatever the case... she managed to get herself into some trouble. While chatting with our friend Lyn, Suzy again used a naughty word.

We'll share more about exactly what happened there later, because it's an interesting story all by itself. But suffice to say that Suzy managed to earn herself a hard spanking on top of the S.I.R. spanking. That works out though, because we like to test out different kinds of spankings when reviewing an implement.

Since Suzy had just taken a shower, the spanking started off on her bare bottom. Her bare ~wet~ bottom that is. Things began with some light and slow swats, but it wasn't long before the pace had speeded up. Still lighter to moderate spanks, but they were falling in rapid fire order.

Even though this was just a warm-up, Suzy started to kick and twist. One reason for that surely was the size of the paddle. It's large enough that it is very easy for it to land on the same ouch spots time and time again.

Her kicking and twisting got to be busy enough that she had to be restrained. Unable to move, Suzy started to yelp. As the warmup went from light/moderate to moderate/hard, Suzy started to strain and complain. Her bottom also turned pink... a nice even coat of color across both cheeks.

From the playful, we moved to the erotic. The Big Red A.S.S. paddle is simply too big for spanking the more 'intimate' areas that make a spanking erotic for Suzy, at least in any sort of direct way. But with some hand maneuvering, the more sensitive spots were more accessible.

Besides being in a bratty mood, Suzy was also in a horny mood. It didn't take long for her to have a very nice orgasm... which she had while being paddled.

Some more playful spanking followed, which got Suzy's bottom toasty to the touch. A little rubbing gave her skin a rest, before it was time for the harder portion of the spanking.

Suzy's bottom got a solid 5 minutes of fast and hard spanks, which got her on the verge of tears. The spanking concluded with 10 really-really hard ones... which Suzy had to count. Nothing at all playful about these spankings. All business. Suzy had a real problem counting towards the end. She took several moments to get the words out.

Normally this would mark the end of the spanking. But this time, those final 10 only meant the end of the S.I.R. spanking. Suzy wasn't at all happy about this, most especially when the wood paddle came out. She tried hard to talk her way out of it... trying to pin her trouble on Lyn. Lyn has her own debt to pay though, so Suzy wasn't able to talk her way out of it.

More about that later though!

The S.I.R. spanking got done, and that's the focus today. Here is an individual look at what we each thought of the Big Red A.S.S. paddle. We've included two videos also. The first one is a snip from the playful part of the spanking... and the last one is from the hard/discipline part of the spanking (where Suzy was counting).

Hopefully the videos work for you. Seems like a 50/50 deal no matter what video site we use.

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Suzy, the spankee: Woohoo.. Let me put it this way, there is NO bottom left untouched with this BIG ASS PADDLE!

I liked it when Todd started off ... it felt like a solid steady beat.. lightly thudding against my bottom and I could feel warmth spread over the surface... but as Todd mentioned, once the stinging does start on the sensitive spots, EVERY SINGLE SWAT afterwards hits them!

With a regular paddle, you have a chance at least that it won't hit that same spot but not with this baby!

I find it is very enjoyable for playful spankings because you can give a really hard SWAT and I don't jump right out of my skin lol... I think it works good for DD spankings too because of the MAJOR stinging that occurs once the sensitive layer of skin has been swatted a few times and the initial stinging has begun..

I know I wanted Todd to change paddles quick once the same spot was hit a few times (but then again, if it was always comfortable, it wouldn't work for DD very well).

The only thing it isn't ideal for is the erotic spankings because it's really just too big for that .. but Lee has a number of other smaller paddles that work GREAT for those type of spankings :)
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Todd, the spanker: I am a big fan of our 'Brat Paddle' that we got last year. Really can't say enough about what a great paddle that is. I also really-really like the way Lee personalized our new Big Red A.S.S. paddle. He really did a great job. It's exactly what we wanted.

That said, I was concerned that this paddle might basically just be a repeat... from a spanking perspective... of what we already have. Happily though, that turned out not to be the case. The size of this paddle really gives it a different feel. I love how it easily can spank both cheeks at the same time. I can tell that it really adds to the sting because of that. There is no 'down time' for the skin to recover from the sting it is feeling.

If I want there to be a recovery time, that's easy enough to do. But having the option to launch a buzzing bee attack on the ~entire~ bottom is hard to resist!

The Big Red A.S.S. paddle is perfect for what we got it for too. It's really not a very good erotic spanking implement. I can make it work, but only if I use my hands to a great extent. The paddle is just too big for that job. That's fine though, because we got this paddle for playful party-type spankings... and I think it's *perfect* for that. Not only because of the way it looks, but because of the way it spanks.

This paddle isn't going to cause bruising, but it can quickly get a bottom bright red... which is perfect for a spanking party. That it covers the entire bottom is nice too, as is the fact that it is a real sting causing implement.

When it comes to harder or discipline-type spankings, the Big Red A.S.S. paddle is more than up to the job. Just the fact that it covers the entire bottom and causes so much sting, gives it the qualifications to lay down a painful spanking. However, when it comes to a HARD spanking... it's not really much of a thud implement. It's not something I'd pick to use to give a short and hard spanking... like one where the spankee is going to get 10 or 20 spanks that have to be counted.

So, a mixed bag when it comes to discipline spankings. Really depends on what you're looking for. Long and painful with tons of sting and no bruises... this bad boy will work great.

I also think this paddle would work great with a wood 'thud' paddle. Our friend Dixie (from The Inner Workings of Dixie) loves a spanking that starts with lots of sting... moves to thud... and finishes with some more sting. This paddle is perfect for the sting part.

And since we'll be seeing Dixie next week at the spanking party... you can count on the Big Red A.S.S. paddle getting some more work!

Great paddle for parties. Huge thumbs up from me, and I just can't say enough about the personal service and care Lee gave Suzy and myself. He stands behind his work with a ~no questions asked~ 30 day guarantee too. I really do recommend you checkout Lee's site at Paddle Master Products. Thanks Lee!

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Hard Spanking for Suzy

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Suzy gets spanking for Spanking Implement Review

Two Cents about Spanking

2008-04-04T23:37:00.000-07:00

Tips on being Consistent with DD Spankings

A couple of weeks ago we posted some tips for spankers new to giving Domestic Discipline type spankings (you can see that post HERE). Two of the biggest keys we shared were probably communication and consistency.

It seems that a great deal of focus is given to the communication side. Just about every source we find on the subject stresses the importance of talking things out. We know in our 'Tips' post, the first things we listed was "Have open and honest two way communication."

The entire point of talking though, is setting things up so the ~doing~ will go smoothly. Once there is a clear understanding in place, it's time to implement it... and it is there that we see the most problems. The most common problem, at least that we see when we talk and listen to our many spankee friends... is the consistency of the spankings.

Here is a pretty typical situation:

A couple sits down and comes up with a very clear and easily understood rule or expectation. If this rule is broken or the expectation isn't met... a hard discipline spanking will be given. Spanker and spankee are on the same page and move forward with the agreement in place.

Early on, there is a violation and... just as agreed... a hard discipline/punishment spanking is given. This pattern is repeated a few times more, and everything runs smoothly.

Then there is another violation, only this time... something changes. All of a sudden a warning is given, or a break is extended to the spankee (I wont spank you this time). Or maybe nothing at all is said or done. The misdeed is just ignored, like it didn't happen. Or maybe a spanking is given, only it's far more fun/erotic than it is discipline.

Before long, inconsistency becomes the order of the day. The spankee honestly has no idea what will happen when they violate the rule.

This can cause a variety of reactions. The spankee can get frustrated because they don't understand what's going on. They can feel emotionally hurt (uncared for)... they can feel angry (when a hard spanking does finally result)... they can feel it's all a game... they can feel inadequate or lacking (like they've been given up on). They can also feel that their spanker just isn't keeping their end of the agreement and thus start to resent the entire agreement.

Lots of possibilities, and none of them very good. What was started to create a positive turns into a negative.

Here are a few ideas that can help with consistency. These are things we've learned through our own trial and error, as well as from having talked to many successful spanko couples through the years.

1) Keep it simple.
- We've made this suggestion before, but it really is worth repeating. Don't take on too much. If the agreement is long and/or complex... it gets way too easy to start cutting corners. If there are 20 different rules or several different extremely challenging expectations to meet... spankings are going to be ~extremely~ common.

While extremely common, close to everyday spankings might sound like an easy enough thing for a spanker to do... it's actually quite a challenge. Day to day vanilla issues get in the way. Unless the spanker is *sure* they'll have the time and motivation to spank as often as it likely would be needed... pick simpler rules that will fit more easily into a busy lifestyle.

Of course, rules can be adjusted in time. But it's always easier to add than it is to subtract.

2) The agreement needs to be within the spanker's comfort zone.
- We'll let you in on a little secret here. Most spankers are extremely nice and caring people, with large hearts and lots of compassion. There are many things that motivate them to spank, but being mean is not one of them (at least with the spankers we know).

In fact, they hate the idea of feeling like they're being mean. They need to keep that in mind when setting up rules and expectations. If they allow for a rule that seems harsh or somewhat unreasonable (to them), guess what... chances are they won't be consistent with it. They'll cut their spankee breaks at every turn.

An example might be a rule that calls for no ice cream. The spankee likes the rule, because it will help them lose weight faster. The spanker though, feels that no ice cream at all is a bit too much. So, when ice cream is eaten... they'll look for a reason to not spank for it. It would be far better to instead work out a rule that is within the spankers comfort zone (like ice cream once a week, or only with permission, would be possibilities).

3) Acknowledge that a rule has been broken.
- Ideally a spanking would be given immediately after the misdeed that earned it has been committed. Of course, that's not always practical. Many times a spanking must wait. Nothing wrong with that, but recognize when it is put off... it becomes easier to skip it entirely.

A good way to help avoid that is for the spanker to clearly point out that they're aware of the misdeed, and that a spanking has been earned because of it. Put it on the record, so to speak. Also can be helpful to pick a time for the spanking right then and there.

Not only will this let the spankee know that their spanker is watching and aware, but it makes it far less likely for the earned spanking to be forgotten.

4) Have a 'net' to catch any missed spankings.
- Pick a day each week or each month to have a talk about how things have been going. Longer term goals can be discussed, and progress towards meeting them can be examined. Accomplishments and improvements can be pointed out. It's also a good time to catch any violations that might have been missed during the last week/month.

Finding out if something was missed is as easy as asking the spankee too. They'll know, and trust us when we say... spankees are very honest! They will turn themselves in if directly asked.

Of course, private time should be set aside after the chat for any spanking that might need to be given. Using this simple system is a great way to ensure that there is consistency to DD spankings.

5) Do what you say.
- Pretty simple, but for a spanker... it's by far the most important thing that can be done to create consistency (and trust). If a spanker isn't sure they're going to spank for something, don't commit to spanking. The spankee has to know what consequences are coming for a DD arrangement to be successful.

We hope some of these tips will help spankers as they start their journey. And if you've got any tips or comments about consistency please do share.

Thursday Knight at the Roundtable

2008-04-03T17:12:00.000-07:00

*Hiding Your Spanko Side*

We've made lots of spanko friends over the last couple of years. We say "spanko friends" because these are friends that are also spanking enthusiasts. They are, of course, good people beyond their interest in spanking. Honest, wanting to do the right thing in this life... with a variety of hobbies and interests. The mutual interest in spanking that we share does have an extra appeal though.

A big part of the reason for that is, we're pretty secretive about our spanko side. Sure, we have this blog. But, we do keep our anonymity. We're careful to 'hide' our spanko side in our day to day life. Make sure paddles and such are always put away (hidden in closet), we don't tell (many) vanilla friends and family about our blog or spanking parties we go to and so on. It's thus nice to be able to have friends that we can be open about our spanko side with.

Our spanko friends also hide their interests to one degree or another. Some are totally hidden, going so far as not even telling their mate of their desires. Then some are open enough to have blogs in which they show their face and openly talk about their lives... yet even they do things to keep their spanko side hidden from some.

It's not that way with other hobbies and interests... nor is it that way with all things sexual. If you like swinging a golf club, you don't care who knows. But swinging a paddle, that's different. If you're heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual not many care. But spankosexual, that's often hidden.

We're wondering why that is. There are lots of possibilities and everyone has their own reasons. This week at the Roundtable, we'd like to talk about those reasons. As always, we invite everyone to share their thoughts. This is a good topic for all spankos too. So please do feel welcome! Here are a few questions to get the discussion going...

How secretive are you about your spanking interests? Who do you keep in the dark and what lengths do you go to? Why do you think that is? What's the major driving force behind not being completely open about your spanko side? Have you become more open or closed about sharing your interests? Have you had any bad experiences sharing?

You can comment HERE, or you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. Easy to use an alias, or even remain completely anonymous if you like too.

Also have the Quick Response Poll. It's not possible to list all the reasons spankos have for wanting some anonymity, but hopefully we found yours. Will post the wrap-up on Sunday. Have a great weekend and thanks for reading!

Suzy's Brat Spanking

2008-04-02T23:57:00.000-07:00

By Suzy
Even though I don't think I ever deserve a hard spanking, I knew ahead of time that I was getting one after I read Todd's response to my Brat weekend. I was kinda worried about my breaking the diet rules but that reckoning wouldn't be coming until Tuesday's weigh in and this was only Monday!

So, here it was Monday evening.. I'm chatting with my handsome spanker friend David and my bottom starts tingling with excitement knowing what's coming up soon. As the time draws near David shows interest in being there by phone again. I am very happy about this idea even though I remember the input David had last spanking and that wasn't all that helpful.. for me anyway lol.

Todd with his typical dominant manner, walks up behind me (I'm in my computer chair at the PC) and puts his hand gently on my shoulder and says "I think we need to get this taken care of now Suzy"... my head lowers slightly and I message David that I'll call in 5 minutes and we head towards the bedroom.

While I'm getting ready, Todd is gathering up all the necessary and some unnecessary implements and laying them beside him on the bed. David is on the phone, we all say our hellos and I know this can't be put off any longer.

Todd has me climb onto the bed and lay over his lap. I put my head on my oh too familiar brown pillow that has seen more than a few tears of my spanking suffering. I try to make the best of this and start speaking very cheerfully and casually to David on the speaker phone.. I can tell by his tone, that he knows this isn't the mood I'm supposed to have and he's not very receptive to it. I don't let this dissuade me though and I continue to have a lighthearted mood while Todd begins scolding me. I answer very matter of factly and this is NOT pleasing Todd. I should not be so casual regarding my upcoming spanking. As he realizes that I'm not even seriously listening to him, just answering whatever he asks and then making new conversation. He decides to stop the scolding and just get straight to business in order to get my mind focused back where it should be.

He pulls down my panties and says 'It's clear you aren't taking this seriously" and starts spanking VERY hard with his hand (I could have sworn it was a paddle it hurt so much) and he starts quizzing me about what I'm getting this spanking for. My mind and I swear this to be true, my mind literally went blank when he asked me to name the 3 things I was getting a spanking for. I am not sure if it was because I didn't think I deserved one, because I know I knew I did, or if it was just the mindset resisting going there. Luckily, we played this quiz like Who Wants to Be A Millionaire and Todd let me 'phone a friend' to get a hint lol. Luckily my friend was already on the phone and he knew right away what 3 things I was getting spanked for and his tone was very similar to Todd's in sounding like 'you should know this by heart Suzy'.. but he gave me the first clue and I figured out that I had missed going to the post office. (Todd is of course spanking me the entire time I am figuring this out, which certainly isn't helping my concentration). I still don't consider this my fault but Todd had every reasonable reason lined up for why I shouldn't have depended on anyone including my mother's memory to allow me to miss doing what I had promised to do. The fact that it took me a few minutes even with the clue to figure out this first offense seemed to bother Todd a great deal and he picked up the flexible ruler paddle which we got from our friend Warren and began paddling me very hard and very fast because I wasn't taking all this seriously enough.

Then he asked me the 2nd reason and again, my mind was just like an erased chalkboard.. there was NOTHING there.. it was as if I had this spontaneous amnesia and as ashamed as I was, I had to ask David for another clue. I know from his voice that he was probably thinking I was just being bratty but believe me I wasn't. I know Todd and at the beginning of a hard spanking is not the time to play these kind of games. David reminded me of the second reason when he said it had to do with the phone and I remembered having made that phone call early and not keeping to our agreed plan to wait for him to call me at midnight (9 pm in California). I tried to excuse my way out of this (big mistake that I seem to never learn not to make) and got an enormous amount of painful whacks from our new purple plastic 'hairbrush' paddle that we got from Lee of Paddle Master Products (this is the paddle Lee has on sale right now for $15, btw).

The last reason was right on the tip of my tongue because I had repeated the reasons after each spanking so I should have been able to just blurt this out shouldn't I? But I think my brains must have been missing in action because it took me a good full minute to recall that I said the word "FUCKER"..(I am just being clear not saying it again so I shouldn't get spanked again or that's a case of double jeopardy isn't it?) here's the worse part, it was said.. ABOUT TODD.. lol. Even though It was the naughtiest of the misdeeds because I had just gotten a spanking for saying the 'F' word last week and I certainly should have remembered why not to do it. Now me saying that it was in a chat that he wasn't a part of wasn't gonna get me anywhere so I didn't bother saying that. I did say that it was in a joking manner and that didn't get me anywhere either. In fact, it seemed the more times Todd said aloud what I did, the harder the spanks for it became. I was almost thinking he'd just keep doing this and never stop. I was sobbing and muffling my cries in the pillow so as to keep David from hearing me but that was to no avail since we had placed the speaker phone right next to my face where he could clearly hear EVERYTHING. But eventually all bad things do come to an end and this spanking with the WOOD HEART paddle we got from our friend El Domino finally stopped. You all know how much I HATE wood paddles and believe me I know how much I hate the F word now too :)

My bottom was very sore and throbbing and even a little bit numb and Todd and David started chatting while I was rubbing my bottom and then since I was still over his lap, Todd occasionally smacked me a few times with the Yellow plastic 'Stinger' paddle (also from Lee at Paddle Master Products) for some of my sarcastic commentary. I always think that next time I'll learn to bite my tongue but it never seems to happen. Todd even made me blush almost as red as my bottom by checking between my legs to see how 'punished' I really was, since I was soaking wet as I always am, he whacked me a couple more times to reaffirm that I still hadn't taken my spanking seriously enough :)

We videotaped lots of portions of this spanking but so far haven't been able to upload them to pornkolt, so if anyone knows of any upload sites that will allow nude material, let us know :)

*****UPDATE*****
We found a place to upload to .. at least it's working so far :) Here's a video from my Brat Spanking.. this Stinger really STINGS!

***Looks like Anonymous got to see the video just in time, they removed it already. Since the other videos are still showing, I'm hoping it was because this one was a bit long, we'll see. I'll let you know when we find another place to post them :)

Diet Update

2008-04-01T23:06:00.000-07:00

Suzy's bratty weekend turned out to be far-far more costly than she'd bargained for. She knew that all the eating out would probably cause a gain, though she hoped to save the week with a strong effort on Monday. Still, a pound or so gain... and the spanking that goes with it... seemed real likely.

This morning she got undressed and stepped onto the scale, and she did indeed gain a pound. ...and 5.2 more beyond it. That's a 6.2 pound gain. Hoping that it was a scale malfunction, she stepped off and then tried again. Up 6.4 pounds this time. This got the scale a good shake and placement on a new spot on the floor. Up 6.2 pounds.

There was no denying the facts. It was a big gain. Our rules call for at least 10 really-really hard spanks on the bare bottom for any gain. But, for every tenth of a pound over 1 pound... it's an extra spank. That works out to 62 spanks in total, easily the most ever.

Given how naughty and bratty Suzy was over the weekend, there was no reason for any sort of break either. Not that Suzy didn't ask... beg, plead... for one. She'd earned the 62 spanks though, and as unpleasant as that was... it had to be done.

Suzy was already naked, so there was no delay in getting down to business. We went straight over to the bed and Suzy was bottoms up in moments.

The first spank whipped through the air at nearly full force before crashing into Suzy's skin. No more had the pain registered and a yelp of agony filled the air... and the second spank had landed on her other cheek. Then another, and then another.

Suzy was in tears before the 6th spank, and she was full out crying by about #15. By about #35 though, she'd run out of tears and was more or less hyperventilating. The spanking would have continued, except at #41... the wood paddle broke in two! Solid, heavy wood paddle cracked right in half!

In fact, when it broke... one half of it flew in the air and got stuck right in the ceiling.

So, Todd had to get a new paddle... and start the spanking over from the start. Yea, that's the ticket. Only this time he got a paddle made of titanium and...

lol... okay, so we had a little April Fools fun with you. So were you feeling sorry for Suzy? We bet not!

The real truth is, despite her naughty couple of meals... Suzy still lost. She had a very good week at the scale, as did Todd. Just not a lot of drama in the diet right now. Things are going slow. These aren't big losses by any stretch, but we have managed to be steady about taking a little off each week. We're more than happy with that!

If you'd like to know more about how our diet works, the carrot and spanking stick approach we use... just click the above picture for details.
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Diet Friends Update

Caryagal: Carye is off on vacation this week, so no update from her to share. She is getting a break from weighing-in, but she did tell us before leaving that she's going to try to be a good girl with her diet this week. We hope she's having lots of fun and can't wait to hear from her next week.

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Elis (from New Beginnings): PK was off on vacation this last week, and she had a great time. She got to see her good friend Eva (from Nothing Random) . They both share some of the details of their time together on their blogs. Good stuff! Be sure to check out it.

As for the diet, PK had a pass this week. Good thing too, because she was up. Way up! PK says she was a little naughty, but no where near what the scale is saying. She did lots of walking, and really did focus on portion size. Vacations are hard enough on a diet as is. Just not fair that a gain happens even when you try!

PK didn't get spanked though, so no harm - no foul. But, next week does count... and PK will need to take off what she gained to save her bottom. We know she can do it. Just hope the scale decided to be fair this week!

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Mister G: Mr G was super busy with family and church last week, and didn't keep up his daily diet log. He did get a chance to step on the scale every morning though, and almost without fail... it was up every time. In two weeks, those gains totaled up to 9.2 pounds.

Mrs G noticed too. The first thing that tipped her off was the fact that Mr G hadn't been to the gym in nearly a month. When she further investigated. She found the empty pages in the diet journal, and she noticed the 9+ pound gain too.

Now, the number on the scale doesn't get Mr G spanked. It's his effort... or his lack of effort in this case... that does the trick. The lack of entries in the log and trips to the gym doomed Mr G's butt. Have to say though, that the 9 pound gain on the scale didn't help. Numbers do lie, but there does tend to be some truth in the bigger ones.

Mr G hadn't been spanked in quite a while, and he told us that he'd forgotten how painful they were. Mrs G quickly reminded him. Lots of implements were used, and Mr G couldn't keep track of what was what. All he knew was that his ass was on fire and he wanted to get away (he was restrained though). It was a hard and long spanking.

It was made clear that it was nothing more than a warm-up too, if Mr G didn't make it to the gym at least 8 times over the next two weeks. We're betting the motivation to get that done is now in place!

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Peaches: Peaches had a splendid week. She lost 2.2 pounds on her diet, so it looks like she's finally crashed through her weight plateau. She has started to talk about her diet goals as if they're a foregone conclusion, which they soon will be. Compliments have been pouring in, she feels great, looks great... couldn't be doing better!

That's not the best news though. This week, El Domino and Peaches celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary. Congratulations to them both! Not sure how Peaches has managed to be married for 30 years either. We were thinking she was maybe 35 years old! :smile:

Peaches got a stunning ring and a lovely gown. El Domino also read her a 19th century vow, which filled the room with tears. Should note that the vow included the "obey" part. Don't think it said "or else" though... lol.

Peaches also got a new paddle. It's made of birdseye maple, and is a little larger than their other paddles. We can personally vouch for the effectiveness of El Domino's paddles too. Suzy's spanking yesterday included a session with a paddle El Domino sent us, and Suzy says... ouch!

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Michelle (from Brat Out Of Control): Michelle had an awesome week. She was real focused on diet and exercise, and everything in her week was smooth sailing. She posted a big loss at the scale, and boyfriend MG was super-super proud. Michelle earned any reward she wanted. Her choice? A spanking, of course! An erotic good girl one.

Michelle told us that she's *really* struggling this week though. There has been some life stresses this week, and that has gotten Michelle into an emotional state. She says she's a lot like Suzy in that she doesn't usually do real well when her guy is away. And unfortunately he's had to be away quite a bit this week.

Thing is, MG doesn't want to spank for being "too emotional." He strongly feels that it's something that Michelle can't control. It's just who she is. He makes a strong point.

However, when Michelle gets to feeling real emotional... she tends to overeat. Many of us can relate to that. So far this week, she's been eating a lot and she's worried that she'll lose all the progress she made last week.

While Michelle might or might not be able to control being so emotional... she certainly can control ~what she does~ when she's emotional. Overeating is a big no-no. It's not only unhealthy, but it sets Michelle up for getting depressed (for failing at the diet). So, we really do hope Michelle gets her bottom spanked for the overeating... and that it happens real soon!

Either way though, Michelle isn't going to give up on her healthy lifestyle goals and we know she'll get there!

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Lori (from Switching Gears): Lori has basically been off her diet for the last few weeks. She lost her kitchen to a major remodeling job, and thus the ability to cook meals. Then she hurt her back in a big way. Lori is feeling a lot better now though, and the kitchen is back in order. So, this week she got back into the diet swing... literally!

The week started with a 'back on track' spanking. Basically a spanking for the 4.8 pounds Lori gained during her break, and spanking to let her know it was time to again focus on healthy eating and exercise. Hubby Joe made it very clear during the spanking that he expected snacking to be reasonable and healthy.

A couple of days later Lori had candy bar and a bag of chips. It's not that she wasn't listening. She knew what was expected, and that chips and candy were more than a little naughty. She also knew that Joe would be busy with his knew Wii. Well, she *thought* she knew that... because Joe actually did ask how snacking had gone. It's like a 6th spanker sense or something!

Lori told the truth (good girl), and she got herself a hard spanking... with the belt, the stinger, the bathbrush and the cane... for her misdeed. How did her bottom do? Well, she got to play the new Wii standing up that evening!

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Jean: Jean has fallen into a little bit of a pattern here lately. She'll be a really good girl day after day, she'll do all her diabetic testing, she'll eat every 3 to 4 hours and she will make good food choices. But then, about once a week... she'll have an overly naughty day.

That's the way it went this week. She was sailing along perfectly, until mid-week. At church, she decided to have two cookies. Jean is absolutely not allowed to eat cookies unless she has gotten permission to do so. Failure to follow that simple rule earns her bottom an immediate punishment. Yet, despite that... and despite the fact that there were several other allowed snacks to pick from at church... Jean decided to eat a couple of cookies anyway.

Then when she got home, she thought she'd left her diabetic testing kit at church. Instead of turning around and getting it... she sat down and ate 3 Girl Scout cookies! Of course, she knew she couldn't test either.

Turns out she did bring her testing kit home, and had just misplaced it. But she'd already missed tests by the time she found it and she'd already made the decision to not turn right back around and get it. Plus there were the cookies... which just screams SPANK ME.

So, Jean has earned some very serious punishment for her naughty day. She's also been told that if cookies are an issue between now and the time we next meet... she will be given an entire separate spanking for it (ie, not just adding to the long spanking she's already earned).

Thus far that motivation has worked. She had a chance to eat some cookies a few days later, and she made the wise decision to pass. We hope she can keep it up. We also hope Jean can figure out how to have 7 good girl days in a week... and not just 6!

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Jessica & Dan: Jess had a tough week. On Saturday, she did an 8 mile run. EIGHT MILES. We get tired just typing that... lol.

After a run like that, it would seem a loss is guaranteed. Especially since Jess had been doing pretty good with her diet.

But, on Sunday when she weighed herself... the scale showed a 6.5 gain. Not an April Fools joke either. That sort of gain just doesn't seem possible. It put Jess in a tailspin. She was stressed for the next two days, and started to panic when the scale wasn't moving.

Dan stepped in and told Jess that she was no longer allowed to weigh herself. That she was doing good, and that she just needed to keep at it and everything would work out. Jess has very much gotten into the habit of checking her weight at least once a day though... and she didn't listen.

As you might guess, that's not exactly a good idea for Jess (or her bottom). She got spanked for not listening to the new rule. And, she just told us that Dan asked her today if she'd weighed herself since that last spanking... and she admitted that she had. So, another spanking is on the way.

Two spankings for not listening... zero for the weight gain. We're thinking it's time to hide that scale!

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Pat & Karen: We'd like to warmly welcome Pat and Karen to the Diet Group. We're really excited to have them join, and we think many will find their journey an interesting one. Pat and Karen are a married couple. They're still somewhat new to spanking, and this will be their first step in using DD in their relationship. The spin is, Pat is in the military and he is currently in Iraq. He'll be there until the end of the year. So, this is long distance for now. Real long distance!

Karen is already in Weight Watchers and she's following the diet plan they use. That's a great idea, because not only is it a solid plan... but they have a great scale. If she gains weight in a week, she'll have to self spank. Corner time and writing lines are other options they'll explore. When there is a loss, there will be a reward. Karen is making a wish list... sexy, kinky and vanilla... of things she'd like.

Of course, things will change when Pat gets back home. But for now, they really want to get started. Karen is busy at home with 4 kids, and of course has lots of stress with her hubby off in harms way. It's been easy for food decisions to drift back on the list of priorities. This is a way to bring diet back into focus.

She's already off to a good start too. She's lost a little over 10 pounds. Big congrats! It is getting harder now, and she really thinks the Spanking Diet will help. If only the members of her WW group knew what she was up too... lol.

We have lots of friends that are long distance for one reason or another, and we're really happy that Pat and Karen have decided to join the group and share. We think it will be a big help to other long distance couples. We're looking forward to sharing this journey with them too. Welcome and good luck!

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We hope everyone enjoyed April Fools day and that we get lots of good news next week!

If you're interested in the Diet Group here... if you have questions, or might like to join... please just drop us an Email at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com. We blog about this because we like talking to people that share our desire to get healthier and are willing to consider using spanking to help motivate the effort. So, please don't be shy!

Todd is home, and all of a sudden Suzy is a good girl again.

2008-03-31T13:06:00.000-07:00

In one of Suzy's weekend posts, she mentioned the message she'd found in a fortune cookie. She must have grabbed the wrong cookie though. Here is a more accurate look into her future.

I did indeed give Suzy a spanking the night before I left for California. She'd gotten way too emotional about my trip, and when she does that... she stops thinking logically and that causes her to worry about petty crazy things. Things like how maybe since I'm originally from California, maybe I'll get there and decide I want to stay.

Suzy knows this is silly, of course. But sometimes her emotional side takes complete control of her logical side. That makes her unhappy and usually the best way to snap her out of it is a hard spanking with a healthy dose of scolding. That was the case on Thursday night and that's why Suzy got a spanking.

I think it mostly worked too. Suzy had fun this weekend and didn't let her emotional side cause her needless stress. She also did a great job with her posts. So, some very nice good girl deeds there.

As you surely read though, Suzy was a bit of a brat too. Here's a little rundown of her misdeeds:

~ Diet. - Suzy was pretty naughty about going out to restaurants and making some of her food choices. But she wasn't overly ridiculous about it. No matter what though, it all comes down to what the scale says. If Suzy can be the same or down... and she's working now to make that happen... her bottom will be safe. If she gains, she'll be getting a hard discipline spanking. In short, she'll get whatever she earns.

~ Putting $15 in the gas tank. - Suzy knows to fill up the tank when she gets gas. She has a bad habit of just getting $10 worth... which with the price of gas these days, means gas will be needed again in a day or two. Of course, I'll be the one needing to get it, it will be late at night and it will be hard to find an open station. She knows that if that happens, she'll get her butt spanked.

Thing is, when she picked me up at the airport... the tank was close to full. Imagine that! So, given that... her bottom is safe as far as gas goes (hmmm... lol, that could mean something else, couldn't it?).

~ Drinking wine coolers. - Suzy can drink whatever she wants, whenever she likes. The only rule there is, she's responsible for whatever she does. "I was drinking" isn't any kind of acceptable excuse. It's never been any sort of an issue though, so there is no spanking for having some wine coolers while I was gone.

~ Suzy calling my room. - If Suzy had it her way, she'd have called me 10+ times a day. That wasn't going to work because not only was I busy during the day... but, it's what Suzy does when she's using her 'emotional thinking.' Instead of just moving past silly paranoid thoughts... like maybe Todd was in a car crash... she'll act on them (and call to make sure I'm okay).

So, the rule was... no calling, unless it was an emergency. I'd call her every night "around 9:00pm PST" and she could Email whenever she liked. It was a short trip and she agreed (with her logical thinking) that it made sense to handle it that way.

She did pretty good too, except for one slip up. By the time I called her at 9:23pm... which is "around 9pm"... she'd already called twice. She told me that she thought that I might have "forgotten." Suzy is the one that forgot though and she'll be getting a little something to help her remember to follow the agreement next time.

~ The Post Office. Our friend Lee, from Paddle Master Products, sent us an awesome package through the mail. It was supposed to arrive on either Thursday or Friday and I told Suzy to be "sure" and pick it up before I got back. She agreed.

Suzy knew the package arrived on Thursday, but she says she got busy running around town and didn't get a chance pick it up on Friday like she'd planned. That was fine, because I didn't say to be "sure and pick it up on Friday." I'd just said to be "sure and pick it up before I get home."

The problem for Suzy came on Saturday. Suzy blames her mother for giving her incorrect information... telling her the post office closed at 1:00pm. When Suzy got there at 12:30 though, she found out her mom was wrong. It closed at Noon.

Now, I love Suzy's mother. She is a wonderful woman with a warm and giving heart. She's also a very smart person. But, she just isn't a person to trust when it comes to certain details. Details such as... when the post office closes. She is always-always getting stuff like that wrong. Part of it is no doubt her age. The post office probably did close at 1pm back in 1982, lol. She just didn't note the change or doesn't recall it when asked.

Suzy knows this too. Knows it better than I do. So her excuse is more than a little flimsy. Plus, given that I told her to be "sure"... she shouldn't have cut it so close. Suzy realized if anything went wrong, she wasn't going to be able to pick up the package. Something went wrong, and now Suzy will have to pay for it. Luckily, we now have Lee's package... which will be perfect for this debt (and we'll be sure to share what we got from Lee real soon too).

~ Not picking up around the house. ~ The house was spotless when I got home! So, no spanking for that.

All in all, Suzy wasn't near as bratty as she could have been. I think she started off on that path, but then as my return neared... she put on her good girl hat. There is just the issues of the phone calls and not picking up the package... and then there is also the matter of a certain *very* naughty word she used in chat. Used in chat when talking about me, no less (this was in a chat with Jean).

Those three things have earned Suzy a spanking. She'll be getting that tonight. How hard and how long will it be? Well, since Suzy is reading... I won't say for now. Suzy can share how it goes later in the week though.

She's also responsible for what the scale says Tuesday morning. That's a separate issue and will be a second spanking if she's up. No mystery there either as far as what kind of spanking that would be either. Given how naughty she was with going out to eat, it will be as hard as she gets if it's earned.

Roundtable Wrap-up

2008-03-30T23:34:00.000-07:00

Have you ever had an implement break during a spanking? If so, what was it? Did it change the mood of the spanking? Have you passed on buying an implement because you thought it would break?

First of all, Todd is home safe and sound. He had to get up at 4am to start his trip, and then didn't get home until 9pm. So it was a long day of traveling. How things went once he got home will be shared in more detail on Monday. ;)

Back to the Roundtable. Suzy shared how we had a paddle of ours break this week. That got us wondering how many other spankos have had this happen to them. Lots of responses, and we do appreciate each of you for taking the time. Here are the results of the Quick Response Poll.

Have you ever had an implement break during a spanking?
Nope, never. ~ 30%
Yes, one time. ~ 30%
Yes, two times. ~ 9%
Yes, three times. ~ 13%
Yes, 4 or more times. ~ 17%

More than 2 out of 3 have had an implement break during a spanking. So, it looks like more than just a bare bottom is at risk during a spanking!

Here are this week's comments. Some fun and interesting experiences here. A special thanks to everyone that took the extra time to share.

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Amber Pixie Wells said: Yes! I've had a paddle, spoon, cane, and a couple of hairbrushes meet their demise while spanking my bottom. I tend to be a bit shocked, a bit proud, and very pleased. My joy and little victory dance tend to be short lived though as usually the spanker will grab another, potentially worse implement to finish the job!

~It's hard to believe your tender bottom could break everything... but it sure does have a long list of casualties behind it! You're right too, a spanker always does seem to have something else at hand to spank with when needed.~

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David 007 said: There was one time that an oversized paddle broke off at the handle. We both kinda knew it would break before it happened. ;-)

In general, when an implement breaks, you always pause for a moment to make sure it hasn't spoiled the mood or injured the spankee. I've found that by and large it does neither. The spankees usually get coy and say "well what are you gonna do NOW, Sir?" As Pixie said, we find another implement and get back to work. ;-)

~A broken paddle does change the mood for at least a moment. There is the shock of... 'did that really just break'... followed by, like you say, making sure everyone is okay. But, it easy enough to get back into the 'swing' of things.~

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Chloe Elise said: As luck would have it, it's been the most painful implements that have been broken on my bottom. During a shoot once, it was this "blisterizer" strap-- a narrow leather strip with big holes. It hurt soooooooo bad, I was relieved to move on, even if it was to another implement. At first I didn't know what was going on, but then the spanker put the strap in front of the camera and said something witty and I laughed. Which of course was followed by a "you think this is funny" and another hard strapping, which wiped that smile off my face.

Other implements infamous for breaking on my ass are wooden cooking spoons, especially the slotted ones. We've stopped buying them because they don't last long. (((Whew!)))

~You can't giggle at breaking a spanking implement! You must show great sadness at such a tragedy... especially it it's a "most painful" implement. ::smile::~

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Lori said: Chloe, I saw one of Dallas's straps break on you. I laughed so hard.

I have broken a paddle, spatula, & a hard plastic cane. I wish I'd break the bath brush!

~You wish the bathbrush would break on your bottom... hmmm... sounds like that's maybe worth trying to make happen for you!~

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Jessica said: We have been doing this such a short time you wouldn't think we had time to break anything. As it turns out, I am not only hard headed, but hard on the other end as well. Dan broke a hairbrush on me. I was then ordered to replace it. I had the humiliating and titillating assignment to pick out an implement to beat my bottom.

I wrapped it nicely in a gift bag with a bow! :-)
-Jess

~Seems like hairbrushes are an easy one to break. Like the idea of having the spankee pick out a new implement though!~

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Mr G said: Mrs G has had so many implements break over my bottom that I have lost count. Homemade wooden paddles that snapped at the handle, ping pong paddles, dowel rods, mini-blind rods, bamboo shoots, and who knows what all. It's never been a big deal, since she usually has a whole arsenal at her disposal when I am getting spanked and she switches between them regularly anyhow. She just lays the broken one aside and continues as if nothing has happened.

~lol... not sure we want it to become that common place for us. Would have to budget for new paddles.~

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Hermione said: Ron broke a bamboo cane with a shoehorn on the end. He was trying to spank me with the shoehorn part and it snapped off. I laughed and got a few hard hand spanks. The next time he used it as a cane, across both cheeks at once. Ouch!

He has also broken a wooden spoon by leaving it on the bed after he was finished with it, then sitting on it later. I made the mistake of laughing that time too.

~Now when a spanker breaks an implement by sitting on it... well, lol... that is funny!~

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New Beginnings said: Nick has broken a few items over my butt. I always think "score one for me!" and I find it very funny. But since 'he' broke 'my' toy he has agreed to buy me another one! I think we are going to Leatherthorn! I can't wait for my new toy!

~If it breaks on your butt, and the spanking was being given to you for being naughty... how exactly did Nick break it? We say Nick is totally innocent! Luckily though, it's all good and you'll soon have a new toy.~

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Southern Angel said: Hi Todd and Suzy,
We have had at least one paddle break but not the one I expected. I always thought we would break on of our very thin, CB style paddles but those are all intact. We broke a large, school style wooden paddle with holes. I can't say I was sad to see it go but JD bought an even worse one to replace it. :(

~Wow, must of have been the holes that caused it to break. That or your bottom has steel plate in it or something... lol. You're right though, when something breaks... it's replacement tends to be something that is less likely to break (and thus harsher).~

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Suzy Says: Yes, I have had an implement during a spanking! You know what it is, because I shared a picture of it yesterday.

Did it change the mood? If me getting an even longer spanking counts as a "mood changed".. than YES, it did change the mood!

As for passing on buying a new implement because it might break, no I've never done that. I always pass on buying a new implement for a more basic reason. If I don't buy it, I can't be spanked with it!

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Todd Says: I've had several implements break or fall apart in my hands over the years. Ping Pong paddles are pretty easy to break, probably because they're made it hit a tiny plastic ball and not a naughty bare bottom. Same with the paddle-ball paddles (the ones with the string and red ball).

Hairbrushes too... the plastic kind. Those fall apart because they are made, in part, with glue that separates. No idea what the actually count is on implements like that, because I've never thought twice about it. It's more of a... 'well of course it broke.'

The paddle we broke this last week though, that was a surprise. It was made just for spanking, and it was well made... or seemingly so. We talked with the designer, and he figured out what the flaw was. But it was certainly a shock when it snapped in two!

Two Men, 1 Female Bottom, and a Broken Paddle...

2008-03-29T11:51:00.000-07:00

Sounds like a movie doesn't it..... can I nominate my butt for an academy award?

You know nothing sounds better to my ears than two men discussing my behind...
but sometimes one gets more than they bargained for :)

Last weekend, I was supposed to write a post for the blog.. I still plan to do this post.. but just kinda fell out of the mood and didn't do it when scheduled. Since I had basically requested Todd not do one so that I could, this ended up earning me a spanking...

I have this very wonderful spanker friend David who I've had the awesome pleasure of being spanked by before and he and I chat online pretty regularly. When I told him of my upcoming spanking, he seemed very interested and I asked him if he'd like to listen in on it.. he agreed. I'm thinking this will be fun to have David there and maybe Todd will show some leniency since someone else was listening.

Man, was I wrong!

It started out with a small hand spanking.. but then he got right to the nitty griddy and brought out the paddles. I, of course, resisted both physically and verbally and ended up hearing replies like ....

"Suzy, are you telling me how to spank?"

WHACK..WHACK..WHACK

"Suzy, did you write the post like you were supposed to?"

WHACK WHACK WHACK

"Suzy, I'm going to have to start over since you keep putting your hand back here"

WHACK WHACK

"Did you say NO to me?"

WHACK WHACK

Then.. as if that wasn't enough, sore bottomed me opened my naughty mouth and said "Shit" after one very hard THWACK on my behind.

BIG MISTAKE.. next I hear the awful words...

"David, did Suzy just use foul language?" To which David quickly (rather too quickly if you ask me) agreed that I had.

WHACK WHACK WHACK...10 HARD SPANKS for that.. then that opened up a real can of whoop ass on my butt.. cause the next thing I hear is Todd asking David if I've been using other foul language recently. I am going back over in my head all the conversations I've had with him and knowing that I have played around from time to time cursing 'for effect' so to speak and feeling that might come back to haunt me now.

Well I was right because then I hear David reply "Yes Todd, Suzy has used foul language. I believe she said the F word a time or two"

"Oh she has has she?" I hear Todd exclaim with that 'oh you are gonna pay for this young lady' tone.

WHACK...WHACK..WHACK....20 spanks for that one and none of them were easy. I was trying SO hard not to cry.. burying my head in the pillow in fact. But then I was instructed to count and state "I will not use foul language" after each spank and when they (yes 2 monitors to make sure I follow directions) couldn't hear me well, I got spanked AGAIN!

Now my bottom is burning throughout, I can feel tingling sensations everywhere, but I took it like a good girl and made it to the end (so I thought). I even eventually quit making the sarcastic remarks that had added a good 30 spanks at least to my bottom.

Then when I thought it was all over.. Todd announces that I broke the paddle.. now technically wouldn't it have been HIM who broke it? Well that kind of thinking when said aloud only serves to get a new paddle brought out and quickly used to set that theory aside. So after I got spanked for breaking the paddle (still shaking my head on that one)... I got a nice lotion rub while Todd and David and I discussed my spanking.

It was a very hard and long spanking and certainly got the points across that they both wanted to make, but having two very dominant and sexy men there made it also quite erotic for me. Definitely an enjoyable experience and I'd love to have David there (physically or on the phone) for any other spankings I'm to receive. :)